The economy can be independent
But not without intersection
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Marriage in the new era about money Everyone always feels that the economy must be independent, when in love, it must be independent, after marriage, do not rely on men, work hard, and have confidence.
It is true that no one in this world can rely on themselves, and no one in marriage has the responsibility to carry your whole life.
After marriage, you must be financially independent, otherwise you will not even have the courage to quarrel.
The most economic problems involved after marriage are pregnancy and child raising, when women are more vulnerable, if men do not give support, women themselves do not accumulate, it will be very painful.
Even when arguing, it will be said that he raises, which is very painful for women, if they have savings and income, then they will not be so passive.
That's why women want to be financially independent.
Of course, men are the same, many men feel that they have no money to be disliked by their wives and look down upon, so it fully explains that the economy should be independent in marriage.
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But economic independence, is it AA?
Definitely not, economic independence means that we can live well without each other, but it does not mean that I and the other party can be clearly separated.
If you want AA to eat, to have children, even the child's parenting problems are, and when the other party needs help, you never lend a helping hand, but feel that it is good to say AA, then what is the meaning of this marriage.
The people around AA basically collapsed in the end, a friend used her savings when she was pregnant, and her husband gave her hundreds of dollars to use for her children.
Later, when she went to work, her husband began to ask her to bear part of the family's expenses, even if her salary was not enough, and her husband did not help at all.
She also felt that she refused to spend money, and even if the two of them went out to buy something, her husband could clearly distinguish it.
Because the house is the down payment of the husband's family, she manages the life of the family, the husband pays the mortgage, and the husband sometimes says that you pay the rent.
She couldn't accept such a life and eventually chose to divorce.
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Economies can be independent, but not completely without intersection
Because of the pressure of modern life, it is impossible to support a family only by men or only by women after marriage, so it is normal for both people to have financial ability, but there is no intersection at all, it is better to be single.
Because women have the process of getting pregnant and having children, if at this time a woman loses her income because of a child, and the man earns money and does not give it to the woman, so that she faces the double pressure of physical, financial and psychological, then what is the point of her marriage?
Sometimes she has to be angry, that this feeling means nothing to her, and the life is completely impossible to live.
Money and love are intertwined, and it is impossible to completely separate them, which is what life looks like.
What are we getting married for?
It is to have someone to accompany, to encounter wind and rain, to support, to face together, if the economic division is so clear, yours is yours, mine is mine.
You earn money and you spend it yourself, I earn money I spend it myself, there is no love between the husband and wife, only interests, such a impersonal marriage, there is no point in continuing.
This is why so many people are separated from each other, and the family that loves each other cannot be divided into points.
The economic account is cleared up, but the emotional account is also gone.
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