There are three classifications of self-control, which one does your child belong to?
Parents want their children to overcome impulsivity and foresight, but the child's self-control is very weak, which can be roughly divided into three types:
Self-control is actually the confrontation of two selves, one is to overcome impulses and think deeply, and the other is to act arbitrarily and in time for pleasure. We all hope that the child's self of overcoming impulsivity and foresight can prevail, but in real life, it is often the self that is happy in time that prevails. In real life, children's self-control is weak, there are three main types, the first is the emotional out-of-control type.
They can't control their moods and sorrows very well, they are impatient, they can't think twice, and they are easily impulsive. For example, if you disagree with your parents, you will lose your temper, and if you have friction with your teachers and classmates, you will argue with your mouth, or even fight, and turn your face when you don't agree.
The second is the spiral of desire. The goals or guidelines originally set for oneself are susceptible to various factors that shake or even collapse. For example, some children are learning and can't control themselves immediately when they see a classmate playing football. Although there have been internal struggles, in the end I was defeated by the so-called reasons and attracted by football.
Some children will look at their mobile phones every day after school, play mobile phones for half a day, and then start learning to write homework after watching it is almost eight o'clock. Sometimes writing homework for a while looking at the phone writing is very slow, very inefficient. The third is time-out-of-control. It is not that such children cannot discover their own mistakes, but that they cannot correct their own mistakes. Their mantra is always from tomorrow, I must correct all mistakes, starting today.
Time passed day by day, and they repeated the same idea day by day, and they were more annoyed day by day, feeling that this idea was becoming firmer and firmer day by day, but in fact none of them were successful. For example, some students memorize words and want to make up for the homework they have left behind, but they have only made a verbal revolution forever. Where are your children? On the one hand, self-control performance is relatively weak?
For children, self-control is weak, and the direct impact on learning is poor execution, thinking, concentration, and sense of order decline, and there is no concentration on learning, which seriously affects learning efficiency. So why do children lack self-control?
According to our understanding of children, the main reason is self-consolation, holding a fluke mentality, unable to resist the interference of the surrounding environment, disturbance and bad habits of the temptation to know that mistakes do not change, so-so and so on.