Many parents may be particularly distressed by the habit of their children, crying more and more when they are not satisfied, and even how to coax and roll are not good, and the more they coax, the more they feel like adding fuel to the fire, making parents physically and mentally tired and distressed. In fact, children crying is a normal emotional catharsis, the reason why it has evolved into such a bad habit is because parents did not use the correct method to solve it when they encountered children crying, and parents should have a correct understanding of their children's crying!
First of all, we need to know that in the beginning, the child cries not because of negative emotions, especially when the child is just born, it is just a survival instinct, such as the child is hungry, pulling and peeing and so on. At this time, the child's crying is only an appeal, a way for the child to express himself, and a bridge of communication with his parents.
Secondly, as the child grows up, the child begins to slowly have a sense of self-thinking, and many parents begin to have problems at this time. For example, if the child accidentally falls on the stool when walking, many parents want to coax the child to hurry up in order not to let the child cry, so they let the child hit the stool, and blame the stool for bumping the baby. At first glance, this seems to be a small means of coaxing children, but in fact, it is subtly reinforcing the child's self-centered thinking, and the mistakes are always someone else's. After the child gets bigger and bigger, so that the psychology of the self becomes stronger and stronger, crying has changed from a normal emotional catharsis to a means to achieve the end, so if parents find that the child's crying has become this nature, they must reflect on themselves.
So how do we react to the right way to cry in the face of children? First of all, crying when the child is young is generally a survival need, and it is good to meet him. After the child's self-awareness is getting stronger, if the child cries, the first thing to determine is the reason for the child's crying, rather than coming up to appease. See why your child is crying and rule out discomfort. If the child is not physically uncomfortable, it is basically emotional catharsis, parents and friends to leave the child catharsis, after comforting the child calm, communicate with the child the reason for crying, and then go to find a reasonable solution.