The division of labor in modern human family affairs still applies: male outside and female inside

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Netizens asked: Do you want to resign as a full-time wife after marriage, is it worth it?

Now the work pressure is high, the salary is not high, after marriage to have a child no one to take care of, please take care of the child, then the work will be in vain, and worry that others will not be good, do not please, they are facing a dilemma, want to listen to your advice, do you want to resign as a full-time wife, is it worth such a sacrifice?

Reply: The division of labor in modern human family affairs still applies: male outside and female inside. Because everyone faces trade-offs every day, as the core members of the natural life group, breeding offspring is still the absolute protagonist of promoting the harmonious and prosperous development of human society, and the historical status of women as the protagonists of breeding offspring has never changed. Therefore, both parties to the marriage must have a person who gives up the career, and the woman's concession is generally better. Of course, as a beneficiary, men should take on more career development tasks, and they should be more considerate of women's responsibility for abandoning their careers to serve family affairs.

Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... In the natural material world, the comprehensive survival of all living individuals must be passively adapted and actively claimed after birth.

Human beings, the community-based fetal mammals with the highest IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the strongest comprehensive growth plasticity in the natural life system, are also the only animal groups in the natural life system that have the ability to create living materials according to the needs of independent survival, and the domestication of sown plants, the taming of captive animals, and the use of natural non-living substances to process production labor and life aids are all active labor creations of human beings. Of course, humans are also the only animal group in the natural life system that has evolved into a complex system of production and labor division of labor.

Farmers grow grain, herders graze cattle and sheep, workers process and produce labor and living aids, and public officials coordinate comprehensive social security... Of course, there are many divisions of labor in human social life that do not belong to the ranks of social production labor value exchange, especially fertility and housework in the life of husband and wife. Because once men and women form a family, daily household chores, including child-rearing, cooking, family hygiene, etc., will inevitably become common affairs.

Living in the primitive jungle period, male hunting + defense against predators, women picking plant fruits + raising children + taking care of the old and young; in the manual farming and animal husbandry period, men are responsible for farming + grazing ++ defense against predators, and women are mainly engaged in textile + housework + taking care of the old and young. For a long time, the division of labor in human production has been based on the differences in physical fitness between men and women.

Female heading over family affairs remains the most sustainable solution

In 1712, a man named Thomas Nucomen (February 1664 – August 5, 1729) created the first utility steam engine to solve the rapid pumping of coal and tin mines; in 1831, shortly after Faraday discovered the phenomenon of electromagnetic induction, he used electromagnetic induction to invent the world's first generator, the Faraday disc generator; in 1886, Carl Benz built the world's first three-wheeled car, and in 1888, Mercedes-Benz produced the world's first car for sale ...... When the attached power machinery was used on a large scale to assist the productive labor of human society, the difference in physical ability between men and women engaged in productive labor was almost completely "neutralized" by the attached power mechanical tool.

There are more female teachers than male teachers, more female nurses than male nurses, more women than men in sales offices, more female textile workers than male workers, more women than men in telephone customer service... When human society enters an era of equal career opportunities for men/women, a universal social governance problem arises - in marriage and family, who should spend more time dealing with household chores?

Women run the housework? It is true that women are still the absolute protagonists of childbirth, at least there is no viable alternative to pregnancy + breastfeeding. However, the status of women in the modern human society division of labor and cooperation system is indeed getting higher and higher, especially in receiving higher education & intellectual development in some aspects has surpassed men, and as only children are taught from an early age to live independently, modern professional women are willing to accept less and less full-time wives after marriage.

Male housekeeping? Giving birth to a child + breastfeeding these two things men can not do! In modern human society, the overall achievement of men in the field of productive labor creation is still much higher than that of women, and

Stay at home with low pay for professional labor? This is obviously not true or wrong, for the daily discipline of children can be satisfied at the expense of a small amount of economic income; the wrong is that who can guarantee that the party with low professional pay today will not develop better tomorrow? Who can guarantee that the party with the highest wages today will not be laid off?

Who is responsible for housework based on academic qualifications? The party with higher education can better tutor the child's studies, but the high education also means that the party with higher education can get higher labor wages by participating in social and professional labor; the party with relatively lower education accompanies the child more, but the child's learning growth is irreversible, and it will be more difficult for parents who have not studied well to teach their children.

Ask your grandparents for help? People often say "generations away", the elderly accompany children, help cook, laundry can also be, in order to really counsel, adjust the comprehensive growth habits of children, very few grandparents can do it. Moreover, new knowledge and information in today's human society are emerging in an endless stream, and whether the accompanying thinking of the ancestors is in line with the current era is also a problem.

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Around half a year old, you can tentatively begin to dominate your body, at about 1 year old you can imitate the pronunciation of your parents to learn modern human social language, at about 3 years old you can go to kindergarten, at 6 years old you can go to elementary school, at 12 years old you go to middle school, at 18 years old you go to college... The modern family is not a matter of time and a half to accompany children to learn and grow, and it requires continuity that is almost beyond the length of any modern human social vocational work. Therefore, if one of the parties in the family must lead the child's learning and growth, it is best to choose the one with a relatively stronger principle of life. However, the benefits of the principles of life are difficult to define by standards and are difficult to discern in a short period of time. Therefore, the male protagonist and the female protagonist are still applicable under the general pattern of production and labor in modern human society.

The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.

The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.

Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.