Jiayi is a student who has just been promoted to the first year of junior high school, and she has promised her parents that she will never fall in love early during school, and only focus on academics. Parents are naturally convinced of what their children say, and they have never worried too much about their children. But recently, my mother found that Jiayi's closet inexplicably had a few new clothes, which she thought was strange at the time, but she didn't think much about it.
One morning, After eating breakfast, I just went to get the T-shirt in the closet, found it missing, I turned it over anxiously, my mother stepped forward and asked her if she was looking for a blue T-shirt, Jiayi looked panicked and muttered, and later added that it was her at the same table, borrowed to wear it for a few days.
For several days in a row, new things will always appear in Jiayi's room, such as stationery, bracelets, etc. Mom always wanted to ask what was going on, but every time Jiayi would prevaricate.
Until a few days ago, Jiayi's mother was called to the school by the teacher to talk, which made her know that Jiayi had fallen in love early, and the extra things that had been added before were lovers bought by a boy for her. Suddenly, Jiayi's mother was angry that she couldn't do it, and she didn't have to explain to the child, and immediately threw a slap to the child, and immediately transferred the child without consulting Jiayi. After that, you can only think about it...
The class teacher reminds: Students who are in early love often buy these 3 things, and parents should pay attention.
1
Couples clothes
Couple outfits are the most obvious features between couples, which is also to prove the relationship between two people with outsiders, so as long as it is a couple, they will buy this kind of thing. However, middle school students can only wear school uniforms in school, and if they want to wear couples' clothes, they can only wear them secretly into the inside of their coats.
But as long as two people are in physical education class at the same time, they will definitely show their stuffing. Because as long as you exercise, you will sweat, the coat is taken off, and the clothes inside are the same, and the teacher will naturally see it at a glance.
2
Couple stationery
Stationery is a must-have for students and is something they use frequently. Therefore, if two people have early love, they will think of the other party when they buy anything, and naturally they will buy it for the other party.
In addition, buying toys for the other party will also symbolize that their feelings are good. But if in the class, two people have the same stationery, it will definitely cause the teacher's suspicion.
3
Couples bracelet
Middle school students' pockets are limited, and naturally they will not buy too expensive or too conspicuous things to give to the other party. In general, couple bracelets are the favorite gifts of girls, and most of them will also be used as gifts for love. Many students will think that they are well hidden, but their small actions cannot escape the teacher's eyes.
Early love for middle school students is not allowed by parents and schools, and if it is found that children have early love behavior, they must be ideologically educated. For the problem of early love, parents should not be too anxious, they should communicate with their children on an equal footing, and find ways to enlighten.
When parents find that their children are in love early, how should they be treated?
If you find your own child and just happen to buy the above 3 things, please do not use a simple and rude way to beat the child, so as not to stimulate the child's shame and anger, and run into a catastrophe.
In addition, parents should not look through their children's laptops or mobile phones.
As a teacher said: check your child's mobile phone a few times, and you will get a child who does not trust you, never tells you what is on his mind, does not want to be intimate with you, has to block you from sending a circle of friends, and will stay away from you when he grows up.
So, when it is found that the child has signs of early love, how should parents intervene correctly?
The hat of "early love" cannot be casually buttoned on the child
Children in adolescence are more rebellious in themselves, and their minds are more mature than when we were young, if they blindly rely on suppression, they will only make children more and more alienated from you and guard against you, and then you will know nothing.
For most children in adolescence, due to the maturity of sexual psychology, curiosity and want to approach the instincts of the opposite sex are very normal.
Therefore, when parents find that their children have signs of early love, the first thing to do is to calm their minds, and then find children to communicate well, listen to their children's ideas, let him know that parents are with him, and avoid casually putting the hat of "early love" on the child.
Early love, not a flood beast, is a green and precious fruit, rather than intercepting, it is better to channel!
Find early signs of love, blocking is better than thinning
Many parents who seem to have early love like a flood beast, when they find their children in early love, always can't help but have a stink or scolding, which is bound to strangle the "small flame" of early love in the cradle. As everyone knows, this can easily stimulate the child's shame and resentment, so as to do bad things.
Write at the end
Li Meijin once said:
Generally encounter this situation, as a parent to be smart, must not be deadlocked, do not look at each other to reprimand, eye to eye in general, the relationship will definitely be frozen, when you find the child's first love, it is recommended that you use the most traditional way to text communication, because at this time, writing a letter of affection is very effective.
One is to congratulate the child, you have grown up, I am glad that my child has been loved;
The second is to tell the child that in life, people have to go through several stages, and now you have reached this stage, although this stage is very happy and happy, it is also full of dangers, and what are the dangers, you tell the children one by one.
After the child reads your letter, she calmly sinks down and thinks calmly and makes a decision.
Early love often represents the gradual maturity of children's minds, their own ideas and opinions, their desire for freedom, and the urgent hope that parents and teachers will identify with themselves.
But at the age of learning, early love is not good after all, if the child has this idea, parents can find and stop in time, naturally it is best, pay attention to guide the child, let them make the right decision.
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