In the face of children's mistakes, how should parents educate?
Parents with gentle personalities will choose language education and try to make children realize their mistakes through reasoning; while grumpy parents will directly choose to yell and even punish. The reason is simple: it is hoped that in such a harsh way, the impression of the child will be deepened so that he will no longer make mistakes.
In contrast, the latter's educational achievements are more "remarkable". The yelling of parents will make children become obedient and sensible in an instant, and they dare not make mistakes for a long time. For this reason, many parents are complacent, feel that they have found a good way to raise children, and have tried and tried.
As everyone knows, yelling is the next step in education, and the output value of harm is particularly large. Moreover, the child's obedience is temporary, because they have no ability to resist for the time being, nor dare to resist. Children also know how to judge the situation, and they know that if they resist at this time, they will be greeted with greater punishment from their parents. It is better to "pretend" to admit mistakes.
This is a typical "oral unconvinced", the child will bury all the resentment in the bottom of the heart. As they get older, one day they will completely erupt and have a strong argument with their parents. Of course, it is only for some children and cannot be generalized.
Why is the damage value of roaring education too great?
Injury one: Timidity
In the long-term yelling of parents, children will become timid and inferior, whether it is talking or doing things, they will be cautious, and there is a feeling of survival in the cracks. Because the child does not know whether the parents will roar in the next second, they can only live in a timid life.
Over time, the personality will also become timid, and may not even have the courage to speak loudly. More often, the child likes to be alone, he is too insecure, only alone, can make his heart become calm.
Hurt two: Likes to lie
Parents must not have imagined that children who have been yelled at for a long time have actually learned to lie and have not changed their teachings. In the end, it is to avoid being yelled at by parents, so they will lie again and again. Sadly, parents don't realize the reason, and they are still yelling and punishing because of lying.
In fact, lying is a vicious circle, a small lie, need more lies to make up. In the end, surely even the child does not know which of his words is true.
Harm Three: No opinion
Living in the roar of parents for a long time, children will not only be timid and cowardly, but also have inferiority. The final outcome is to become a child without opinion, to accept the yelling of parents, or to please. Subconsciously, I feel that as long as I listen carefully to my parents, I can avoid yelling and punishment.
In this way, the child's beautiful future will really be ruined in the education of parents. It is terrible to have no opinion, especially in the future work and life, there is not even the most basic idea, how to deal with unexpected things?
Injury Four: Mental decline
Always reprimanded, the child looks a little sluggish, even the language expression ability, is not very clear. All this stems from the fear in my heart, the fear that I will say the wrong thing. In the final analysis, it is because roaring education will affect the child's intellectual development.
Children of the same age, encouraged and affirmed by their parents, look forever sunny; children who are yelled at and punished are always sullen and not very smart.
Written at the end: I can't imagine that behind the roar, there will be so much harm hidden. I just want to say: there are many ways to make children obedient, why bury harm in their young minds?
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