Dictation: Nie Lina
Organizing: Ome Nishu
The video of the wedding that my nephew just sent, due to the closed management of the community during the epidemic, I could not go to the scene to personally give him blessings, which is a pity.
On the phone, I told him that after marriage, you are an adult, you must learn to be responsible and responsible, your wife is the person who accompanies you throughout your life, you must tolerate her and love her. "Fourth aunt, I know, I know!" Nephew replied.
On my nephew's happy day, I didn't want to talk about those sad past events, and after putting down the phone, I remembered my eldest sister who had been dead for twenty-five years, and my tears came out of my eyes.
My family has six brothers and sisters, and the eldest sister is the eldest. Due to the large number of children, coupled with the father's gambling addiction, the difficulty of the family life can be imagined, often people say that they were poor when they were young, a dress the boss wore the second oldest, but in my family often did not even have the ability to make a dress for the eldest sister, more is to wear the old clothes that relatives helped.
Such family conditions are also unable to support the cost of the eldest sister's schooling, so when she reaches the fourth grade of primary school, the eldest sister drops out of school and goes home to help her mother take care of her younger siblings and do some housework within her ability.
When I was about seven or eight years old, I won the first place in the class in the final exam of the school, and after taking the award home, my mother said to me: "You have grown up and have the ability, but you can't forget your eldest sister, you are your eldest sister who grew up on her back." ”
"Okay, when I earn money, I'll give her a hundred dollars." More than thirty years have passed, and that moment is still vividly remembered, a hundred dollars, which at that time seemed to me to be a huge amount of money. Unfortunately, the eldest sister did not wait for the day when I repaid her.
When the eldest sister was twenty years old, the third aunt of the neighboring village introduced her to an object, which was a village building handle, which may be with mud and throw bricks all day, and the body looks very strong. The eldest sister and he must have talked about marriage to the extent that they were married, because after a period of contact, the man often came to my house to help with the work and bought me a very beautiful pencil case.
During that time, the eldest sister's mood was also very good. Unexpectedly, after some days, a sudden news came that the man had killed someone, and it was her cousin, the eldest sister, and the relationship had come to an abrupt end. Later, listening to the third aunt said that the person and her cousin had an affair, and after getting along with the eldest sister, they wanted to get rid of the entanglement of the cousin, but the cousin did not spare, and eventually he hurt the killer.
The third aunt still apologized to her mother and said, "I really didn't know about this before, even the people in the village didn't know about it, and it was only spread after the killing." The mother did not blame the third aunt, and the eldest sister's first relationship ended like this, which also seemed to indicate the ups and downs of the eldest sister's marriage.
After some time, my father's sister and my great aunt introduced my eldest sister to a family affair, which was a family in the east of our village. The family's children's reputation in the village was not very good, and the mother and eldest sister were reluctant to do so, but the father was very insistent, because he was introduced by his eldest sister.
I have not understood this matter for many years, why my aunt has so much say in my family's affairs, every word my aunt says my father has never considered right or wrong, absolutely obedient. The parents had many conflicts over this, but the mother did not once beat the father.
This incident even deeply affected my marriage, and before I married my husband, I thought that if my eldest sister-in-law, like my great-aunt, always interfered in the affairs of my mother-in-law, I would rather choose divorce.
Fortunately, my eldest sister-in-law is a very sensible person, and we have been getting along very well for more than twenty years. Because of this family affair of the eldest sister, the big war that broke out again by my parents, the mother who has always been cowardly said harsh words, as long as I live, I will not let Xiaohui (the name of the eldest sister) marry into that family.
As a result, the high-blooded mother caused a cerebral hemorrhage after a heated argument with her father, and died before she was taken to the hospital.
Without the protection of her mother, under the control of her father and aunt, the eldest sister helplessly married.
Her nightmare began here. The man was drunk and violent, the eldest sister's body was often scarred, the eldest brother and the second brother had found his house and beat him up, he wrote a letter of guarantee that he would never commit it again, but after drinking, he had already thrown his assurance to the cloud of nine clouds.
In the summer when I was about ten years old, the eldest sister lifted her skirt for me to see, and I saw that the eldest sister's hips had almost become the color of eggplant, and in some places she had scabs. "He beat me up where I couldn't see people." The eldest sister cried.
At the time of that year's wheat harvest, the eldest sister found her father, who was threshing in the courtyard, and said, "I can't live with him, I must divorce him." At that time, the father was furious, and when he took the whip to drive the cattle on the side, he smoked the eldest sister and scolded in his mouth: "Divorce what marriage, you married the person of the family, and you will die on the door of his house, roll back." The eldest sister was pumped all over the ground, the eldest brother persuaded a few words, and was also whipped by the father.
In the blink of an eye for more than twenty years, my father has also passed away, and I have never understood why my father was so cruel to my eldest sister, could it be that I had gambled too much to repay my gambling debts, and I conspired with my aunt to send my eldest sister to the altar.
After the eldest sister went back, the time was not long, just after another domestic violence, she drank pesticides and died, only twenty-four years old, the nephew at that time was just eight months old, she did not even wait for the child to call a "mother", the eldest brother and the second brother made a personal accident in his family, but in any case, they could not change back the life of the eldest sister.
Now that the eldest sister's son has finally grown up and completed his own life events, the eldest sister should be relieved in another world. As the years passed, my father and aunt were old, and love and hatred turned into clouds of smoke, so let us be safe in the years!