Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
(The definition of "coddling" comes from the book by Jean Clark.)
Think about it, do we have a lot of behaviors that can be seated with the three points of "too much", "too fast" and "too long"?
Of course, we will not be like Guo Wensi's parents, who spoil their children's bottomless indulgence. But our self-righteous godson may be superficial, but in fact it is a kind of coddling.
The harm of coddling is not only to let the child be arrogant, but more importantly, it invisibly deprives the child of the ability to integrate normally into society.
A self-centered, selfish, and shirky person is not welcome anywhere.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
(The definition of "coddling" comes from the book by Jean Clark.)
Think about it, do we have a lot of behaviors that can be seated with the three points of "too much", "too fast" and "too long"?
Of course, we will not be like Guo Wensi's parents, who spoil their children's bottomless indulgence. But our self-righteous godson may be superficial, but in fact it is a kind of coddling.
The harm of coddling is not only to let the child be arrogant, but more importantly, it invisibly deprives the child of the ability to integrate normally into society.
A self-centered, selfish, and shirky person is not welcome anywhere.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
(The definition of "coddling" comes from the book by Jean Clark.)
Think about it, do we have a lot of behaviors that can be seated with the three points of "too much", "too fast" and "too long"?
Of course, we will not be like Guo Wensi's parents, who spoil their children's bottomless indulgence. But our self-righteous godson may be superficial, but in fact it is a kind of coddling.
The harm of coddling is not only to let the child be arrogant, but more importantly, it invisibly deprives the child of the ability to integrate normally into society.
A self-centered, selfish, and shirky person is not welcome anywhere.
(Stills from the TV series "Little Parting")
It is said that "parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them."
What parents expect most is that children can have the ability to stand on their own feet, have healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships, and manage their lives well, which are inseparable from the correct education of parents.
And the right posture to love a child is to give him what he really needs, not what parents think the child needs.
But how much is more, how much is less? The scale in the middle needs to be carefully pondered by parents and truly understand the characteristics of children before they can truly grasp it.
The Guo Wensi we mentioned today is only an isolated case, but from his story, we can still get a lot of caution. For example, when a child makes a mistake for the first time, parents should stop it in time.
"Stop" here has two meanings:
1. Respond to the child's behavior, clearly point out that it is not right, and let the child know where the boundaries of the behavior are;
2. Give your child constructive advice, let your child know what to do, establish the correct three views, and become a person who can think independently.
In English, there is a more precise expression of this "stop", called "constructive feedback", constructive feedback.
Good discipline is to let the child know that he is wrong, but also let the child know what to do is correct and is willing to make changes.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
(The definition of "coddling" comes from the book by Jean Clark.)
Think about it, do we have a lot of behaviors that can be seated with the three points of "too much", "too fast" and "too long"?
Of course, we will not be like Guo Wensi's parents, who spoil their children's bottomless indulgence. But our self-righteous godson may be superficial, but in fact it is a kind of coddling.
The harm of coddling is not only to let the child be arrogant, but more importantly, it invisibly deprives the child of the ability to integrate normally into society.
A self-centered, selfish, and shirky person is not welcome anywhere.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
(The definition of "coddling" comes from the book by Jean Clark.)
Think about it, do we have a lot of behaviors that can be seated with the three points of "too much", "too fast" and "too long"?
Of course, we will not be like Guo Wensi's parents, who spoil their children's bottomless indulgence. But our self-righteous godson may be superficial, but in fact it is a kind of coddling.
The harm of coddling is not only to let the child be arrogant, but more importantly, it invisibly deprives the child of the ability to integrate normally into society.
A self-centered, selfish, and shirky person is not welcome anywhere.
(Stills from the TV series "Little Parting")
It is said that "parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them."
What parents expect most is that children can have the ability to stand on their own feet, have healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships, and manage their lives well, which are inseparable from the correct education of parents.
And the right posture to love a child is to give him what he really needs, not what parents think the child needs.
But how much is more, how much is less? The scale in the middle needs to be carefully pondered by parents and truly understand the characteristics of children before they can truly grasp it.
The Guo Wensi we mentioned today is only an isolated case, but from his story, we can still get a lot of caution. For example, when a child makes a mistake for the first time, parents should stop it in time.
"Stop" here has two meanings:
1. Respond to the child's behavior, clearly point out that it is not right, and let the child know where the boundaries of the behavior are;
2. Give your child constructive advice, let your child know what to do, establish the correct three views, and become a person who can think independently.
In English, there is a more precise expression of this "stop", called "constructive feedback", constructive feedback.
Good discipline is to let the child know that he is wrong, but also let the child know what to do is correct and is willing to make changes.
Text | Constant Dad
Source | Ivy Dad (ID: ivydad_ivydad)
This is not the first time that Guo Wensi has been on the hot search.
At the end of March 2020, he was arrested for killing the uncle who advised him to wear a mask and was on the hot search.
In 2004, he was sentenced to life imprisonment for strangling his girlfriend Duan Jiani, which became a talk of conversation after dinner.
01
(In 2005, Guo Wensi was sentenced to life imprisonment for homicide.) ）
02
I saved my son, and you took 400,000
03
Nine commutations, more than the great aunt
Will Guo Wensi's parents also ask themselves: "Am I a failure?" Or, "How come I can't save you this time?" ”
Bottomless coddling and unprincipled protection ultimately harm the child.
From the president of the student union to the death row prisoner, it seems that Guo Wensi's impulsiveness is caused. But in fact, this momentary impulse, in countless small details, has long been traced.
Because the dishes ordered were not to taste, Guo Wensi picked up the iron rod and slammed it on his girlfriend, abusing his girlfriend at least 5 times in 1 year. This kind of tyrannical behavior of beating people without saying a word must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because his girlfriend was busy volunteering, Guo Wensi was dissatisfied, and even insulted " What a broken place this is!" And sneered, "I thought you were doing something fancy." This kind of selfish and indifferent behavior must have been seen by the Guo family's parents.
Because the conditions at home are good, he said to his girlfriend's mother: "Looking up to your daughter is to give you the face of the family", this kind of vain and arrogant behavior, the Parents of the Guo family must also be familiar with it.
But they turn a blind eye, listen to it, and allow their children to break through the boundaries of human morality and the law, and become murderers spurned by everyone.
What's even more ridiculous is that until the children go to jail, they still don't wake up.
After 15 years in prison, they neither recognized their mistakes nor let the children realize their mistakes, and finally lost the child's life.
04
Coddling is toxic
Parents lifted stones and dropped them on their feet
It's a cliché about "don't spoil children."
Almost every parent understands that spoiling children is a harmful and unproductive thing, and it is necessary to discipline, be strict, and let them understand right and wrong.
We all understand the truth, but in fact, there are too many parents who are doting on their children without knowing it.
There are many seemingly harsh but in fact doting behaviors that happen every day.
Parenting expert Jean Clark once defined "coddling" this way:
Coddling is something that looks good, giving the child "too much", "too fast", "too long", these things or experiences, do not match the age of the child, or the interest does not match, the talent does not match, this is just to meet the "needs" of adults, not the needs of children.
The so-called too much is to give too much in substances or attention such as eating and drinking, so that children do not know how to cherish and be grateful;
The so-called too fast is to do too much for children, depriving them of the opportunity to grow independently;
The so-called too long is that the child has not been set up rules, too soft in the face of conflict, so that the child has no bottom line, no principle, weak sense of morality, and even no conscience.
(The definition of "coddling" comes from the book by Jean Clark.)
Think about it, do we have a lot of behaviors that can be seated with the three points of "too much", "too fast" and "too long"?
Of course, we will not be like Guo Wensi's parents, who spoil their children's bottomless indulgence. But our self-righteous godson may be superficial, but in fact it is a kind of coddling.
The harm of coddling is not only to let the child be arrogant, but more importantly, it invisibly deprives the child of the ability to integrate normally into society.
A self-centered, selfish, and shirky person is not welcome anywhere.
(Stills from the TV series "Little Parting")
It is said that "parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them."
What parents expect most is that children can have the ability to stand on their own feet, have healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships, and manage their lives well, which are inseparable from the correct education of parents.
And the right posture to love a child is to give him what he really needs, not what parents think the child needs.
But how much is more, how much is less? The scale in the middle needs to be carefully pondered by parents and truly understand the characteristics of children before they can truly grasp it.
The Guo Wensi we mentioned today is only an isolated case, but from his story, we can still get a lot of caution. For example, when a child makes a mistake for the first time, parents should stop it in time.
"Stop" here has two meanings:
1. Respond to the child's behavior, clearly point out that it is not right, and let the child know where the boundaries of the behavior are;
2. Give your child constructive advice, let your child know what to do, establish the correct three views, and become a person who can think independently.
In English, there is a more precise expression of this "stop", called "constructive feedback", constructive feedback.
Good discipline is to let the child know that he is wrong, but also let the child know what to do is correct and is willing to make changes.
(Stills from the TV series "Little Joy")
Everyone makes mistakes, not just children, but adults as well.
Only when a child has the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and has the willingness and behavior to change sincerely, can he grow into a better person.
And isn't that the greatest relief of parents?
All love in this world is for the purpose of aggregation, and only the love of parents is for separation.
Because no matter how much parents love their children, they cannot accompany them for a lifetime, nor can they protect them for a lifetime.
Helping children learn to think independently, establish a sound personality, and become a person who is useful to themselves and society is what parents should do and what parents can do.
Such "godson secrets" are hidden in our daily relationship with our children, hidden in our words and deeds, and hidden in our current actions.
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