Nurture neighborly dreams
Netizens asked: Is the poor student because of laziness and stupidity?
Re: Children who learn to grow slowly are by no means simple enough to be stupid or lazy.
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... In the natural material world, the comprehensive survival of all living individuals must be passively adapted and actively claimed after birth. Humans are the community-based fetal mammals with the highest IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the strongest comprehensive growth plasticity in the natural life system.
Tao Te Ching: "The heavens and the earth are not kind, and all things are the dogs of chú." "Heaven and earth look at all things the same way, and they will not be particularly good to anyone, nor will they be particularly bad to anyone, and everything will develop naturally." Collecting plant fruits to fill hunger, occasionally catching other animals for "tooth sacrifices", wind meals and camping & ru mao drinking blood... The natural creators did not discriminate against any living group, and the way of life of human primitive ancestors was almost the same as that of today's wild animals, all of which completely relied on the "natural ecological food chain" to survive. Similarly, the differences in the overall survival of individual human beings at the beginning of their lives are negligible.
Can't control their own body independently, don't have any independent survival thinking awareness, basic survival nutrients are all obtained by being helped... In addition to slight differences in weight, hair, appearance, etc. in newborn human children, the other comprehensive survival skills are almost exactly the same. So, what causes children who are born almost identically to grow up to have more and more obvious individual differences?
First, the genetic differences in physiological genes are amplified by growth
The Book of Rites and Commentaries: "Yi says: 'A gentleman begins cautiously, the difference is as if it were a millimeter, and the miao is a thousand miles.'" Although the difference is very small in the beginning, the result can be a big mistake; Edison said: Genius is 1% inspiration, plus 99% sweat, but that 1% inspiration is the most important. When nature created things, it was true that no one was particularly cared for. However, nature does not make any two homogeneous beings exactly the same, and even identical multiples in mammals are magnified by individual differences in growth.
Growth magnifies individual differences
Second, affected by the growth environment
"The Teacher Says"
The ancient scholar must have a teacher. Teachers, so preaching is also karmic to solve puzzles. Whoever is not born to know can be confused? If you are confused and do not follow the teacher, you will be confused and will not be solved in the end. Before I was born, my hearers also preceded me, and I learned from them; after I was born, I also heard the Tao before me, and I learned from them. My master Daoye, fu Yong knows that his years were born in my lifetime? Therefore, there is no nobility, no low, no length, no less, the existence of the Tao, the existence of the teacher.
Teachers, preaching, receiving karma, solving puzzles. Education is the comprehensive performance art of parents and teachers using the mature social civilization achievements known to human society, through the comprehensive performance art of acting practices such as essential explanation + behavior demonstration + practice guidance, giving children the ability to survive independently and autonomously, and the role of education in the child's life growth journey is like a wisdom guide, guiding and assisting children to fully & quickly perceive the world and integrate into the world. Therefore, children born in China speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks, children born in the UK speak English + write ABC + use knives and forks, children born in India speak Hindi + write + eat pilaf...
Third, the child's active exploration and imitation ability
People often use the phrase "the master leads the door, the practice is in the individual" to show that the teacher can only play an exemplary and leading role in the journey of personal learning and growth, and the study and improvement of academics or skills must rely on everyone's conscious efforts. Therefore, in real social life, it is almost impossible for the same teacher to teach two exactly the same students, such as Confucius's students up to thousands, and only about ten people have really achieved success; in the modern large-class teaching model, the real first echelon of learning will never be higher than 20%.
The same content, some children are easy to learn, some children are always difficult to learn thoroughly; the same sports, some children can do it at a glance, some children need a long time to practice; the same child, some language ability is strong & poor logic, some logical ability is strong & weak motor ability, some are good at hands-on practice & poor verbal expression ability... Active exploration of imitation ability is the basis of human high intelligence, but also the source of human individual growth differences.
Fourth, the growth supervision
The Three Character Sutra
In the beginning of man, nature is good. Sex is similar, habits are far away.
Sex is not taught, sex is migratory. The way of teaching is expensive and specialized.
Xi Mengmu, choose the neighbor. The child does not learn, the machine is broken.
Dou Yanshan, there is a righteous party. Teach the five sons, and the fame is famous.
It is the fault of the Father not to teach. The teaching is not strict, and the teacher is lazy.
The child does not learn, it is not appropriate. Young do not learn, what is old.
Jade is not thoughtful, not a tool. Man does not learn, he does not know righteousness.
As the Son of Man, when the party is young. Dear teachers and friends, learn etiquette.
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"Augmenting the Sages": "Mercy does not control the soldiers, and righteousness does not control wealth." "Mercy does not command the soldiers, which means that people who are too benevolent are not suitable for leading soldiers to fight." Because there will certainly be casualties when leading soldiers to fight, benevolent people are bound to be indecisive and not conducive to improvisation on the battlefield; righteousness does not control wealth, which means that people who are too moralistic are not suitable for financial management. Because, people who talk about the righteousness of buddies are often easily forced to harm the collective interests because of their personal feelings. Similarly, as a comprehensive performance art in the civilized life of human society, the core value of education work is to comprehensively supervise children's daily growth behavior.
Laziness is the nature of natural animal life, for non-basic physiological needs, no one will actively complete, such as no life pressure, adults will not take the initiative to continue learning. Similarly, if there is no work and rest time requirements and no relatively clear learning task requirements, almost no child will actively learn cultural courses that do not see immediate benefits. Therefore, it is not difficult to see that the more basic education, the more time it takes the teacher to manage the discipline of the classroom; the younger the child, the more prominent the playful nature of the child, and the more inseparable the systematic learning of cultural knowledge is.
Dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, the son of rats will punch holes, oranges will be oranges in Huainan, oranges born in Huaibei will be oranges, near Zhu will be red, near ink will be black... The growth of natural life is accompanied by a combination of factors. Similarly, as a social mammal with the highest overall IQ, human growth and development are also affected by multiple factors, such as physiological genetic inheritance, growth environment, education environment and so on. Therefore, children who learn to grow slowly are by no means simple and stupid or lazy.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.