"On every side of life, there are beautiful scenery."
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Original: The edge of life
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01
recall
Song Dandan recalled her marriage to Yingda and once said something like this:
In my three marriages, this part of Indah always seemed untouchable. However, while writing about my past, the 10 years I have walked with him cannot be avoided. He was 49 days older than me, we fell in love at 27, broke up at 37, and spent the most important time of our lives together, from romantic and carefree youth to heart-wrenching middle age.
Although the Two Later Ended in Participles, in his recollections, Song Dandan did not deny that the two had ever fallen in love, and used "the most important period of time" to evaluate the days spent together.
Everything that has been there, especially with loved ones, is ultimately unforgettable.
In "Half Dead Tong", He Zhu also expressed his deep love for the other half with a simple and unpretentious narrative:
What is different from what is wrong with the door? After the sycamore is half dead and frosted, the head white mandarin duck loses its companion and flies.
The grass on the original, the dew of the first day, the old habitat and the new two yiyi. Empty bed lying listen to the rain in the south window, who picks up the lights at night to mend clothes!
02
Lost company
In the trajectory of He Zhu's life, Suzhou is indispensable.
Although He Zhu, who was born in Huijishanyin (present-day Shaoxing, Zhejiang), was not from Jiangsu, he passed through and even lived in Suzhou many times for various reasons.
Among the people who accompanied He Zhu, his wife was naturally indispensable.
The name of He Zhu's wife is unknown, but only her original surname is Zhao, and it is said that she was born into a famous family and had a very good appearance.
In contrast, He Zhu's own appearance, in the Song Shi He Zhu Biography, it was recorded that he was "seven feet long, with an iron face and a towering eyebrow."
The Southern Song Dynasty poet Lu You talked about He Zhu's appearance, and he also had one thing to say, and his mouth was unguarded:
He Fanghui looks strange and ugly, with green and black and heroic, commonly known as "He Ghost Head".
Such a determination of He Zhu's appearance can be hammered, strange and ugly is not strange and ugly first, at least it has nothing to do with handsome characters.
But throughout the ages, the happiness and misfortune of love can never be determined by appearance.
On this point, the entertainment industry is the best proof, needless to say.
The question is how can Ms. Zhao, who is very good-looking, be willing to marry Mr. He and still have a deep affection for him?
Obviously, there are not only Ms. Zhao's reasons, but also Mr. He's reasons.
Marriage is a matter of two people anyway, and just talking about one of them will always be biased.
Perhaps from "Half Dead Tong", it is not difficult to find a clue in the middle, a few words, which is enough to see He Zhu's true feelings.
Zhangmen is the city gate in the west of Suzhou City, the word is used to refer to Suzhou, when the lyricist revisits Suzhou, the scenery in front of him is no different from before, but everything is different.
The reason for this is that there used to be a wife with her, but this time, she can no longer be with her.
What to ask should be asked, it should be a question of extreme pain, a question of extreme sorrow.
After the sycamore is half dead and frosted, the head white mandarin duck loses its companion and flies.
The ancients regarded the leafy sycamore as a companion who looked like a mandarin duck, and like the Mandarin duck, it could be used to refer to a loving couple.
Wu Tong was half dead, Mandarin Duck lost his companion, and it was obvious that He Zhu suffered a heavy blow from the loss of his lover.
03
Who's back
Xue Shanglu, He Yixi. The Ming Dynasty of Lu Xi has fallen even more, when will people return when they die?
The exclamation in Gule Fu's "Xue Lu", He Zhu must have felt the same.
He Zhu also woven this feeling into his own lyrics, writing:
The grass on the original, the dew of the first day, the old habitat and the new two yiyi.
Chu Xi should be a real scene, but it may also be a mental scene.
The departure of He Zhu's wife should be between his two visits to Suzhou, and it is not known how long it took.
It may be slightly longer or shorter.
The specific time cannot be verified, what is important is He Zhu's own psychological feelings.
The two words "Chu Xi" are likely to show He Zhu's true feelings, and for him, his wife did not leave for long.
It was as if she were still around, as if she hadn't gone far at all.
It was as if she had just made a trip to a very close door and could come back at any time.
The old perch is the place where the old days lived, the new place is the place where the beloved wife was recently buried, a new one and an old one, how can it not make people's eyes misty?
The two depended on not only the old habitat and the new perch, but also the figure standing next to the old perch and the new one.
Wandering, thinking, knowing that I can't grasp anything, knowing that I can't wait for anything, but I want to look forward to it helplessly.
Expectations, sometimes for miracles.
Sometimes, it's to give the deepest remembrance of the past.
Empty bed lying listen to the rain in the south window, who picks up the lights at night to mend clothes!
Where have all those ordinary and warm scenes in the past gone?
The real answer is that no one can do it again.
The Slovaks are gone, the past is untraceable, and everything that was once beautiful has disappeared in the night like water.
Disappeared in the sound of rain in the south window.
04
Simple
In fact, love in marriage is sometimes simple. Just a simple hug, a thoughtful greeting, a sincere look, a cup of boiled water, a bowl of instant noodles, a brief message, an affirmation, a knowing smile, may make the woman around you happy for a while, or even a lifetime.
Some people sighed so much.
This sentiment reveals the same true meaning as in He Zhu's "Half Dead Tong", that is, what really matters in love is not form, but content.
It is not denied that having content and form is the most perfect form of love, but if the two cannot be taken into account, then it is obvious that the content is the most important thing to determine whether love is happy or not.
Having content, even if the form is simple, or even no form, is enough to make people happy.
On the other hand, there is only form and no content, even if the form is clever, even very tall, but except for an empty shelf, so that people who do not know the inside story have some envy, what can be left?
Only those who live in this empty shelf can understand how sad and desperate an empty shelf can be.
Love or life is good, in fact, in the end, it is for yourself, not for others to see.
Because of this, we will be moved by the simple sentence of "lying in an empty bed listening to the rain at the south window who picks up the lamp and mends clothes at night", because the true meaning of love expressed in this simple sentence is not simple at all.
Life Jun said
"Hate can be your own business, but love can't."