In such an information age, mobile phones, tablet computers, basically everyone must receive, send, organize information tools, is essential, but this also indirectly led to such a problem, parents in the mobile phone computer at the same time, children also play, but the child's self-control is not as good as adults, which leads to children easy to form network dependence, and even addiction.
Once the child is dependent on the Internet, the child will hold the mobile phone all day and become decadent, bored with school, and seriously drop out of school. If you want to solve this problem, you must analyze the reasons for this problem.
First, life is boring and there is no goal
The reason why many children pick up their mobile phones every day is because they feel bored, there is nothing else to do to pass the time after writing homework, online games are fun, videos are interesting, and it is natural to pick up the mobile phone and start playing.
Second, poor self-control
Because of the development of information and the popularity of mobile phones, children play mobile phones is inevitable, which is understandable, in other words, children playing mobile phones is not impossible, but there must be a degree, but many children have poor self-control, can not do a degree, resulting in network dependence.
Third, the needs of children are not being met
Maslow's theory moves upwards from the bottom of the hierarchy, with requirements as follows: physiology (food and clothing), safety (job security), love/belonging (friendship), respect, and self-actualization.
If the child is addicted to the Internet, from the perspective of Maslow's theory, it is roughly two aspects, one is no love and sense of belonging, and on the other hand, it feels that it has not received respect in real life.
Children without love and belonging may mostly be that their parents are too busy or not around, such a child, often do a lot of things by himself, do not get too much love from his parents, and there is no sense of belonging, he can make friends from the network or can have, or find his own group, to get love and belonging, easy to form a network dependence.
Another situation, children who lack respect, they may be more shy and introverted in life, will not express, no self-confidence, fewer friends, or learning is not very good, nothing feels good, there is no sense of accomplishment and there is no sense of respect for new people, but in the virtual environment, children may play well, or are very popular in online social networking, the child's respect needs are met, making up for his needs in real life, such children are also easy to form network dependence.
After knowing the causes of children's internet dependence, parents can start from the following aspects to help children prevent network dependence.
First, cultivate as many children's hobbies as possible
Parents usually pay more attention to their children, find children's interests and hobbies, such as various sports and sports competitions, music, calligraphy, painting, etc., children are interested in can be cultivated, so that children have something to do, will not feel bored in life, but have other more interesting things to do in addition to mobile phones.
Second, help cultivate children's self-control
First of all, parents should lead by example, to help children cultivate self-control, they must use their own practical actions to influence children, do not pick up the mobile phone and start playing as soon as they go home, the child will also have a sample, when you persuade the child to put down the mobile phone, there is no prestige.
In addition, to learn to establish rules for children, parents can discuss with their children to develop rules for playing mobile phones, such as when to play, how long to play, etc., parents and children's opinions must be unified, so that it can be regarded as effective rules. If it is difficult to agree, then find an opinion that is relatively acceptable to everyone, implement it for a period of time, and then slowly adjust to the most appropriate.
Third, meet the psychological needs of children
There is such a saying that "companionship is the best family education", give children enough attention and love, let children grow up healthily in a loving atmosphere, and his inner sense of security and belonging is established very well, so that children are not easy to rely on the Internet.
If the child is not met because of the need for respect, then parents should start from how to let the child have a sense of respect for the need, such as more encouragement, praise the child, let the child participate in some things in the family and affirm the child's opinions, let the child have a sense of achievement, have a sense of need, let the child's needs in real life be met, the child does not need to go to the virtual environment to find psychological needs.
In fact, there are many other reasons for the emergence of a problem, because the formation of a problem is certainly not overnight, nor is it a two-factor result at once, most of the situations are a combination of many factors. What parents have to do is to find the cause of their children's own Internet addiction, and then "prescribe the right medicine" to help children prevent Network dependence and give children enough love and companionship, which is the best family education.