Nurture neighborly dreams
Netizens asked: How to turn the child's "shortcomings" into "advantages", as a parent, have you ever thought about this problem?
Reply: The child's advantages are raised, and the shortcomings are habitual. The way of life identified as a disadvantage by modern human civilization has almost no possibility of becoming an advantage, just like a tree that has been bent, can it grow better?
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... Humans are the community-based fetal mammals with the highest IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the strongest comprehensive growth plasticity in the natural life system.
Can't control your body, can't use human social language, can't find food on your own... All human babies are almost identical at birth, and they do not have any advantages or disadvantages in life as defined by the standards of human civilization and society. Love to learn + love health + love sports + do not speak dirty words + not picky eating + polite to people + cheerful and generous + work and rest rules, etc. are usually artificially used as the advantages of children's learning and growth journey, greedy children + littering + laziness + picky eating + lonely selfish + fight with small partners are usually artificially the shortcomings of children's learning and growth journey. So, where do the so-called strengths or weaknesses in human children come from?
Good habits depend on nurturing
The advantages of children are raised, and the disadvantages are habitual!
The Jin Dynasty writer and philosopher Fu Xuan pointed out in the "Prince Shao Fu Zhen": "Near Zhu is red, near ink is black; sound and harmony are clear, and the shape is straight." "Tell people that a person living in a good environment will be affected by good, living in a bad environment will also be affected by bad, emphasizing the comprehensive impact of the environment on people's learning and growth." Humans are the social mammals with the highest IQ in the natural life system, and the most typical feature of human high IQ is that they have a strong ability to actively imitate. Therefore, human ancestors born in primary forests can survive by picking plant fruits + hunting other animals, most children born in the agricultural period will sow plants + captive animals, children born in China have learned to speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks, children born in the United Kingdom have learned to speak English + write ABC + use knives and forks...
What to eat, what to learn, what to wear, where to live, what language to speak, what kind of routine rules to follow... All subsistence activities for underage children are arranged. Therefore, human intergenerational rotation is like a very low-speed photocopier, parents have mature social life experience is the original, the child is waiting for the copy of the white paper, the original provides what kind of knowledge information, the copy of the probability can present what.
People often use the metaphor of "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will punch holes" as a metaphor for what kind of parents give birth to what kind of children, and also to what kind of master teaches what kind of disciples. Therefore, good and lazy parents can never raise diligent and studious children, and children who know how to learn will certainly not mess around. Teaching children is not about herding sheep and horses, but about eating whatever grass they want. The purpose of education is to use the human social legal system + morality + etiquette + discipline to restrain children's daily growth behavior, that is, to guide children to develop comprehensive survival skills in line with the modern human society division of labor and cooperation system. Therefore, the advantages of children are cultivated, and the shortcomings are habitual.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.