When raising girls, dads often step on 3 traps and hope you don't take any of them.
There are daughters in the family, I believe that the fathers are very happy, what a sweet little cotton jacket! But on the way to raising their daughters, fathers will unconsciously step on the pit.
This article introduces you to 3 common parenting traps, interested parents, you can first like the collection, and then transfer this article to the father of the girl in need.
1. Adolescent fear
She usually has the best relationship with her father, but as she grows up, her father becomes more and more indifferent to her, usually rarely talks to her, avoids her in everything, and thinks that it is because she has grown up that her father has been estranged from herself, feels very sad, and does not want to grow up in her heart.
Dads will feel very uncomfortable when their daughters are adolescence, and they don't know how close they are to their daughters.
They don't dare to hug like before, and they won't have other ways to express love, they usually choose to stay away from their daughters for fear of causing misunderstandings, which will just make their daughters sad.
Girls will feel that they are out of their teenage years and become a young woman, and their father will suddenly become very cold, and they will mistakenly think that they have done something wrong, and their father will no longer love them, which will make them very painful.
Dads need to be clear: girls of any age need to know that dad cares about them. Although after entering puberty, girls have a lot more privacy and will no longer have to hug all day like before, but when they need their father, their father should not be absent, they are always the little girl who needs love.
2. The tragedy of the provider
Many fathers will use hard work to express their love for their daughters and provide a more prosperous life for their daughters, but leaving home to earn money means that they cannot accompany their daughters, which will make their daughters feel that their fathers do not care about her.
Psychological studies have shown that when a father eats dinner with his family at least 4 days a week, the probability that his daughter may become addicted to drugs will be greatly reduced. This fully shows that the company of the father can give the child a sense of existence and security, help them resist the temptations of the outside world, and guide them in the direction of life.
So, fathers, no matter how busy you are, you have to spare time to have dinner with your children, oh, after dinner, you can also talk with your children about life ideals, talk about philosophy, ask them whether there are any difficulties in life and learning, Jewish fathers do this, so Jews are particularly talented.
3, do not know the difference
Psychologists surveyed 3,000 fathers and asked them: What do daughters need from their fathers that is different from their sons? Only 1% of dads can answer this question. That is, 90% of fathers do not know what different care their daughters need to receive.
Compared with boys, girls need their fathers to be more good at listening, more respectful of them, understand their hearts, be their year-round friends, point out the direction for their lives, and become their life confidence.
When a daughter grows up, whether she can maintain a good relationship with her partner, the influence of her father is decisive.
If her father respects her, speaks softly to her, likes to be with her, and listens to her patiently, she will have higher requirements for her other half when she grows up, and will never accept scumbags. If the situation is the opposite, then the daughter will be more miserable when she grows up, and it is almost predictable to meet scumbags frequently.
In addition, the number one factor affecting the girl's self-confidence is also her relationship with her father, if the father can't do the above, the girl's self-confidence will be relatively low, the sense of self-identity will be low, and she will feel that she does not deserve a better life.
Zhen Zhen summed up
It is said that daughters are the little lovers of their fathers in their previous lives, and fathers must be full of joy in the face of their daughters, but in the process of growing up, there will always be some bumps and bumps, and fathers are also prone to fall into some parenting traps for adopting daughters because of gender differences.
I hope that the 3 points shared by you in this article can be helpful to fathers, and if mothers foresee these problems in advance, they can also remind fathers at any time to exchange for a better future for their daughters with good father-son relationships!
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