Mischievous and mischievous, you have to use the game force routine

There's a very popular book in the parenting world, from Laurenskorn's The Power of Play, which is a book that I've benefited greatly from.

Written, there is no need to preach, but with a playful mentality, you can let the child quickly and well complete the things you want them to cooperate with.

In reality, many parents will feel too busy, no time to play games, quick decisions, or they will not use it. How can it be used?

To truly understand the child and enter the child's heart, you need to use the child's language, and the game is the bridge of communication.

Sometimes the clever use of the game can also be used to solve the problem better than drying and enforcing.

The following is to share with you are the games I practiced according to the idea of the book "Game Force", and Little D personally tested to deal with her "stinky temper" effectively.

How?

1, when the child is too excited

When children are too excited, they usually scream loudly, and from time to time they will pat the table and knock on toys...

Many people's first reaction is, "Don't bark, don't go crazy, don't knock on toys." ”

But it often doesn't work, and sometimes it is counterproductive, and it ends with children crying and adults getting angry.

When Little D appeared in such a situation, I knew that it was the "flood power" in her body that needed to be vented.

In addition to taking her outside to play, I would play pillow wars with her at home, pile up lots and lots of pillows on her play mats, sometimes bury her underneath, sometimes let her go over pillow hills, sometimes we threw pillows at each other.

Until she was lying down tired while laughing, I would hold her and say to her,

"Have a good time, but sometimes we get too excited and need to calm down. Now you and your mom take a deep breath, relax, inhale ~ exhale ~ slowly, our body calms down ~"

I also take deep breaths with her when I hold Little D and show her how to calm her body. It's also a great way to teach her emotional management.

2. When the child is mischievous

When children make trouble, they often lack love, and they like to seek our attention through such mischief.

Many times, troublemakers are very fragile inside and will question whether they are really loved.

Therefore, when children are mischievous, first help them sort out their emotions, in order to stimulate the child's cooperative nature from the inside.

Scenario reproduction

I cooked in the kitchen and Little D played on his own game mat. (Everything would have been very priced)

After a while she started throwing toys, and I probed in the kitchen and said, "No, toys can't be thrown." ”

As soon as she finished saying this, she threw it even harder, not only throwing away all the toys she was playing with, but also going to the toy box and pulling out many, many toys and scattering them all over the floor.

I was just about to get mad when I suddenly thought of a different use of game power.

So, I hurriedly disposed of the kitchen, put aside the ingredients that were ready to be cooked, turned off the gas, washed my hands, and walked over.

I sat down with Little D and said, "Well, it looks like your hugs are running out, so let's cuddle!" ”

So I grabbed her into my arms and gave her a big, big bear hug tightly, and held her tightly and tightly until she began to laugh in my arms, laughing and struggling.

I hugged her and said, "Mom loves you so much, Mom loves to hug you, Mom wants to hold you like this forever, forever." ”

After letting go of his hand, Little D was very happy and happy, and then I said to Little D, "Mommy wants to cook for Little D, can you help clean up the toys?" Come and give Mom another hug. ”

After that, Little D co-ordinated (not all of it, but at least this awareness), and then a person played with the toy contentedly.

3, when the child has been working against us

This situation is actually very common for children after the age of 1, maybe just now you forced the child to complete something, and then he will not cooperate.

In fact, they are looking for a desire to control, which has been oppressed before, and now they have to resist.

Whenever Little D continued to confront me, I would pause the current situation, no longer forcing her to do anything, but inviting her to play games with me.

Little D has been working against me for a while since each time Little D has been recovering from big exercises.

Because she felt "incompetent" (and not yet able to fully control her body) when she recovered from the Great Movement, she needed to prove herself "strong" in other ways.

I played the big monster to catch Little D, followed her, sometimes climbed and sometimes walked, "I'm going to catch you, you can't escape." ”

Then, each time deliberately climbing very slowly, or getting tripped up a bit, "Oops, little D, you wait for me, I'm going to catch you." ”

At this time, she would stop and look at me, as if she was deliberately waiting for me and letting me go.

Properly showing my "incompetence" and making Little D feel that she is more "smart" and "powerful" than her mother is actually letting her find herself in control.

Or, pretend little D has a remote control and she can remotely control me, "Sleep! Get up! walk! Don't move! ”

I completely obeyed her password and cooperated with various movements.

And these also make Little D find his own sense of mastery, the more the child can feel that he is capable, the more difficult it is to fight with us.