Affected by gender characteristics, women are much more passive in the process of saving their feelings. Men and women show different emphases in the matter of saving their feelings. Women are easily dominated by their own emotional control in the process of redemption, while men are easily dominated by their own rational gain and loss control. Because this is caused by the inconsistency of the psychological motivations triggered by men and women in saving their love. Most women go to save men in order to keep the good feelings of love before, and most men decide to save women because losing women is not cost-effective for them. To put it simply, women are easily emotional in order to feel redeemed, and men are easy to calculate gains and losses in order to redeem themselves.
However, the successful redemption of a relationship or a marriage is not determined by the psychological motivation of men and women to save. This psychological motivation of men and women to redeem themselves will just push their lovers farther and farther. You will find that women due to their own emotions, in the process of redemption, repeatedly vent their emotions to men, resulting in men more intolerable women will only become more and more determined to leave; and men in the process of redemption are always bent on their own gains and losses, so in the process of redemption to constantly reason with women, argue about right and wrong, but let women have this man does not love me at all bad feelings, so women in the heart of the man more and more disgusted and hateful, and finally completely dead hearted to leave.
The psychological motivation of men and women to try to salvage will only push the salvage into the abyss of utter failure. Men can't stand women's repeated emotionalization in the redemption, and women also hate the rational gains and losses and calculations of men in the redemption. So, ultimately redeem the failure.
So, what do men and women who succeed in saving their loved ones do? Everyone's emotional breakup situation is different, and there are also many differences in the recovery process. But people who save success without exception have some of the same qualities, and today I will first talk to you about the three traits that women must retain in successfully saving men.
The first trait: self-confidence
In the redemption, the woman's confident attitude can make the man stop the negative interpretation of the woman in his heart. A woman's self-confidence is an effective rule for a man to listen to your inner voice.
Women at all times have to treat themselves as a pearl, even when saving their own men, only your confident mentality can make you shine brightly, in order to attract men again in the redemption to provide you with the right environment for you to shine, and men will also feel satisfied in this process that can make you shine, so that they are more willing to pay more for your feelings.
The most terrifying thing is that many women give priority to men as the shining pearl in the process of saving men, and make themselves the woman with a humble status, and a woman of humble status is completely unattractive to men, let alone attractive. This kind of love that comes and goes, men will not cherish it at all, men only like to experience the happy feeling of conquering women, even in the process of women saving men. There is no sense of conquest of redemption, men are dismissive.
The second trait: good at acceptance
Women who are good at acceptance can adapt to various new situations that arise in the redemption, adapt to changes, and accept all kinds of difficulties and negative emotions in the redemption. And women who are not willing to accept will only express their own demands strongly in the redemption, desperately vent negative emotions, become difficult to communicate, so that men can easily feel your full of resentment. If the expectations of women to reunite are disappointed, then the heart will inevitably breed more dissatisfaction and resentment, and men cannot accept women again, and can only avoid it.
Being receptive enables women to have an ability to maximize their emotional benefits and to discover good things in any environment. Even if things are not as women expect, women still think that things are likely to get better.
If a woman learns to be good at acceptance, then she can easily do the following three things in the process of redemption: 1. She will be brave enough to say "no". In the process of redemption, when encountering men who ask for tattoos to admit their mistakes, kneel down to write to ensure that even the unreasonable demands of committing illegal crimes can bravely say "no". 2, will not blindly pour all their efforts to kneel and lick. In the redemption, the more women do in order to save the time and energy of men, the more expectations women have in their hearts, even if some of the payment is unreasonable, they can stretch higher expectations, once the expectations are disappointed, women are prone to become grumpy and negative. Learning to be good at acceptance, women can reasonably control their own efforts in the process of redemption. 3, will tolerate the differences between each other. The woman in the redemption learns to accept the differences of men, but does not require blindly agreeing with any of men's views, but also tolerates the differences between the two, rather than blindly asking men to approve of themselves. Only when men do not have to always pay attention to their own need to be consistent with the woman's point of view, can men feel physically and mentally free, relaxed and happy, and be willing to accept emotional compounding.
The third trait: positive response
A woman's sincere positive response to a man from the heart can make a woman have the charm to attract men again. In the process of redemption, men judge whether the woman they once loved has made the appropriate changes to improve themselves in the relationship through the woman's positive response to anything, and then decide whether to reunite. Of course, the premise is that the woman's positive response in the redemption must be heartfelt and sincere; if it is only deliberately flattering and disguised happiness, it can only make the man feel your hypocrisy and contrivance again, and the man will not be willing to compound feelings.
Women must learn two important positive response skills in the process of redemption. The first is to learn to save good face for men. In the process of redemption, for the very embarrassing and very wrong and ugly things that men have done when they were with men before, don't casually take it out and say it, but also learn not to criticize men's shortcomings like before when they were together, ridicule men's shortcomings, and accuse men of not. The second is to learn to look at anything men do with a positive attitude. In the process of redemption, even if the man gives you a bad face the whole time, as long as you want to save it in your heart, then you should look at every thing the man does and says with a positive attitude. Every reply you make to him should be happy with every opportunity to meet, and that joy can make a man feel appreciated. A woman's happiness can light up a man's life. When men are with you, they all feel that their lives are lit up, full of vitality, so do you say that he will not be willing to reunite with you?