Every parent hopes that their children can become the dragon and phoenix among others, if their children do not have good grades as others, the house they live in is not as spacious as others, the car is not as advanced as others, the work is not as good as others, the savings are not as much as others, etc., everything is not as good as others, that is the failure of parents.
In order to make children talented, parents force their children to learn this skill and learn that talent, in short, there is no moment of idleness, just to become the best in the crowd.
Ma Yun once said: "In today's society, if we continue the previous education method and let our children remember, calculate and memorize from an early age, instead of letting the children play, then I can guarantee that after 30 years, such children will not find a job." ”
This sentence is very simple, but it has caused a lot of shock among parents, and it has also triggered parents' reflection on the inherent education model.
Yes, parents are the closest friends of children, and your words and deeds and every move have a profound impact on children, so these three things are very important if you want your children to become talents!
1. Companionship
The high-quality companionship of parents can make children more responsible and more responsible when they grow up; they can make children more loving and full of love for the things around them; they can make children more courageous; they can make children feel more secure; they can make children happier, have healthy characters and correct values.
Obama said: "I will not be president for a lifetime, but I will be a good father for a lifetime." He is most proud of the fact that he has never missed a parent-teacher conference for his daughter, including during his presidency.
Some people say I have to earn money, where do I have time to spend with my children? I would like to say: Obama, the busiest man in the world, gave his child the best company. After reading this, are you still saying that you don't have time to spend with your children?
Many parents may think that their children are still young and have a lot of time to spend with them. But time flies, how long can you stay with your children?
0-3 years old, you are all the children; 4-12 years old, you are his night; 13-18 years old, you are his weekend; 19-23 years old, you are his winter vacation and summer vacation; after 23 years old, you just become his moment...
Spending time with your child is limited, because childhood is short, so please cherish the time you can spend with your child!
Second, habits
Yu Minhong once said: The reason why a person is excellent is because he has excellent habits. You can't see how powerful habits are at the time, and you understand the power of habits at the critical moment.
To give an example: Phelps, the great American swimmer Phelps, at the 2008 Beijing Olympic Games, he won 8 gold medals in all swimming, during which there was a small episode, that is, the swimming goggles entered the water, causing him to be completely unable to see clearly, but this did not affect his performance at all, and even broke the world record again.
Why? Phelps said that he had trained to swim in the dark, and that long periods of training had caused his muscles to generate memories and form conditioned reflexes, which is what we call habits.
These two celebrities can illustrate that good habits can change a person's destiny.
So if you want your child to be excellent, please let him develop a good habit first, so that it can benefit for a lifetime.
3. Read
Gorky said: "Books are the ladder of human progress. ”
Yu Qiuyu said: "The biggest reason for reading is to get rid of mediocrity, one day earlier to have more wonderful understanding; one day later to have one more day of mediocrity." ”
Xu Wei also sang in "Life Is More Than the Present": Life is not only in front of the eyes, but also poetry and distant fields. Yes, reading belongs to poetry and distant fields.
All of the above shows that there are many benefits that reading brings to children. Reading can not only make children have good language and writing skills, but also enrich children's spiritual world and improve their level of understanding. If a child likes to read from an early age, his intellect will develop well, he will easily discover other things of interest, and he will be more mature in his thinking and more perfect in his values.
What we have to do as parents is to guide children to discover the joy of reading, let them make reading a habit, and let reading be carried out in joy. In addition, parents should also set a good example and read with their children, so that children will more easily fall in love with reading.
For the child, we should not force him to grow up, but have more patience, more praise, more trust, less criticism, so that the child has a space for free development, I believe that we will find a piece of blue sky that belongs to them!
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