My uncle and uncle came to the house at the same time, just because I did not handle the relationship between the two well, I could not figure out the weight, my uncle actually pushed the door and left, and never came to our house to eat again.
Of course, I have to say in advance here that there is a contradiction between our family and my uncle's family, and my uncle is only borrowing the topic to play this matter.
But in any case, I have done this wrong thing, if you have doubts about it, or you really need to face it next.
Uncle and their uncle at the same time from home as a guest, the seat is not clear, then this article is recommended to read, this is not a small problem, there is a big cat greasy.
Point 1, my personal experience.
I should have returned to my hometown just a few days ago, because I didn't go back to my home for the New Year, so after I returned to my hometown, I thought of inviting my relatives and friends to have a meal together.
But two people left behind, because they weren't home at the time, or for some reason they didn't go to the restaurant to eat.
Then I was at home, and I made a table of food to invite my uncle and my uncle to dinner together, and everyone knew that there was a place at this table that was very honorable.
Usually the elders of the family sit there, and if my grandparents or grandparents are at home on weekdays, it is not a big problem.
But it just so happened that day that I was alone at home, and I thought about who was sitting in that position, so I just put my uncle in that seat.
My uncle and I had no problems on either side of the table, and I couldn't sit in that very honorable position.
But I didn't expect such a move, which made my uncle angry, my uncle saw that such a table did not even eat, got his wine glass and fell to the ground, directly smashed the wine glass.
Drop this wine glass, the price is still quite expensive, I spent 400 yuan to buy a set, not to mention how much pain, uncle after falling the wine glass after the whole face is not natural.
Then he pointed at my nose and said how did your uncle treat you badly? How do you treat your uncle like this, don't say that I eat at your house, I have to sit in this position, you look down on your uncle in your heart, don't you?
So good, we don't have to eat this meal, after my uncle said this, I suddenly came up on fire, after all, I just wanted to invite the elders to eat a meal, I didn't think so much, so I refuted my uncle for the first time.
At that time I said this to my uncle, I am too ignorant, here to say, there is only a very noble seat, I sit there is not appropriate, you and my uncle are my elders, who sits there is not sitting there?
Besides, you and my uncle have a good relationship, do you have to have a conflict between the two sides because of this matter? This sentence is not okay not to say, after saying it, my uncle is even more unwilling, patting the table to leave, and I can't pull it back.
When my uncle returned, I told my mother about it, and my mother said that my uncle just wanted to use his strength.
However, after saying this, my mother gently told me that these things were ultimately wrong and I needed to apologize to my uncle.
Why? Because according to the etiquette of the family, it is necessary to sit in a very noble seat.
Point 2, typical clan or family relationships.
To tell you the truth, when I heard my mother's argument, I was still quite surprised in my heart, why would my mother say such a thing, there is no reason, my mother said such a thing, is she implying something?
Later, when I talked to my mother, I learned that my mother did not favor her own brother and just talked about things.
The reason is simple, because my mother married my father, and then there was a crystallization of love between the two parties, and the child who was born was me.
In the process, my father had his brothers, and as these brothers grew older, I called uncle, and when I was younger, I called uncle.
And for this part of the people, I belong to this big family or belong to this big family.
To put it more bluntly, my father's brothers and sisters, after I met, whether we called uncle or uncle, we are all people of the same family, and we are all people of the same circle.
And in this circle we belong to a family, and if the family is a family, we need to face another person, and the other person is my uncle.
My uncle, although he was my mother's brother, and everyone had a saying that it was called my mother's uncle, which was the closest person in the world besides my mother and father.
But the closest person still needs to make a label, that label is that the uncle is not my relative or not my family, the uncle belongs to the guest, that is to say, the person on the mother's side, to put it bluntly, called the mother's family.
Because my uncle is called my mother's family, my uncle is a guest in our house, and the guest needs to sit on the guest, that is, the guest needs to sit in the chair that is most respectful, and needs to sit in the best place.
Because our fine inheritance of Huaxia Ming is to leave the best to the guests, the same reason because my uncle is my most honored guest, so that seat should not let my uncle sit down, but should let my uncle sit down.
After hearing this, my brain was a headache, and I never thought of such a simple thing as to make my mother say the truth.
I never thought that this matter would have such a big response in the countryside, and I did not expect that my uncle would actually play a role in this matter to make things difficult for me.
For this matter, my whole brain is blindfolded, this matter is after all I did wrong, then someone asked you how the relationship between you and your uncle is, I can only say that it is still like that.
Because my uncle himself wants to play on the topic, of course, I must have done something wrong, I admit it, and I will still apologize to my uncle afterwards, but my uncle will not forgive me, and I will not say that I apologize and joke.
How do I know that you adults are too serious about the elders, for those of us who are juniors do not know very well.
And I never used this as an excuse to shirk, I just told the truth about this matter, I did something wrong and I apologized, but it didn't have any effect.
Finally, as a person who came over to tell you about it, especially the rules in the family are more strict to listen to my advice.
It is best not to invite your own mother's family and your father's side to dinner at the same time, otherwise you are really like me, you just jump into the Yellow River and you can't wash it.