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Tang Ruoxin learns original works, and those who violate them will be investigated
In life, many people aspire to activate their potential and potential, and many people think that self-discipline and self-control are key. In fact, the real long-term self-control is not from the outside pressure, and the self-discipline brought about by external pressure is often one-sided, not long-term.
True long-term self-control comes from the life that activates the self, and more from our inner attention and respect for life, when you have enough respect and love for your life, you will have long-term self-control.
First, activate your love of life from the Source
To awaken the inner long-term self-control, the most important thing for us is to learn to activate your love of life from the source, which is the key to activating long-term life.
Many people have never felt the joy and respect of life in the process of growing up, some people may not meet the expectations of their parents, and then be treated coldly by their parents, and some people in the process of growing up, because they have been belittled by others, and then begin to deny their own lives.
Inability to feel the joy of life, but to feel the continued heaviness of life, then the life that this feeling brings to us is repressed and suppressed, and the life within us will begin to be consumed.
We cannot delight ourselves or even become disgusted with ourselves. We may become very unconvinced of ourselves, and naturally we will not be able to have long-term self-control.
In this case, our lives are in a state of depletion, and not only can we not respect life, we even resent life and feel why we are in this world.
At this time, our lives are in continuous internal friction, and our enthusiasm for learning and living is slowly weakening, and our internal mobility is insufficient, and the external manifestations are anxiety disorders and procrastination.
So if we want to really become self-disciplined, first of all, we need to activate our own understanding of life, and systematically recognize the nobility of life itself, so that we will not waste our lives arbitrarily.
Second, believing that life is good enough will activate inner self-discipline
If we believe that life is good enough, we will activate our inner self-discipline. Life is good enough, essentially a belief in life, but also to see the preciousness of each life.
In fact, the living are easily numb to their own lives over time and cannot see the goodness of life. Just as fish cannot do without water, we cannot see the grandeur and beauty of our own lives, and nature cannot activate the enthusiasm and motivation of life, so we cannot continue to explore.
Believing that life is good enough is the key to our continuous exploration of life, and it is also the key to our continuous growth in life.
Life is good enough is not a fantasy, but through thousands of years of evolution, we see breakthroughs in human life, and this breakthrough is a testimony to the good enough for life.
This is good enough for us to see that we can't waste our lives. In fact, many people with depression or people with mental illness are extremely in denial of themselves and think that they are not good, which will lead to slow self-action and growth.
Self-discipline in the true sense must be to see the beauty of one's own life, and know how to appreciate the beauty of the world, see the value of one's own needs, and also see the surprises one after another created by oneself through efforts and actions, and the surprise state of life shaped by these inner actions will activate the self-discipline.
True self-discipline and self-control come from seeing that life is good enough, and these are our courage and confidence in the face of life.
Third, have your own rhythm and learn to see clearly
In the process of life growth, we need to activate the life of the self, and we also need to find the rhythm of the self. The rhythm of the self is a change that echoes of ourselves and our environment.
When a person has her own rhythm, it is often the time when she is most comfortable and comfortable. When we are able to act at our own pace, the more control we have over ourselves.
So the real high self-discipline comes from knowing how to find your own rhythm, and this rhythm is not compared with others, but the pace and footstep of finding one's own environment.
In this regard, we need to understand that our rhythm is not to be completely consistent with everyone, and we can gradually adjust according to our own psychology.
Following your own rhythm is not living in your own world, but a new adaptation of knowing how to read the environment. In fact, in life, you will also find that everyone will have their own rhythm, and some people are slow heat type, pursuing first observation, and then adapting.
Others are self-familiar, adapting first, then observing and adjusting themselves. Both of these adaptation rhythms are OK, and we need to choose the way we are suitable for doing it.
Advanced self-discipline is not the program and rhythm that turns us into robots. Advanced self-discipline is to find ourselves and the environment to adapt to the rhythm of the run-in, in this rhythm, our inner adaptability and inner harmony will be much higher, and naturally our inner will maintain continuous and stable growth.
If we want to become highly disciplined, the best way and method is to train ourselves and the degree of adaptation and run-in of the environment, of course, the highest degree of this run-in is the unity of heaven and man.
For us ordinary people, we cannot immediately achieve the unity of heaven and man, but we can continue to adjust ourselves, respect objective facts, get rid of the influence and internal friction of emotions on us, and achieve the unity of knowledge and action, and then the unity of heaven and man.
When you can really get rid of the influence of emotions, really respect the facts, and return to the present, our inner potential will be fully released and activated, and the key to potential activation is to get rid of the interference of too many emotions, but to see clearly, naturally your life will become more and more advanced.
Today's topic: What do you think true self-discipline is, welcome to discuss and communicate.