How to give children self-control to choose to play games?

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Not the fault of computer games

The following is an excerpt from "A good mother is better than a good teacher":

>> If a child has been in the game for a long time and refuses to come out, so that it becomes a pathology, it is because the world outside the game makes him feel bored, unhappy or inferior. If a child loses his future because of computer games, even if he lives in an era without computers, something else will pull him down. I firmly believe that it is not the game itself that makes people fall, but the emptiness of the heart, or the absence of certain qualities. Those who fall into the game, even without computer games, will have something else that makes him inextricably unable to extricate himself.

>> My consideration is that since computer games can be so addictive to kids, there must be a lot of fun involved. Children should always play something, I want to make my children happy,

>> get the joy she deserves at that stage at each stage of her growth. Because today's children lack playmates and are too monotonous in terms of play, if there is no interesting thing for him to do, he is mostly going to spend time in front of the TV. I'd rather let Yuanyuan waste time in the game than stay in front of the TV all the time. There are too few TV shows suitable for her to watch, and the TV is completely passively accepted, and watching it often will dull people's brains; games are active participation, and the process of playing has its own intellectual input, and the game can make her familiar with the computer. Another consideration is that if her peers are playing and she is not playing, there will be a lack of an important communication topic.

>> As for whether she will be addicted, I am not without worry, but I don't want to choke on food. In general, I have confidence, and this confidence comes from my knowledge of the game and my knowledge of my children.

>> so it's not that there's something wrong with the computer games themselves, it's that the child lacks self-control and makes things worse. This is a concept that parents should first establish.

>> the more anxious she was in her heart, the more she couldn't pull down her face to teach her a lesson, and the more she had to stand with her, never stand against her. I often ask her in a pleasant tone about the game, sincerely share her joy of playing the game, and give her a new game board for Christmas. I know that interference can only intensify her desire to play games, and what she needs is to learn to control herself. So I had enough patience to let her experience all kinds of feelings in all kinds of time allocations.

>> Yuanyuan has been playing for more than a year, and her interest in games is still the same, but she has gradually learned to control herself, done everything she should do, and is more efficient - I think this is the real gain of her game, more important than just getting good results.

>> After the third year of junior high school, I became nervous about studying. One day in the third year of junior high school, she packed all the game disks into a cardboard box and said that she would no longer play before the middle school entrance examination.

>> Parents and children are best not to form this relationship between control and control, the longer and more solid this relationship is established, the worse the child's self-consciousness.

>> I often wonder if things can be done in reverse, and whether it will be better controlled to use the Internet as a "task" or a "punishment" rather than as a "prize" to be arranged for children. For example, children especially like to play games, so every time the child does something wrong, parents tell him to punish him, go online, must play for ten hours in a row, not enough to punish another ten hours, until he is tired and begging for forgiveness. In this way, children slowly feel that surfing the Internet is not a pleasure, but a punishment. Repeating it many times may make him rebel against the Internet.

>> The common feature of the vast majority of children with Internet addiction is that they often "manage" their children and constantly put forward restrictive requirements for their children. Their purpose is also to let the child learn self-management, and they often tell the child that you should do this and should be like that. Just looking at the arrangements proposed by parents to their children, it is indeed very good and reasonable. It is precisely because the parent believes that the arrangement he makes will become the child's own arrangement, so he goes out of his way to remind the child that it is time to do this and that thing. The truth is, you have taken on all the "management", where will the child still have the opportunity to learn self-management?

Writing here, as of this one, the notes of this book have been updated. Review again, think deeper. My parenting path is a long way off.

Because she will have new problems at every stage, the old ones have not been solved, and the new ones have already appeared. Sometimes the old problem disappears silently on its own, and the new problem emerges.

In addition to going to work and studying every day, I also have to think about how to raise an independent, confident, and self-disciplined daughter, and people who say that it is easy must not be empathetic, and they must stand and talk without waist pain.

Just like she is at this moment, online classes, can't sit still, write homework, play with erasers, play with pencils, do things grinding ~ ~

Just like I am at this moment, I am very anxious inside, I want to take a stick and follow behind my ass, but I also have to learn to hold back, let her learn all this on her own, I can only try all kinds of gentle and firm ways to guide, I also have to control my father's emotions, avoid volcanic eruptions, and affect the pond fish

But what can you do, you still have to put on your own armor and rush forward to the duck

#Calm and unhurried# Grow up with the baby

The content read the reading notes of "A Good Mother Is Better Than a Good Teacher" for me

Record and think, and share exchange learning with everyone

All educational philosophies do not necessarily apply to all children

Taking its essence, maintaining the ability to think and learn independently is the most important thing