Text: Cradle of Love
Use the simplest words to give you warmth, give you companionship, lead you to grow, and help you be strong.
Although it is said that "suffering losses is a blessing", we must not be treated as fools by others, allowing others to bully and step on.
Everything should be mastered, otherwise it is too late.
Kindness is a fine tradition, character, and quality, but it should also have a degree and retain its own bottom line.
Excessive kindness is weakness, only to be used and oppressed, unprincipled benevolence, is cruelty to oneself.
Beware that there is no boundary, it will only make the other party inch forward and become more intense.
In this world, there are always such people, who are particularly soft-hearted, like to think about others, and are willing to share for others.
A request from someone else, obviously can not do it, will also agree to it, reluctant to refuse, and embarrassed to refuse. In the end, you may have sacrificed a lot of things to make it reluctantly, but you are not appreciated and appreciated.
In interpersonal relationships, there are too many laborious and unflattering things, and they are single-minded and full of dedication, but they are treated as bullies by others.
Knowing how to refuse is not desperate and ruthless, but a kind of protection and love for oneself.
Don't be too soft-hearted, it is the best way to deal with the world, write to you who are soft-hearted, do not want to be treated as a fool, just remember these advices.
One: If you can't do it, you have to refuse.
There are always some people who are not good at rejecting and are not embarrassed to refuse.
As long as others ask for their own things, they will agree to it and do it with all their hearts and blood, even ignoring whether the other party is playing with themselves.
It turned out that there was a colleague named Xiaoli, who had a particularly weak personality and was often bullied by other colleagues.
Some colleagues, obviously the boss assigned him a task, but he handed it over to Xiaoli to help do. Kind Xiaoli, who never knows how to refuse, often exhausts herself as a result.
Other colleagues just smiled maliciously: "Thank you", and then turned around and left with the results.
If you can help with something that you can help, you can help, especially when others are in difficulty, and try to lend a helping hand as much as possible.
However, if the other party is deliberately bullying you and making you do something that is difficult to do, then you must know how to refuse.
If you are too soft-hearted, you will become a soft persimmon that others bully, and the more you talk, the more others will bully you.
Only by daring to pull down the face and dare to reject others can we truly win dignity and respect for ourselves.
Two: Intentional insults, remember to fight back.
In the vast world, there are really no wonders, and good people and bad people will have them.
On your side, there must be such a person who likes to step on you and always deliberately attack you, insult you, and ridicule you.
Even in front of you, they will say something ugly, deliberately making you sad, making you sad, and humiliating.
If you are too soft-hearted and embarrassed to hit back at him, then with the first time, there will be a second time, a third time, bullying and insulting you, will only become a family meal.
To be a person, you can't be too soft-hearted, too good to bully, and when it's time to fight back, you must fight back fiercely.
In the face of the intentional depreciation and insult of others, you must fight back on the spot, can not take care of his face, and swallow your own anger.
Only if he dares to fight back, he will not have the next time, and can he understand that you are not easy to mess with, let alone a good bully.
Dare to fight for your own face, so that you will not be stepped on by others, and not be treated as a fool by others.
Three: Forcing yourself to be strong is more important than anything else.
The capital that is really valued by others is still strong.
Many people may feel that as long as they are kind, as long as they are kind, they can be respected and loved, and they can be looked up to by others.
However, if you are not strong, your kindness is weakness, and no one will take you seriously, and you will only get endless bullying.
When you are strong and capable, your kindness is a quality, a cultivation, and even a kind of charity, and others will be grateful.
So, there's nothing stronger and more important than being yourself.
Kindness and softness of heart cannot be exchanged for respect, and only strong can make people impressed.
Don't be soft-hearted, be cruel to yourself, and force yourself to be strong, which will be the most important thing you should do.
When others are talking about wine, you have to work hard; when others are lazy to sleep, you have to work hard; when others deliberately use you, you must know how to refuse, and work hard wholeheartedly.
Hard work is the best investment in yourself, and it is also the best investment in the future.
To spare no effort is to create a beautiful rest of your life for yourself, to embrace the foundation of happiness.
There is equality between people, and no one is more noble than anyone else, and no one is inferior to anyone.
You in the great world are the best you are, and you cannot doubt yourself because of the denial of others; you cannot hurt yourself because of the bullying of others.
When others treat you as a fool and bully you, you must learn to stand up and fight back, and at the same time know how to constantly strengthen yourself.
If you want others to respect you, you must respect yourself, look up to yourself, maintain your own bottom line and principles, and dare not to put others in your eyes.
As a person, the heart cannot be too soft, nor can it bring humility.
Sometimes, putting yourself first is not selfishness, but the best protection for yourself.
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Author: Love to read, love to write, love to think, dare to love and dare to hate the northern girl. A freelance writer, an emotional mentor who has helped countless people out of psychological difficulties.