A happy childhood can heal a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood requires a lifetime to heal. A good start is half the battle. If everything is still too late, be sure to give your child a happy childhood.
What is happiness? Whenever we feel the joy of being loved and satisfied, we can't help but say that I am so happy! Happiness is divided into four dimensions: satisfaction, happiness, input, and meaning, and of course, each dimension has a sense of happiness.
Happiness makes people warm, happy, sunny, healthy and confident. And how cold, sad, gray and hard the unhappy childhood was.
The death of Liu Xuezhou, a family seeker, has left the world with too much to think about. An underage child is looking for love and cannot choose to end his beautiful years. Much of his vulnerability comes from childhood misfortunes. How unfortunate his childhood was, when he was a baby (three months old), he was sold by his cruel parents for money, and at the age of four, he lost his adoptive parents due to an accident. A child who has no parents to love, his childhood is so gray. The lack of love from parents and mothers, the lack of affirmation and attention from parents and mothers, makes him feel that he is "born light", this kind of neglect, abandonment of loss and depression, this lack of absence, bullying, these problems produce low self-esteem, pessimism and depression, all the negative shadows are difficult to use the rest of their lives to heal and make up, especially throughout their lives in the search for love, depressed. Those unfortunate childhood times eventually cost young lives and could not be cured, and the child who had tried to shine passed away, making people cry. Determined to give the child a happy and beautiful childhood.
So how can we give children a happy childhood, and what kind of childhood can be considered happy? That is to do: "three more".
The first is how much love. In a child's childhood, love is the most indispensable thing. Love children, love yourself, love family... Let the child grow up in the big environment of love. Such a child will not only be loved and happy, but also learn the ability to love others.
The second is to pay more attention. High-quality companionship and attention to children are the source of a child's happiness. You can be busy with work and have no time to accompany your child, but whenever you have some time to accompany your child, you will accompany your child wholeheartedly, interact with your child more, invest in your child's role, and be your child's friend, teacher, and good partner. Let the child feel the warmth and attention, which invisibly improves the child's self-confidence and optimistic mood.
Finally, more affirmations. Think more about the problem, don't always look at things from the perspective of adults. Just like there was once a child who took a bite of every apple, adults will think how this child is so wasteful, so ignorant, they all bite for themselves, will be particularly angry, and even angry, feel that they have raised a white-eyed wolf, in fact, this child is just to pick out the best and sweetest for mom and dad, there is no selfish and wasteful little careful thinking. Therefore, parents should learn to affirm their children's behavior and build a strong sense of confidence and security for their children.
Let the child have light in his eyes and the sun in his heart. Thus having a strong sense of security and independent self-confidence. Even if the parents are not around, they can be strong enough to be optimistic and confident that "I am born to be useful".