Lead:
With the development of society, about whether to bring grandchildren to children? Every old man has his own different views, some old people think that it is their unshirkable responsibility to take grandchildren, that is, no matter how hard they work, they also do everything possible to bring grandchildren for their children, some old people think that they have worked hard all their lives, and they should enjoy it when they are old, it is a child's business, why bring them? Who is happier in old age without grandchildren?
Aunt Guo: 70 years old
I retired at the age of 50, and after retiring, I danced square dance with my sisters every day, and my husband took me out on vacation to travel, and the days were relaxed and happy at that time.
My son just got married, and we wanted to hold my grandson early, so I said to my son, "Hurry up and have a grandson, take advantage of my good health, bring it to you, in a few years, when I am old, I will not be able to do anything." ”
Three years later, the little grandson was born, and the son told me to hurry up and take the grandson, but I didn't think about it, left my wife, came to my son's house, and brought the grandson to the child.
In order to bring a good grandson, I still pay a lot, put the child on the back to do housework, the daughter-in-law has no milk, every night to make milk powder for the child, in order not to affect the daughter-in-law's rest, I slept with my grandson, the eyes did not dare to close, as long as the grandson cried, I quickly carried him to the balcony to coax.
In just a few months, I have lost more than ten pounds, both eye circles are black, my hair is a lot whiter, I am really tired with my grandchildren, I am also responsible for buying vegetables, cooking, and doing housework every day.
Although I am very tired, my heart is still happy, my son and daughter-in-law are very good to me, buying me some gifts and fashions from time to time, and taking me out shopping during the holidays.
People's hearts are long, I take out 2,000 yuan a month to subsidize my son, and my grandson went to primary school before I went back.
The grandson and daughter-in-law were reluctant to me, and the grandson said: "Grandma, you don't want to go", and the daughter-in-law said: "Mom, this family always welcomes you, you can come whenever you want to come, and you can stay for as long as you want." ”
Although it was hard, it was enough to have a daughter-in-law, and later, my wife got cancer, and my son and daughter-in-law also tried to contact the hospital, take my wife to the provincial city, find expert treatment, and my wife lived three years longer than the doctor said.
My daughter-in-law was afraid that I would be lonely and persuaded me to live with them, and I was older and felt inconvenient, so I still went back to my hometown.
Son and daughter-in-law almost every day on the phone, the family also installed monitoring, they know my situation at any time, during the holidays, sons and daughters-in-law and grandchildren came to the house to accompany me, I feel that it was right to take grandchildren back then, daughter-in-law and son can do this to me, I am also satisfied.
Uncle Li: 75 years old
At the beginning, when my wife was 55 years old and just retired, my grandson was also born, and my son called and said, "Go and bring them grandchildren."
I did not agree, and my daughter-in-law called again and said, "If you don't help your grandchildren now, you won't care about your retirement in the future." ”
My wife was also very worried, how I persuaded her not to listen, at that time, I still had to go to work, my wife's health was not very good, in her eyes the grandson was more important than me, did not listen to my persuasion, I went to my son's house to take the grandson, and sure enough, my worries became true.
My son was an insatiable man, and when he got married, we took all our savings and bought him a house, and he married his daughter-in-law smoothly. However, since the Spring Festival has not come back to see us since we got married, the phone is rarely called, and when we ask for money, we will call us, and I will marry my daughter-in-law and forget my mother.
Sure enough, since the wife brought her grandson to her son, she became the nanny of the family, and every month's retirement salary was used in the family's life, and the daughter-in-law did not go to work, dressed beautifully every day, and did not care about her children.
The wife was tired and tired when they were free nannies, but also disliked, once, the wife was too tired, said to the daughter-in-law, today want to take a break, housework cooking, she can't do it.
The daughter-in-law immediately carried the child back to her mother's house, and did not care about her wife at all, and the son was the same. When the wife was a little better after a few days, they came back and began to be their nanny again, and every time they hated to say that this was not clean, that was not done well, the wife was busy at home, and the family lay on the sofa watching TV and chatting.
The wife insisted on doing it for 5 years, 5 years later, once suddenly fainted, went to the hospital for examination, the doctor said that there may be cancer, the son and daughter-in-law sent the wife home, no longer care, a year later the wife died.
I especially regret that if my wife did not go to my son's house, she would not have died so early, she was exhausted, and it was impossible to rely on raising children to prevent old age.
My son and daughter-in-law hit the idea of my house again, several times persuaded me to sell the house, they gave me a pension, I did not agree, they no longer pay attention to me, I will not be fooled, live in their own house, better than anything, really not in good health, I will go to live in a nursing home, there is no difference between having a son and not having a son.
Uncle Liu: 77 years old
When my wife just retired, my son and daughter-in-law wanted to ask their wife to bring them grandchildren, and my wife did not agree, because after she retired, her health was very good, and a friend of her introduced her to a private company to make reports, only half a day a month, 1500 per month, she felt that taking advantage of good health, making more money, I think it makes sense.
Since we have raised our son and let him start a family, then he should be independent and no longer want to rely on us, I rejected my son and daughter-in-law, they are very angry, and they rarely call in the future.
Five years later, I also retired, my wife also quit her job, I took her to start traveling, all over the country, my wife and I also went to my son's house to see my little grandson, ready to live for a few days, but I was not welcomed, my daughter-in-law ignored us, my grandson did not call us, we had to stay in a hotel at night, stayed for a day and left.
When I was 70 years old, my wife had an accident one day, and when I asked her to go out for a walk in the morning, she said she was a little uncomfortable and I would just go on my own.
I went out to exercise, take a walk, bought a few buns by the way, and when I got home, my wife was lying in bed, unable to speak, I was frightened and hurried to call 120.
After rescue, the wife finally woke up, but the words were also unfavorable, and the hands and feet could not move on the one hand, and it turned out that she had a stroke.
Because she was old and it was difficult to recover, she could only lie in bed every day, and I came to take care of her. My health is not very good, I have high blood pressure, heart disease, and diabetes, but I can't take care of an old man.
I called my son to ask him to help take care of his mother, and he said: I can't find time, I don't want to come, and my daughter-in-law hasn't even met.
I really have no choice, hired a babysitter, 5,000 yuan a month, my retirement salary is only more than 4,000, my wife is more than 2,000, I have to take medicine every month, there is no way, I did not save money, in the past, the money saved, in recent years, the tour has almost been spent.
Did two months, had to quit, every day, I take care of my wife, really too tired, I am scared, one day I fell, what about my wife? I regret that if I had helped my son to see my grandson, it would not have ended up like this.
epilogue:
Should I help my child watch my grandchildren? Every old man has a different view of each old man, I think it is still necessary to understand each other, if the child knows how to be grateful and knows the hardships of the parents, then help them to see the grandchildren, the child will be kind to the elderly.
When the elderly are old and helpless, they will also help the elderly, do a filial piety, if the child is insatiable, always want to get benefits from the elderly, even if they help them to see the grandchildren, they only know how to ask, do not know gratitude, and when they do not need the elderly, they will still dislike the elderly.
Therefore, the education of children is very important, if the body allows, and there is this ability, you can help the child with grandchildren, if the health is not good, and there is no ability, I hope that the child can understand, the elderly are not easy, mutual understanding, mutual understanding, with or without grandchildren is also voluntary, must not be used to threaten the elderly, even if they do not bring grandchildren, children should also have a grateful heart, after all, raise them, when they start a family, when the elderly need help, also try to give help, you say yes?