Some parents ask, what should I do if my child is already emotional? The following four tips parents and friends should put up their ears to listen!
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Use words to help your child vent their emotions
Verbal expression is also a very important way to vent emotions. So when a person is angry, they will curse. What we have to do is let the child speak out about the unhappiness. Take the little girl mentioned in the case, when she is unhappy, the mother can ask: "Haven't you just been well?" Did something happen?" "Can you talk to your mother?" "Words like this, guide the child to express, it may be much better to say it, the key in this process also teaches the child, when there is an emotion, I can choose to say it." It's also a skill for dealing with emotions.
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Let your child build a stable social circle
If the child can have two or three close friends, there is nothing to say, some problems the child may not want to say to the parents, but can share with good friends. Partnership allows children to find a sense of belonging and identity. When children encounter some difficulties and setbacks, when they are emotional, interpersonal support in social partners can establish a sense of security for children and help children get out of emotional difficulties smoothly. Therefore, parents can ask their children more about who they like to play with, why, whether there are contradictions with their classmates, how to deal with them, and guide children to build interpersonal self-confidence.
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Bring your child to proper physical activity
Exercise can help children release stress, reduce the secretion of cortisol, and increase the secretion of dopamine and serotonin. So when we're not happy, we go out for a run, play ball, sweat, and then it's fine. Taking children to sports is also a rare parent-child time to spend with children wholeheartedly. A child told me that once he did not do well in the exam, and when he came home, his father did not say anything, so he took him out for a ride, and he came home tired and sweaty, and he found that he was in a good mood. Since then, their father-son relationship, which has been tense, has been greatly alleviated.
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Interpretation of the latest tax policy
Boys and girls alike should be allowed to cry. Some parents think that boys have tears and do not flick, and men cannot cry, which is actually not conducive to guiding children's emotional venting. In my counseling cases, most of them are boys, and most of them are boys who are emotional, such as hitting people, throwing things, and swearing. Is it related to the fact that in the process of raising boys, we have too few choices to vent our emotions to our children? Girls can shed tears, while boys can only drop things, the form is different, the essence is the same, it is to throw out the part that I don't want to accept.