For most people, love wants to blossom. But the ideal is often very full, and the reality is really bone. Many couples whose feelings seem indestructible are actually not so strong, perhaps because of the small things in life, or because of the disagreement of the three views, or because one of them thinks that you will not go, and the other thinks that you will not leave...
Next, let's get straight to the point and talk about how you can talk about a relationship without breaking up:
1. Don't overexert each other's patience. I have also said before that one of the necessary conditions for long-term love is [patience], long-term love is like a protracted battle, in addition to weapons and equipment, the most important point is patience.
Many people think that the other party tolerates me and accommodates me everywhere, and will not easily leave me. But when the patience of the other party is exhausted by you, tolerance and accommodation become worthless.
When we fall in love with a person, we must pay attention to the scale, rather than doing things indiscriminately and repeatedly challenging each other's bottom line. Everyone's patience actually has limits, and when one day you touch the bottom line that the other person can't stand, the other person may be explosive towards you. Therefore, learn to replace "step by step" with "retreat as advance".
2. Don't be cold, and don't continue to be cold and violent. Many girls have a common disease, that is, I am in love with you, you must be right for me, tolerate me, coax me, love me, and take care of my emotions. In the relationship, the most feared "rightful" love is not a matter of one person, but two people tolerate each other, run in, give in, communicate and communicate.
The atmosphere of love should be relaxed and pleasant, and when encountering any matter and contradiction, it should also be timely communication and resolution. Cold war and cold violence are emotional abuses, which not only cannot solve the problem, but also escalate contradictions and disputes. Over time, one does not say, one does not coax; or one says, one does not listen, and what awaits you will be a breakup.
3. Know how to serve each other softly and take turns bowing your head. The stronger you are, the easier it is to lose each other, and falling in love must conform to human nature. To use a simple analogy, if you encounter contradictions and disputes in your life, every time you bow your head, how will you feel? Bow your head again and again, and disappoint again and again. Blindly stubborn and strong, will only make the other party more and more tired of you, more and more impatient, couples bow to each other, in order to enhance the intimate relationship.
4. Love is a journey of growth and progress for two people. Love is like a weight on both ends of the scale, not evenly matched at first, but at least almost the same. Don't think that when you are in love, you can not pay attention to your own image and growth, when one day the balance of love tilts too much, you are different in all aspects of the level and cognition, contradictions and differences are more and more, breakup is a one-sentence thing.