I'm sorry, kid, Daddy isn't capable... (In-depth good article)

There is a saying in the Book of Verses: "The Father gives birth to me, the mother bows to me, caresses me, nurtures me, and takes care of me." ”

In this world, there is only one kind of love that does not presuppose returns, and is not consumed by distance and years.

That is the love of parents for their children.

However, there is a kind of heartache in parenthood, which is called even if you try your best, but still full of guilt.

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When we were young, parents were in the hearts of children, it was heaven, and parents were like two mountains, standing there to make us feel safe in our hearts.

But I don't know when these two mountains were no longer majestic, and they became cautious in front of us, and they did not dare to ask many things, and they no longer dared to say loudly.

When I was a child, I couldn't write homework, and my parents would be very angry and say, "This won't work, why did you go to class?" ”

And now it's the other way around.

When our parents ask us repeatedly about a very simple matter, we are always impatient: "How many times have you told you, why not?" ”

And they just carefully accompanied the smiling faces, or sad or silently stopped saying anything, and they began to become more and more silent.

A very popular TV series "Happy Family" in a clip, watching a lot of people cry.

After the son got married, he wanted to break off relations with his family, and he said with a straight face: "I relied on my own efforts to get today's results!" ”

This son is a doctor, and many people in the hospital are worse than him, but those people can rely on their parents to make steady progress, and his father is just a boss who sells noodles.

The son angrily scolded his father, and would only ask if he was hungry every day, but he could not pull himself in his career.

After hearing his son's accusation, the father cried with guilt, and he bowed to his son with white hair: "I'm sorry, I don't have the ability to let you be wronged." ”

Instead of accusing his son of filial piety, the father felt guilty of his incompetence.

This scene, watching it is sad, but also the epitome of many families now, hard work to pull the big children, complaining that parents have no ability, can not let themselves soar.

There are only a few parents who are dressed in fine clothes, and in the whole world, more are ordinary parents, doing ordinary work, but they give everything they have for the sake of their children's mouths and clothes.

In fact, it is not that the parents are incompetent, but that the parents' little ability is all given to the child.

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An interview was done online, inviting six pairs of parents and children. First ask parents a question: "If your child has cancer, how much would you like to spend on your child?" ”

Although it is only a hypothesis, several mothers can't stop crying when they think of that scene: "No matter how much it costs, it doesn't matter what you want to change, take it from me", "Sell the house and sell the land, pick up the waste I have to treat him", "You can exchange my life for it"...

The reporter also asked: "If you have cancer yourself, how much are you willing to spend on treatment?" In the face of this problem, parents do not hesitate: "I don't know, sooner or later I have to go", "Don't cause trouble to my children", "I can't let my children suffer from this"...

Parents always use their own grievances and sacrifices to complete their children's poetry and distances. But this kind of informed and understanding parents is extremely painful.

In the book "Dear Andrei", there is a sentence: "The so-called parents are the people who are constantly happy and sad at your back, wanting to recover the hug but dare not speak." ”

The love of parents for their children is always full of forbearance and introversion. Even if you miss it more, you don't want to disturb it easily; even if your ability is limited, you don't want to be too involved.

There is no one in this world who can love their children like life like a parent.

Stop complaining about your parents' abilities, parents are the only ones who are willing to exchange their lives for your well-being.

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Parents are the source of our lives, kindness first, filial piety, providing for parents, even if it is only for one day, life will have incredible changes.

Filial piety comes first, and filial piety will also be protected by heaven and earth, so changing one's life begins with filial piety to one's parents.

4 ways to be filial to your parents:

1. Make parents feel useful

The process of our growing up is the process of weakening the role of our parents.

When people are old, what they are most afraid of is not loneliness, but that they feel useless.

So, we sometimes have to "ask" our parents to do a little bit of things for us, not to consume the parents, not to use the parents as "nannies" with children, but to let them get a useful sense of value.

A hundred filial pieties are not as good as a smooth, and a hundred smooth is not as good as a use.

The best filial piety to their parents is to make them feel needed and arrange some small things for their parents to do.

Receiving care from parents;

Ask your parents to cook the dishes you like to eat;

Ask your parents to make you some hometown flavor;

Ask parents to make clothes for their babies;

Give out a little "puzzle" for parents to solve;

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2. Companionship is the longest confession of affection

Once, the media did two surveys about the elderly.

One is: What are you most worried about during the Chinese New Year's Festival? The first answer is: worry that your children will not be able to return home for the New Year.

The other is: What is the sentence you are most afraid to hear during the New Year's Holiday? The first answer was: I can't go home on holidays.

Two questions, one answer.

For parents, the best gift is not money and material things, but companionship, often home to see.

Spend major holidays with your parents as much as possible;

Often bring home lovers and children;

Birthdays for parents;

Personally cook for parents;

Make a weekly call to your parents;

Celebrating wedding anniversaries for parents;

3. Live your own life

Do you know? In all the decisions we make, that end is connected to the hearts of our parents.

Therefore, the greatest love we give to our parents is to live our own lives and not let our parents worry about us.

Strive to do your job well;

Do a good job of your family relationships;

Exercise your body;

Do not cause trouble;

4. Don't give your parents a look

"Okay, I know, it's a lot of words."

"You don't have to take care of this."

"You don't understand what you said, don't ask."

"Your set is long outdated."

In front of our parents, we get angry, lose our temper, and even slam the door and leave.

But there is a passage in the Analects that reads:

Zi Xia asked filial piety, Zi Yue: Sex is difficult. There is something, the disciple obeys his labor; there is wine and food, mr. food, did he think that filial piety? ”

The hardest part of filial piety is the difficulty of sex.

Filial piety to parents remember to be pleasant, do not give them a look, do not let parents become cautious in front of us.

Smile often at your parents;

Don't yell at your parents;

Don't criticize parents for being incompetent;

Don't abandon your parents;

Don't complain that parents don't understand anything;

Don't blame your parents for being slow to act;

Maupassant said: "We love our parents almost unconsciously, because this love is as natural as human life, and only in the final moment of separation can we see how deeply this feeling is rooted." ”

Life comes and goes, and the days don't come and go. Filial piety, can not afford to wait.

May every child who leaves home and flies high can learn to turn around and let the watchful back no longer be lonely.

May every sympathetic parent be close to their children and live forever because of love. Please forward and share, Fusheng immeasurable!

Source: Poetry World

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