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After two men and women enter marriage, there will be a run-in period. This run-in period is either long or short.
Couples who are well run-in can go further on the road of marriage; couples who are not well run-in may also break up in the middle.
Marriage needs to be managed, and that's something we all know. But in fact, many two people in marriage may not be able to work together with one heart and one mind to run the family well.
Although everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, if they do not carry forward the advantages and converge the shortcomings, they may have an impact on married life.
Men and women actually need to work hard in marriage as much as they do. Women, in particular, are the connecting axes of a family, and if they do not do well, not only will their own men be unhappy, but it will not be good for the family.
★ Regardless of home
Before marriage and after marriage, for women, they are actually two different worlds. Whether men have such requirements or not, in fact, women must also have self-awareness after entering marriage.
This self-consciousness is also a change in a woman's mentality. After all, before marriage, I am a girl mentality, and I may have more of an element of self. After marriage, if you do not shift this focus, it may also have a bad impact on marriage.
Some women always feel that they can come according to their own nature, whether it is before marriage or after marriage, there is no change.
After marriage, women disregard the family, which is actually a point that makes it difficult for men to accept. In other words, when men start a family, they also hope to have someone around them, but they can also support each other.
If a woman's heart is not above the family, everything is only thinking about herself, only caring about herself, for men, it is not willing to see.
★ Spend money indiscriminately
Women spend money indiscriminately, which is also a characteristic that men can hardly tolerate. If the man loves his woman very much, or can tolerate her spending money indiscriminately, but only if the man will make money.
If a man has money and is willing to let his woman spend it, then there is nothing to say about it.
But if the man doesn't make much money, he has to think about many aspects of the cost. If women in such a situation still spend flowers according to their own nature, men will be unhappy.
There is a couple who often quarrel over money. The money a man earns is handed over to his wife, but many times, when he wants to get some money back to run errands, his wife says: There is no money.
She buys a lot of delicious food every day, including three meals, including snacks for children and snacks for herself. Also, when she sees beautiful clothes and shoes on the Internet, she will buy them without messing with everything. After buying some of them, they felt that it was inappropriate, but they could not return it, because she had a habit of tearing up the brand and everything when she came.
So, such a habit, how do you let men rest assured that they will give money to women to take care of?
★ Lose your temper at every turn
Some people say that a woman's good temper is one of the guarantees of marital happiness.
That makes a lot of sense. A woman who doesn't lose her temper casually will make men feel comfortable. The relationship between husband and wife is actually mutual payment and mutual tolerance.
If a person and a woman lose their temper at every turn, the man is also very helpless. No matter how good a man's temper is, it is difficult to tolerate a woman's temperament.
Therefore, some people say that the happiness of marriage begins without quarrelling. There is no reason for this.
★ Often contact with male friends
If the first three points are likely to be endured by men, this last point, most men are unlikely to be generous.
If a woman has more male friends before marriage, the person who is a boyfriend will also be jealous. If after marriage, women still maintain the habit of often contacting male friends, which is actually not very good.
If it is a work matter, it is understandable, but in fact, it is not necessary to contact often at work, because we will work together every day, and anything can be solved in person.
If you still contact frequently after work, it is inevitable that people will think about it. In fact, such a situation can not blame men, because the average person's thinking will not be so pure.
Therefore, after marriage, women should still pay attention to their married identity and minimize contact with male friends, so as to contribute to the harmony of marriage.
Nowadays, people are more self-sufficient, especially modern young people, who are less likely to pay attention to the feelings of others. This may also be one reason why modern marriages are fragile.
In any case, the so-called "a hundred years of cultivation to cross the same boat, a thousand years to cultivate a sleep together", can enter the marriage with a partner, indicating that the two people still have a fate. Since there is a fate, you should cherish it and don't wait for it to be lost before regretting it. You say yes?