The child's birth parents watched him grow up little by little, from waddling and learning to speak, to walking more and more steadily, more and more words to speak, and the child's every step depends on the parents.
Their growth and dependence on parents also think that natural, suddenly one day the child really wants to be independent, parents can not help but be a little lost, because they are dependent, take care of them has become accustomed.
Although one day he will have to face something independently, to try it himself, parents do more for their children out of instinctive love. And children have also developed a habit, no opportunity to try, under the thoughtful protection of parents and mothers, it is difficult to grow up. On the road to growth, even if there will be a thousand ways to be uneasy and unwilling, we must know how to let go at the right time, so as to complete the growth of children.
In one episode of Animal World, the kitten learns to fly under the guidance of the eagle's mother, and at first the eaglet only flashes its wings in place and does not dare to fly. Seeing this, the mother eagle directly drove the eaglet out of the nest, and the eaglet fell on the cliff and was about to hit the stone. Suddenly it opened its wings and flapped hard and repeatedly, and finally found the feeling of flying, no longer falling, and slowly flew up.
At this time, the eagle mother shed tears of relief, didn't the mother feel sorry for her child? It must be painful, but in order to let it learn to "fly alone", it is always necessary to force it to try. If you are afraid of being hurt, protect it in the nest, the mother eagle can feed and drink, but once the danger comes, the mother eagle can not replace the eaglet flying.
Sometimes letting go is great love, the same is true for raising children, parents protect their children under the "wings", he will never fly. Wait until one day facing danger, there is no ability to be independent, can not protect themselves, can only go with nature.
Parents let go at the right time is the best fulfillment of their children's growth
1. Let go and give your child the opportunity to try
Parents take the child's small age as the reason, in the name of love, everything is arranged for him, and the child should have done everything. Poor hands-on ability, can not be independent, once left the care of parents, children do not even have basic self-care ability, life common sense does not understand, extremely unfavorable to growth.
Believe that the child himself should be able to do things well, let go of the opportunity to give him the opportunity to try, and reduce the dependence on his parents. Even if you are wrong or do not do it satisfactorily, after trying to exercise your hands-on ability and learn to think, you will always have more and more experience and get better and better.
2, let go, give children room to grow
The older the child, the stronger the sense of autonomy, only by exercising his own things to make his own decisions, giving the child time and space, he can gradually become an assertive person.
If parents are worried that their children will take a detour and make decisions for him, the child's autonomy will be deprived, and he will not know where to think when encountering things, and it will be difficult to grow without opinion. In the future, when entering the society, it is even more difficult to start in the face of fierce competition.
3. Let go and give your child the opportunity to choose
Growing up, there will be many choices, from children buying toys, buying clothes to choose colors, and large children choosing how to deal with one thing and so on.
Parents often think that their children are worried about improper choices, and they are from the perspective of self-knowledge instead of their children's choices. Make children have no autonomy, get used to parents instead of doing things, affect values, and grow up will not know how to be responsible for their own choices. Giving children the opportunity to make choices, even if they are wrong, is a kind of growth and experience.
4. Let go and let the child face it
Children's social circle is very simple, teachers or children in kindergartens or schools, even such children with different personalities will inevitably have friction in getting along.
Whether playing in school or in a public place, when encountering friction or conflict, parents should guide their children to face it and find a way to solve it by themselves. If the father and mother come forward to coordinate when they encounter problems, the child will not experience the process of solving the problem, nor will it improve the ability to interact with people.
Letting go is the highest state of education
Raising children is inevitable, otherwise children will not learn to be independent, cannot grow better, and it is difficult to become a better self. However, the child's right and wrong views and judgment are not fully mature, and parents do not let go of their own hands, but to help him control the general direction.
Encourage him when he fails, give him the necessary guidance when he is confused, give the child enough love and security, and give him the space and freedom to show himself. In this way, he can soar freely in the vast world and grow up healthy and happy,
Every child is a unique seed, and the family and parents can provide him with suitable fertile soil to water, but it is not a substitute for growth.
Pillow Parenting Message:
Parents know how to let go, even if the child will fall and fail, it is also a process of reflection and tempering, and it is a rare opportunity for growth. Letting go is to cultivate children's ability to be independent and autonomous, develop a correct view of right and wrong, and lay a good foundation for entering society.
Let go and not let go, the child can have more room for growth and see more, otherwise his space is the family, and his pattern is the vision of the parents. Children should have their own unique lives, not be attached to their parents.
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