Make people like you as soon as you open your mouth (middle)

Today, I will interpret for you the book "The so-called high emotional intelligence is to be able to speak".

Day2: Enhance the "value of words" and stabilize the leadership

Yesterday, we shared how to easily get colleagues in the workplace. Mainly from two aspects, talking about how to speak skillfully, you can easily reject others and skillfully persuade others.

First of all, when rejecting a colleague, we should not directly say the words of rejection. You can speculate about the psychology of the other party, through hints, use more in line with the interests of the other party, and say the words of rejection beautifully to achieve the purpose of rejection.

In this way, we can easily reject others, but also do not create contradictions for no reason, and create a workplace relationship that makes us comfortable.

Secondly, when we have to criticize our colleagues, we can't go straight to the point of accusation, but we can turn criticism into exhortation through some rhetorical tricks.

When criticism becomes exhortation, we can also self-criticize ourselves first, so that when we criticize the other party later, it becomes a natural thing.

At this time, we will then say the words of criticism in a way that can bring benefits to the other party and think more about the other party. Criticism will not affect colleagues in the slightest, and will make the other party appreciate your guidance.

Doing so not only allows us to become comfortable in interpersonal communication in the workplace, but also helps to create a perfect workplace image.

Today, I will take you to learn together, in the workplace life, how to do, you can use three steps to steadily get the leader, get appreciation, let you on the road to promotion and salary increase, speed up and then speed up.

2. Be good at reporting and be guided a lot

As a professional, we inevitably have some contact with leaders at work. Usually, leaders are not only our superiors, but also our predecessors in our work.

Whether it is work experience or interpersonal relationships, if we can be more pointed out by the leader, there will definitely be fewer detours in the workplace.

Just like a person practicing martial arts, if he can always find an opportunity to get the guidance of the jianghu master, then he will definitely be able to increase his martial power value faster. At the same time, it also creates many invisible advantages for themselves to walk in the future.

Therefore, those who are successful in the workplace must be a person who is good at reporting work.

Imagine if you are good at reporting work, you can let the leader give you specific guidance in the details of the work, so that it is easier to grow and it is easy to establish a relationship of trust between the leader and you.

So how can we skillfully report on the work, put words into the hearts of the leaders, and make the leaders satisfied with our performance?

First of all, we must understand that leaders like subordinates to report more to themselves.

Many times, we are always worried that if we go to report on our work, will the leader feel that he is in trouble? In fact, as our leader, even if he is busy, he still hopes to grasp the working status of each subordinate.

But will the leader chase after you every day and ask you to report back? The answer is obvious, definitely not. So, this requires us to be more proactive ourselves.

Psychologically, there is a pure contact effect, which shows that just by increasing the number of contacts can increase favorability, which has been confirmed by experiments.

That is to say, as long as we increase the number of contacts with leaders, it will help to increase the leader's favorability for us.

Therefore, we must report more and ask for instructions, so that leaders can understand our work status, know our work problems, and understand our efforts to make progress.

Second, the report should start from the main points and be simply and bluntly expressed. This is actually very easy to understand, although the leader likes us to report on the work, but must not like us Rory bar, no organization, no focus.

Leaders spend time listening to us report on the work, on the one hand, they want to understand the specific progress of the work, so as to facilitate the overall control of the development of things.

On the other hand, through our reports, we secretly observe our abilities, work status, and so on.

In terms of active reporting work, my friend Xiaoyu has done a particularly good job.

At work, Xiaoyu is responsible for the project, once he encounters some difficulties, he will take the initiative to report to the leader, hoping that the leader can give him some guidance.

When specifically reporting on the work, Xiaoyu will first talk about the dilemma itself, "Leader, the work I am responsible for so-and-so at hand, now encounters such a difficulty...

In this way, it is not only convenient for the leader to quickly grasp the key problems and find solutions, but also to let Xiaoyu leave a good impression on the leader, understand the priorities and subordinates, and know how to grasp the key points.

This is particularly important in the workplace.

3. Be careful in your words and deeds, and be favored a lot

When we are guided by the leader many times, on the one hand, the guidance of the leader will help us grow rapidly in our work.

On the other hand, we will also establish a relationship of mutual trust with the leader in one time.

Next, if we want to further improve ourselves, we must find a way to gain more favor from leaders. So how do you do that? The key is to be careful in what you say and do.

At this time, it is particularly important to master the skills of speaking to leaders.

We can adopt a "you must" phrase to make the leader feel that in our eyes, he is special and unique.

For example, we completed the previous work and received positive feedback from the leader.

At this time, if we answer: "Thank you for the affirmation of the leader." "It will appear that the strength is not enough to attract further attention from the leadership."

Usually, Xiaoyu said to the leader: "Thank you, it is because of you, at the critical moment, gave me important guidance, I can successfully complete it." ”

Doesn't such a thank you sound particularly appropriate? The leader will not misunderstand xiaoyu as perfunctory flattery, but feel that Xiaoyu is grateful to him from the bottom of his heart.

The advantage of this is that the leader can know that Xiaoyu is trying to learn from him with an open and cautious attitude and the mentality of asking for advice from his predecessors.

In this way, the leader can see Xiaoyu's efforts and get his favor, so as to further guide Xiaoyu at key nodes.

Imagine a subordinate who works hard and knows gratitude, what leader would not like it? Then, Xiaoyu was more favored by the leaders, and it became a natural thing.

4. Learn to praise and be paid more attention

If we can do the first two points well, if we can master the third step, then a promotion and salary increase are just around the corner. This step is to learn to praise.

Sometimes, we are afraid to say praise for others, because we are afraid of saying bad things and making people feel that they are slapping their backs and flattering.

Think about it, are you also afraid to praise others because of this?

In fact, as long as the right wording techniques are used, the right words, and the right person is met at the right time, then the praise will become very advanced, effectively pulling social distancing and achieving unexpected results.

In fact, praise is a torch in the dark night sky, which can not only illuminate the lives of others, but also illuminate your own heart.

Proper praise allows us to discover the strengths of others and to bring each other closer.

So what kind of praise can help us win the favor of our leaders?

Usually, in an industry, our leaders are the predecessors and leaders in this field, and the most likely leaders have encountered similar problems. At this time, the leader will use his own example to tell us some ways to break through the bottleneck.

At this time, we can praise the leadership in a timely and targeted manner, and we can further narrow the distance between us and the leader.

Having figured this out, Xiaoyu, who has a high emotional intelligence, will say this: "Oh my God, then you will be able to solve such a big problem independently, it is really excellent!" ”

First of all, Xiaoyu used the "Oh My God" to express his exclamation, simply and quickly expressing his inner amazement. Simple two words can attract the attention of the leader at once, and at the same time, Xiaoyu's surprise can properly express his inner admiration.

Then, Xiaoyu used a direct statement to put the praise in practice, and praised the specific work of the leader from the heart.

Such a statement can make the leader naturally understand that it is his outstanding performance that makes Xiaoyu have such a specific praise.

In this way, the praise will not seem empty, and with this specific example, the leader will feel that your praise is heartfelt, not a false compliment. At the same time, it can also make the leader feel a sense of pride and a happy mood.

Finally, again in a tone of exclamation, "It's so good! ", directly named the excellent of the leader. In this way, the leader will definitely be deeply impressed by Xiaoyu, and it will be just around the corner to get the weight of the leader.

5. Knowledge Review:

At this point, today's content is almost finished, let's review it together:

In fact, if you want to get the leader steadily, let your road to promotion and salary increase go flatter than others, you only need to learn three tricks.

First of all, we must be good at reporting to leaders. It is necessary to report clearly to the leader in a logical, focused, and hierarchical manner, such as their own progress in work, problems, and so on. It left the impression of a clear mind and a sense of priorities.

Next, we must learn to be careful in our words and deeds. At this time, we must master the small skills of talking to the leader, so that we can give ourselves more points. We want the leader to clearly know that in your heart, he is unique, and you cherish and appreciate the guidance of the leader.

Finally, we must learn to seize the right moment, use the right wording techniques, and accurately praise the leader. Make your compliments sound sincere and advanced. Thus gaining more attention from the leadership.

At this time, we can use some words to express surprise, so that the leader can feel your praise. Also place praise on concrete examples to make our praise seem real and advanced.