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Netizens asked: I can't control myself to always scold my children, what should I do?
Re: The most commonly used and sincerely accepted method of conquest by natural life: force. Because the sense of physical pain is more effective than any form of verbal preaching. Therefore, in order to discipline children to learn and grow, it is necessary for parents and teachers to retain the right to use "force". Of course, the child should be agreed on the relative rules of accurate growth behavior in advance.
Three days without marking the house to reveal the tiles, referring to the child is naughty, and by extension, it is not naughty.
Idiom Source:
Bao Shi has two very naughty children, and every day he either drives chickens or dogs, or he will mess up the dishes in the field. So angry that Bao Shi had to beat them up every day. Beaten, the two brothers were honest. The next day, it was just as foolish as it was. At the time of the wheat harvest, Bao's husband broke his leg while out on business and could not return home. The work in the field fell to Bao Shi alone. She cut wheat during the day and played at night, busy in the dark, and did not have the kung fu to take care of her two mischievous sons. After finishing the wheat, Bao Shi was so tired that he couldn't stand up straight, and he lay down on the bed and fell asleep. It started to rain heavily in the middle of the night, and Bowie was awakened by the rain that had leaked from the roof. She wondered where the water came from, lit the lamp and looked at it, only to find that the tiles on the roof had been removed in several pieces, no wonder the rain water leaked down. Bao Shi knew that her two naughty sons had done it, and angrily shouted at them: "Well, you two little crests, if you don't beat you for three days, you will go to the house and uncover the tiles." "The two mischievous ghosts naturally got beaten up fiercely.
Later, people used three days of not fighting, going to the house to reveal the tiles to describe the naughtiness of children.
Children know how to conquer each other by force
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... In the natural material world, the comprehensive survival of all living individuals must be passively adapted and actively claimed after birth. Human beings, the social fetal mammals with the highest IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the strongest comprehensive growth plasticity in the natural life system, are also the only animal groups in the natural life system that have the ability to create living materials according to the needs of independent survival.
A long time ago, Darwin noticed the fact that no natural life could survive alone. Domestication of sowing plants, taming captive animals, recording labor experience using abstract symbols and pronunciation, processing of natural non-living substances to produce labor and life aids... All belong to the active labor creation of human beings. However, the ability of each individual human to work and create is relatively limited, for example, people who are good at sowing seeds & harvesting plant food are likely not good at taming captive animals & harvesting meat, and people who are good at processing and making tools are likely to not have time to sow plants + captive animals.
As the saying goes: "Many people are powerful, and unity is strength." "Since the day of its birth, human beings have stood among natural beings in the form of group mutual assistance, such as men and women with breeding offspring, and young and old to create a happy life. However, since it is a group division of labor and cooperation, there must be a relative leadership center! Therefore, like other communities of animals, humans must compete for relative leadership.
The leader is the most powerful, the leader of the wolf pack is the fiercest, and there is only one Lion King in the same lion group... In what way do they establish group relative leaders? Fight! Similarly, the relative kings in human society were also established by war, such as the Spring and Autumn Warring States, where the strong Qin unified the various princely states; after the destruction of the Qin, the Han won the victory in the Chu-Han dispute; the Han dynasty was attributed to the Sui, the Sui dynasty was returned to the Tang, the Tang dynasty was returned to the Song, the Song was weak to the Yuan, and the Yuan was returned to the Ming, and so on. Taking the current great cause of mainland reunification as an example, china and the United States have established diplomatic relations, and the "Three Joint Communiques" between China and the United States once again recognizes that the Government of the People's Republic of China is the sole legitimate government of China, adheres to the one-China principle, and the Taiwan issue is China's internal affair. The US side has promised to sell weapons to Taiwan no higher in performance and quantity than the level of recent years since the establishment of diplomatic relations. The United States gradually reduced its arms sales to Taiwan and finally resolved it over a period of time.
Taiwan has a consulate in the United States, the leader of the Taiwan region has visited the United States, the United States has repeatedly given Taiwan a military, and US warships have cruised the Taiwan Strait... As a world power, has the United States fully abided by the "Three Sino-US Joint Communiques"? Clear-eyed people know no! Why? Because it is the only superpower in the world.
Truths between nations are within the range of cannons, national laws are only valid in areas where law enforcement agencies impose strict penalties, and active restraint of traffic rules is only in the areas under surveillance... If there is no enforcement power, the civilized behavior constraint of human society is a "blank check". Similarly, children, as free individuals with completely independent thinking ability, have their own ideas for growth and do not fully obey the kind teachings of their parents or teachers.
Irregular work and rest, grinding work, non-observance of agreed growth rules, fighting with classmates during school... Children with completely independent behavioral considerations are always trying to find out how to grow up in their own most comfortable way. Therefore, discipline necessarily needs to make the child satisfied and convinced, and it is necessary to make the child believe in discipline. So, the question is how to make a child feel convinced and convinced?
Reasoning and persuasion? Convincing what children are willing to do is effective, but it is difficult to do what children are not willing to do
People often use the metaphor of "crying children have milk" to make multiple requests or strong demands of units or subordinates can get more care. In real life, many children know how to use crying or scrambling to get more attention. However, for children's crying or scrambling behavior, persuasion often does not have an "immediate" effect. On the contrary, giving a child a real feeling of physical pain, no matter how big or small, can quickly stop the child's unreasonable behavior. For the most common and accepted method of conquest in natural life is force.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.