Text/Little Snow Mom
Parenting a child is a very hard thing, and mothers thought that the child could kick the breath at birth, but they did not expect that there was a more painful thing, that is, the "lactation period", which is not physically tired, but more from the heart tiredness, especially from their recent close people.
I once saw a video on the Internet, at two o'clock in the middle of the night, the husband was eating at the dinner table, holding a mobile phone to shoot the mother who was holding the child, muttering "the tigress has started to make trouble again."
Bao Mom dressed up in pajamas, holding the child in her arms, the face of fatigue, the mood is not good, the husband does not help on the side, and there is leisure to make a video to make fun of, so angry that Bao Mom threw the slippers into the husband's bowl.
The husband probably wanted to photograph his wife's angry look, and while filming, he said angrily: "This woman has a big temper and kicked her shoes into my bowl", bao mom is also too tired to make a noise, and turns around and does not want to take care of her wife.
At first glance, this scene is very interesting, but in fact, this is a true portrayal of how many bao mothers live after giving birth, originally with children are very tired, the closest people around not only do not help, but also a variety of cold words, it is no wonder that some bao moms are more and more "depressed" after childbirth.
Why is Bao Mom's temper more grumpy after giving birth?
There was a time when someone on the Internet took such a video, in the morning the daughter-in-law carried the child into the bedroom, first opened the curtains, and then lifted the quilt of the husband who was sleeping in bed, to which the husband was still sighing, indicating that the postpartum woman could not afford to provoke.
It seems that everyone has a consensus, that is, the nursing mother has a very bad temper and breaks out at every turn, especially to see the husband's various unpleasant eyes, what is the cause?
First, caused by postpartum hormonal changes
During the lactation period, the hormone secretion in the mother is unbalanced, the emotional fluctuations of the mother during breastfeeding will be relatively large, anxiety, worry, anger and other emotions may appear, plus some stimuli from the outside world, so it is easy to make small emotions during the breastfeeding period, which is a normal situation.
Second, taking care of the child is too tiring
How tired it is to take care of the child, the mother who has experienced it can understand, stay up late to breastfeed, take the baby every day, the time is not good for the mother to rest, the body and spirit are very tired, plus it is the first time to be a mother, for the identity of the conversion is not adaptable, so the mood of the initial heart fluctuations are very normal.
Third, the husband does not help and does not understand
Many men always feel how tired they can be with children, and are they tired of working to make money? Usually, not only do not help to share, but also often say some cynical words, which is very harmful to Bao Ma. Taking a baby is actually a very hard thing, and it is not easier than working to make money.
And all day at home with the baby, away from friends away from society, the psychological impact on people is also very large, as the closest person to the mother, the attitude to the husband is very large.
During the wife's breastfeeding, the husband put an end to these things and do not touch them easily
Postpartum mother's mood fluctuations are very large, many mothers have a tendency to "depression" during breastfeeding, and the husband, as the closest person to his wife, is of great help to the emotional comfort of the mother.
First, say less about the wind and cool
If the husband has not experienced the hardships of taking a baby, he can take a child for a day or two to try it, and he will know what kind of state it is to take the baby, from breastfeeding to changing diapers to coaxing children, and the father who has experienced it knows what his wife has paid.
Usually say less cool words, less complain about how tired the two sentences with the baby are, should help share more, from the child's growth to accompany, to learn to change diapers, hold the child, to share the housework, these things within their power, do not throw to the wife, husband and wife need to understand each other to help each other, so that the family can be harmonious, the child can grow up healthy and happy.
Second, be considerate of your wife
Love between husband and wife is a very normal sexual position, but the postpartum mother is very hard, and it is with children and needs physical recovery, the husband should learn to understand the wife, it is best to seek the opinion of the wife, to avoid affecting the feelings of the husband and wife.
Third, put pressure on your wife
Now life is stressful, only rely on one person to make money a lot of times are eating the old money, so some husbands often urge their wives to go out to work early, in fact, it is not that the mother does not want to go out to work, but the child needs to be taken care of, its own emotions and state also need to be adjusted, the body has not fully recovered, otherwise it will leave trauma.
Therefore, during breastfeeding, Bao Dad should be more responsible, may face his wife's tantrums, and his heart is not happy, but think about his wife's efforts, understand more and be more tolerant, and give Bao Mom some time to grow.
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