Stars always give people a nice, romantic feeling, but if there is a "child of the stars" in the family, such a family is really unfortunate. The "children of the stars" are known as "autism" and they have their own world.
There are many people who feel that the "children of the stars" are gifted. For example, some children draw very well. Such a family is actually lucky. What is the real situation? Many "star children" may actually be unable to take care of themselves in life, and they are even more backward than ordinary children. And their families are even more ordinary.
So, such a family, the burden and pressure is greater. For such children, we should give love. Because, if it is detected early and intervened early, a "child of the stars" can completely return to normal children. They can socialize, communicate, and have normal hobbies like normal children.
"Autism" is a psychological problem that can be innate or acquired. Among the acquired factors, the three behaviors of parents are particularly prone to the problem of "autism" in children. These three behaviors can be summarized by "two less and one more".
One less: less companionship of parents;
Two less: less communication between parents and children;
One more: parents always let their children look at some electronic products, such as mobile phones;
One less: less companionship from parents
There is a lyric that goes like this: If you love me, you will hug me, and if you love me, you will kiss me. For children, they really don't understand what love is. However, parents must express their love. For example, you can hold your child, you can kiss your child, you can play games with your child, and so on.
It is also true that parents are busy. For example, many parents need to go out to work, and children become "left-behind children". However, the economy and information are already well developed. Therefore, if parents communicate with their children, it is actually not difficult.
If parents always find reasons for themselves to stay with their children, it is easy for children to lose their sense of security. In particular, when a child sees the lives of other children, the psychology will leave a shadow. Therefore, parents still try to take the matter of being with their children to heart as much as possible.
Usually, try to squeeze out time to accompany your children. Even if it's just taking your child out for a walk or playing a game with your child. The joy and happiness that parents bring to their children will be remembered by children for a long time.
Two less: Parents have less communication with their children
Parents have little communication with their children, which is generally divided into two situations. One is that parents are not good at communication, so in the process of communicating with their children, they do not know how to communicate.
Such parents are not uncommon, and some parents are shy and introverted. In normal times, do more than you say. A lot of things are done for children. However, the child does not necessarily understand. Parents, on the other hand, are not good at expressing themselves. Therefore, as a result, there is very little communication with children, and there is nothing to say.
In this case, it is actually not difficult. If parents are not good at expressing themselves, they can do things with their children. In the process of doing things, it is easy to find the point of communication.
Another situation is that parents do not want to communicate with their children at all. This kind of parent always feels that the child is a child and does not understand anything. In fact, today's children are particularly smart and good at learning. Therefore, adults can try to communicate with children.
Remind such parents that they must change their cognition. Don't think that the child is small, the child can actually become a part of the family.
One more: Parents always let their children see some electronic products
In many families, mobile phones and iPads are doll-coaxing artifacts. For these parents, their evaluation of their children is that as long as the child holds the mobile phone, he can become quiet for a while.
In fact, it is a matter of habit. Children themselves are energetic and like to run around. Some parents are worried that their children will affect their neighbors, so they do not let their children run around. In fact, parents can take their children out to exercise for a while. Don't worry about the child not coming back, it's a communication problem.
For example, parents make an agreement with their children: go out and play for half an hour every day. This half hour has almost no impact on the life of parents or working from home. If the child is disobedient, the parents tell the child that the child did not play according to the prescribed time, so he can only accept punishment. And the way of punishment, parents can also discuss with their children.
For example, electronic products such as mobile phones, more children's exercise, more children's reading, etc., can help children better enrich the spiritual world.
The child grows up only once, and parents don't feel that they can make up for it. For children, the role of parents is not just to raise them to grow up.