Author: Pick-up
Under the epidemic situation,
Do what you can,
It was the biggest help.
There is a Weibo hot search a few days ago, I don't know if everyone has seen it.
Interior designer Mr. Zhang, originally from Changchun, Jilin Province, has been working in Beijing for 4 years and lives in the Guanhuayuan community in Changping District.
On the morning of April 22, Mr. Zhang and a construction worker explained the design details at the customer's home, and after returning to the company in the afternoon, he heard that one of the foremen of the company had been diagnosed, and the foreman had contact with the construction worker.
"The construction workers are close to each other, and I am a sub-close."
After hearing this news, Mr. Zhang began to think:
"If the construction worker is infected by the foreman, and then the construction worker infects me again, and I return to the community in this case, isn't that going to affect the whole community?"
So Mr. Zhang immediately decided: "I will not go home tonight." ”
On the morning of April 23, Mr. Zhang received a phone call and learned that the construction worker had been diagnosed.
"Then I'm a close connection."
Mr. Zhang quickly hid in the self-driving car, and then dialed the 12345 hotline to report to the street and the community, and informed Changping and Chaoyang that the phone did not stop in the morning.
After reporting on his situation, he stayed in the car and waited until he was picked up at 9 p.m.
During the period, he booked a KFC, he let the takeaway brother deliver to the side of the road, and after the takeaway brother left, he got out of the car to get it, and did not contact the brother at all.
Because he locked himself in the car and did not go anywhere, Mr. Zhang blocked the spread of the virus.
It is precisely because he chose not to return to the community where he lived, that no one in the whole community was infected, and Mr. Zhang exempted thousands of residents from the great quarantine.
After this matter was reported by the media, it caused a hot discussion on the Internet, and netizens praised it:
"This realization really has nothing to say."
"The quality is really high, and I ask myself if I can't do it."
"Such people deserve respect compared to refined egoists."
"Respectable, most people can't do that."
"He troubled himself, but saved thousands of residents of the community from the trouble."
"He didn't have to be like that because none of us did, but he chose to do that, and that's where he's better than us."
……
Mr. Zhang really deserves our admiration because he has a quality - prudence.
We all know "cautious independence", what is "cautious independence"?
It means that when a person is alone, even if there is no one to supervise, he can strictly demand himself, consciously abide by the moral code, and do not do anything against morality.
In real life, there is often such a phenomenon:
Pay attention to hygiene in front of everyone, spit on the ground when alone; obey traffic laws when there are policemen, run red lights once unattended; be courteous and courteous in your own familiar collective, and pick other people's melons and fruits at will in the wilderness...
Many of us are like this, going to and from work is different, day and night are different, some people are different, so they need to be "cautious and independent".
If a person is still able to be strict with himself and abide by morality when he is unsupervised and alone, we can call it "prudent independence."
Prudence and independence are a high personal quality.
So what is "prudence"? It means that some people, even most people, when they do not abide by morality or violate certain principles, they can still abide by morals and adhere to principles, clean themselves up and not go with the flow.
Compared with cautious independence, prudent publicity is more precious, because if prudential independence is a kind of self-restraint, then prudent publicity is a more difficult self-restraint.
Why is it harder? Le Pen said it best in The Ragged Crowd:
The mere fact that we are members of a group can take us several steps backwards on the ladder of civilization. We may be cultured individuals in isolation, but it is easy to become barbarians in the group.
Because in groups, everything is grouped.
People have a nature: the more private the environment, the more real people are; the lower the cost of making mistakes, the more likely people are to make mistakes.
An individual in a group is but one of many grains of sand that can be blown by the wind wherever it may be. ”
The reason why Prudential is more rare than Prudential is precisely this, and this is also where Mr. Zhang deserves our admiration.
When I was writing a manuscript the other day, I mentioned the matter of personal qualities.
Under what circumstances can best reflect a person's personal qualities? I think there are three situations that best reflect a person's personal qualities:
1. Will you stick to yourself when you're unsupervised?
2. Will you follow the crowd when everyone else is doing something immoral?
3. When you have to do something, do you consider minimizing the impact on the public?
With regard to the first case, I would like to give an example.
People's Daily published a story. My nephew followed a fisherman to fish in a certain sea.
Every time you cast a net, there is always a reward. But every time the net is pulled up, the fisherman will pick and choose and put most of the fish and shrimp back into the sea.
His nephew was puzzled: "It's hard to fight, why do you want to throw it back?" The fisherman said: "Fish and shrimp that meet the specified size can be caught." ”
His nephew said, "Now that there is no supervision, why bother!" The fisherman said: "Not everyone else has to supervise it." ”
What are personal qualities? That's personal quality.
When there is no one to supervise and no one to restrain, still insist on still adhering to morality, this quality is called "cautious independence".
In the second case, I will also give an example.
The writer "Yu Leak Chi" once told a story: "In the past, the snack street outside the university was really dirty. The stall owners littered and poured soup. As soon as the sun sun shines, there is a smell of the whole street.
But the only recent rice stall is an exception, his stainless steel plates are always sparkling, and the spice jar is so neat that not a speck of dirt can be seen. ”
When Yu Leak was late to eat, he saw the rice stall owner start washing the pot.
"I thought he would also splash the pot wash under the tree, but he actually took out a red trash can and carefully poured the water into it like an oil seller."
The bucket was bright red, but it turned pink because it was often brushed. The floor of this stall is so clean that you can hardly see a single grain of rice. ”
What are personal qualities? That's personal quality.
When everyone else is doing an immoral thing, but he does not choose to conform to the crowd, this quality is called "prudence".
In the third case, I will also give an example.
The photo above is a photo taken by Ms. Chen, a sister of China Eastern Airlines.
On that day, after a mother got on the plane, she sent a small gift bag to the passengers around her.
The bag contained earplugs and candy, as well as a small piece of paper. On the small piece of paper printed the following passage:
"Hello! I'm Wendy from Ningbo, I'm just a year and a half old, and it's not my first trip.
But my mother, who was alone with me, was still worried that my crying would disturb you, after all, the change in air pressure of the plane would make me feel very irritable. It's not a good kid to bother others in public, and I try to be quiet.
Here are earplugs and small sweets that hopefully alleviate your troubles. Wendy wishes you a pleasant journey. ”
What are personal qualities? That's personal quality.
When we have to do something, we think about minimizing our impact on the public, a quality called "kindness for the sake of others."
The History of the Yuan records a story.
At the time of the Song and Yuan dynasties, the world was in turmoil. Xu Heng, a scholar, passed through Heyang, and after a long journey, he was extremely thirsty.
It happened that the road encountered a pear tree, and everyone gathered around to pick pears, but Xu Heng was not moved.
When asked why he didn't pick it, Xu Heng replied, "How can I pick this pear if it is not my pear?" ”
The crowd sneered at his pedantry: "The chaotic pear has no owner!" Xu Heng replied, "Although the pear has no master, my heart has the Lord." ”
● When unsupervised, will you insist on yourself?
When everyone else is doing something immoral, will you follow the crowd?
When you have to do something, do you consider minimizing the impact on the public?
These three behaviors, like Xu Heng's, are not required to do so.
You can choose not to do it, but if you choose to do so, you are a little more noble than others.
This point of nobility is called quality.