In real life, many friends have not lived their ideal old age, and they are still busy after retirement, and many middle-aged and elderly friends are filled with the matter of "bringing grandchildren" after retirement. The matter of intergenerational education has always been very troublesome, and some elders have taken care of their children in the process of bringing up their babies, but they have had some bad effects on their growth. In life, the elderly with these 4 characteristics are more suitable for often bringing a baby.
First, the elderly who are willing to learn
The days that the older generation experienced in the past are naturally incomparable with the present, so it is also necessary to make changes in the matter of taking children, and it is no longer feasible to use their past experience to help their children with their babies. Nowadays, young people and our concept of parenting are very different, they are more inclined to scientific parenting, if they are always stubborn, not only will cause dissatisfaction with their children, but also may bring a great burden to their grandchildren. For example, not long ago, a grandmother used rat boiling oil to treat her granddaughter's scalds, resulting in child infection, which is blindly listening to folk remedies and experience, which brings a great burden to young children. Therefore, the elderly should be willing to learn, actively learn from scientific and useful parenting methods, not be too paranoid, and avoid unnecessary trouble for grandchildren.
Second, the elderly who live a self-disciplined life
We all know that in early childhood, the main way of learning is imitation, so the every move of the elders in the family will affect them. If we want our children to develop a good habit from an early age, we must maintain good habits in the process of taking children, so that we can really play a role in teaching by example. Children's imitation ability is very strong, if not good habits are learned by them, then it will be difficult to correct them in the future, so when taking grandchildren, we ourselves should be a self-disciplined old man, so that the children brought out will be more excellent.
Third, the principled elderly
In order to facilitate the care of grandchildren, many elderly people will choose to live with their children, which is easy to contradict. For example, children want to cultivate children's self-care ability from an early age, so they will let children do it themselves when eating, although they will get it all over, but they can exercise their habit of eating independently, but this scene is seen by grandparents, out of love for their grandchildren, they always can't help but start feeding, and after a long time, children will develop bad habits. In addition, if the children are educating their grandchildren, some elderly people feel distressed and go to block, over time will make the children lose their majesty in front of the children, and the children will gradually become unscrupulous because of the reliability of someone, which is very unfavorable to their growth. We must have principles and bottom lines so that we can better help their grandchildren grow in the process of educating them.
Fourth, the old man with a good attitude
Some people in life always live in depression, and daily speech is also very negative, such an old man is actually not suitable for bringing a baby. We often say that emotions can be contagious, happiness can be transmitted, and negativity can naturally be contagious to each other. If you always have a negative mindset in the process of raising children, your children may also be affected. In particular, some elderly people with more grumpy personalities may make children timid when teaching children, and their personalities are becoming more and more introverted. If we have a good state of mind ourselves, we will be more pleasant with our children when we get along, and they can also maintain a happy state, which will have a good impact on their physical and mental health.