With the progress of society, people's living standards are also constantly improving, and at the same time, the "gap between rich and poor" is also getting wider and wider. Some families eat and drink without worry, and live a well-off life leisurely; some families are living on a shoestring, and even the money to buy milk powder for their children needs to ask their parents for help.
The wife borrows money to buy milk powder, but the husband wants to buy cigarettes and give it away
It is said that "poor and lowly couples are sad", in life, those couples with poor family conditions always have all kinds of difficulties, and even do anything that is not smooth, recently a small couple in Zhejiang has been on the hot search because of "no money".
The young couple had only been married for a few years, and the family conditions were relatively poor, and after giving birth to a child, they even reached the point where they did not have extra money to buy milk powder for the child. But no matter how difficult it is, the child cannot make the child hungry, so the child's mother borrowed a little money from her mother's family and prepared to buy milk powder for the child.
But unexpectedly, after he borrowed the money back, his husband wanted to take out a part of it to buy a cigarette as a gift for his uncle who was going to celebrate his birthday, on the grounds that his uncle was very helpful to himself before, and it was also common for people to give gifts on people's birthdays.
However, the child's mother does not think so, her family is so poor, there is no money to buy milk powder for the child, and she also needs to open her mouth to borrow from her mother's family, and the husband is still in the mood to consider other things at this time.
The two sides also quarreled because they did not talk about their opinions, and even fought on the street, and finally after the farce was full of storms, it was resolved with the help of the husband and wife's unit.
After the husband and wife's unit learned of this matter, they predicted the salary for the two people in advance, and paid for the child to buy milk powder, which helped the couple to temporarily tide over the difficulties.
For this matter, netizens are also talking about it, some people accuse the husband of having no sense of responsibility, the child's milk powder can not eat, and there is the mood to give gifts; some netizens think that the couple's life is really sad, if even the money for the child to buy milk powder must be borrowed, or do not give birth, not only adult grievances, the child's growth can not be guaranteed.
Is it suitable for couples with poor financial foundations to have children?
Marriage and children are almost everyone has to go through the stage of life, after the couple formed a family, in addition to those who want Dink, almost all want a crystallization of love between two people, but today's society to have children is not so simple.
A friend around Kojima once had similar troubles, the husband wanted to have children, but the friend felt that the two were not fit to have children, and the couple often made a lot of trouble for this matter.
Friends and husbands because of the failure of the early investment, now still owe a part of the money, and the in-laws are not very good, the husband is an only child, so the pressure on the couple is still very large.
Friends and couples are in their thirties, looking at the people around them as parents, saying that it is false not to envy, but combined with their own actual situation, friends still feel that it is not suitable to have children, and friends and husbands feel: in the past, people's conditions were so bad, children should also be born, and even suspect that friends just don't want to have children for themselves.
The friend felt very wronged, she really just considered the problem of having children from the economic point of view, thinking that now is not the best time to have children. In fact, from the perspective of people who have come here, I also agree with my friend's view.
Couples should consider these issues before having children
From an economic point of view, if you want to have children, you must figure out, what is the minimum economic standard for children?
Cost of pregnancy:
After pregnancy, a woman will decide whether she can continue to work according to the size of her pregnancy reaction, if the reaction is large, it may start to rest from pregnancy, until the child's birth before nutrition, living expenses, examination fees, mortgages, car loans, etc., all the pressure will fall on the man alone.
Of course, it is not excluded that the baby will encounter any situation, and the pregnant woman may be hospitalized at any time. If the couple doesn't have any savings, or even foreign debt, where does the money for the children come from?
operating costs:
The cost of a vaginal birth is relatively low, the cost of caesarean section is almost tens of thousands, although people with medical insurance do not have to worry, but without medical insurance, the cost of production should be prepared at least 15,000-20,000.
Lactation costs:
After giving birth to a child, some mothers can breastfeed normally, if there is no breast milk or not enough, milk powder money is a big expense, simply with milk powder feeding, a month is almost 3000 or so.
Maintenance Costs:
Children's toys, books, snacks, early education classes, interest classes, etc., these costs are no specific numbers, many people feel that they have how much ability to raise children, but really after the birth of the child, you will find that the truth is not so simple.
Every parent wants to give their child the best life, and when they can't meet their children's needs because of economic conditions, as parents, that inner guilt is a lifetime.
Kojima would like to say:
Parents need to take on more responsibilities and obligations for their children, so before deciding to have children, we must consider well, do not want children on a whim, that is irresponsible to children and themselves.