On a warm afternoon, the news of Deng Lun's suspected tax evasion rushed to the hot search, even if there were so many lessons from the past, Deng Lun still evaded taxes and evaded taxes, living up to the fans' love for him.
Seeing this news, Zhen Zhen was also very distressed, and I myself also liked Deng Lun, especially liked the timid and powerful Lun Lun in the "secret escape", and could not help but sigh: Why do you want to self-destruct your future!
This was followed by the ban on social accounts, the termination of cooperation between brands... I believe that the impact of this incident will continue to expand!
As the saying goes: when you are lucky, you will lose your whole life!
Fluke psychology is everywhere
Psychological research has shown that fluke psychology is the weakness of human nature, almost everyone has it, but whether it is dominated by fluke psychology depends on how self-control a person is!
In addition to celebrities evading taxes and evasion, we can also see the existence of many fluke psychology in life. For example: running red lights, drunk driving, not wearing masks during epidemic prevention, etc., these are all flukes.
And why would an adult have a fluke mentality? And why do some people, no matter what, strictly demand themselves?
Because their understanding of principles is different, their self-control ability is different, and their cultivation is different!
As parents, we must always remind ourselves: stick to the principles, do not take chances, and set a good example for our children. At the same time, we must also tell our children that although there are flukes in the world, we must not have a lucky heart when we are human.
After a few years, I hope that our children will never taste the evil consequences of luck.
Childhood tastes bad consequences
Only when the child has tasted the evil consequences of luck can he germinate the wisdom of self-control.
Think about when we were young, did we also do a lot of lucky things? Skipping class, cheating, lying... There's always a glimmer of hope: won't it be discovered, right? So I do it frequently.
Parents should pay attention to the fact that what we have to do is not to prevent the child's fluke psychology, but to let them go deep into it and experience the consequences of fluke.
For example, he plays every day, even if the exam is approaching, he is also lucky, do not review, many parents can not help but remind their children, give them a plan, let them follow the steps, but do this, the child will never know the fluke, how ridiculous.
Only when children can see that the achievements will not deceive people, and there will be no harvest without hard work, their fluke psychology will be broken, and self-discipline and self-control will emerge.
Some parents said, that the middle school entrance examination, the college entrance examination, I don't care if it is not good, let him not learn, the cost is too big. So why don't we start letting go from an early age? In the second grade of primary school, let the child get away with it once, is the price smaller?
Remember, there is no lesson that parents tell their children, children can learn, and the children have to fall on their own!
In this piece of fluke psychology, the sooner the child wrestles, the better!
There is a master in mind
The history books record a story of "Xu Heng does not eat pears".
Xu Heng was a famous thinker at the end of the Jin Dynasty and the beginning of the Yuan Dynasty, in the middle of summer one year, Xu Heng was passing through Henan, and the group was hot and thirsty, and happened to see a pear tree on the side of the road, so everyone went to pick pears to eat. Only Xu Heng was motionless.
Someone asked him, "Why don't you eat it?" The tree has no owner. ”
Xu Heng said: "Although the pear tree has no master, my heart has a master. ”
This is the self-discipline of the ancient Chinese, and it is also their lifelong pursuit of "gentlemen", which is also a manifestation of our Chinese, no religion, but faith.
Chinese's pursuit of a gentleman is a lifetime, a lifetime. Therefore, our children should also study the Analects, the History of History, and the various remarks and anecdotes of the sages early on, so that children can pursue something in their hearts from an early age. Let "being a gentleman" become an instinctive thing for children.
In the Analects of the Constitution, it is recorded that the Son: Cultivate oneself in order to reassure people. Later evolved into an idiom: self-cultivation.
What is said is that a person should cultivate his virtues so that those around him can be safe, and in general, the people can be happy.
How appropriate is it to contact celebrities about tax evasion and tax evasion, and taxation is taken from the people and used for the people. As small people, we all have to pay taxes in full, which is why we are cultivating ourselves and people, and doing a little bit of effort for the security of the country and the people.
When children have a pursuit in their hearts, when they aspire to be a gentleman, various laws and regulations are not a tight curse that imprisons them, but a stepping stone for their achievement.
The principle is worth
A 30-year-old graduate student, who evaded the ticket 480 times in more than a year and successfully saved 20,000 yuan, was criminally detained for suspected fraud after the incident. This is undoubtedly a fluke mentality, but you may say: Deng Lun has earned a lot of money, why should he evade taxes?
Luck psychology will never let anyone go because of a good life, nor will it leave us because of the constraints of life.
Tell the child that once you get what you don't deserve, you lose what you shouldn't lose; once you violate the principle, it kicks off.
Whether a person is worth anything depends on whether his principles are worth anything.
A person who adheres to principles, even if he has regrets in life, his conscience will not regret it; even if he is misunderstood, he will not panic, even if he encounters danger, he has a bottom in his heart; even if he makes concessions, the bottom line has always been there.
I remember the monthly examination in junior high school, the teacher was temporarily called away by the principal, then the classroom was not monitored, the students began to copy books, only a few students, even if there is no invigilator teacher, are also abiding by the rules of the examination, in the end, the test results came out, the class results are particularly good.
At the praise meeting, the teacher improvised the students who improved the most this time to come up to talk about the topic, and the result was that the lie was suddenly exposed!
I went home and told my mother about it as an interesting thing, and told my mother that in fact, they had copied other exams, but they had not been discovered.
My mother told me that no matter how much others "cheat", it should not be a reason for you to "cheat".
Since that day, I have been convinced that my perseverance has been meaningful.
When I grew up, I met a lot of people who were just as committed as I was. When others think, "No one sees anyway," we know that our conscience can see it.
When the child is on the verge of luck, the parent's words can sometimes be enlightened!
Zhen Zhen summed up
Feng Menglong said in the Chronicle of the States of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty: "The wise man does not take chances to succeed. ”
To succeed without relying on luck is a person with real wisdom. And the prevention of fluke psychology requires parents to lead by example from raising their children, one small thing after another, and imperceptibly pass it on to their children!
Not lucky, this is the pursuit of the Chinese nation for gentlemen, our cultural bottom line, but also the safety guarantee of children in the adult world in the future.
As a parent, it is your responsibility to root this concept in the hearts of your children!
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