It is said that a good mother is better than a good teacher. What is the meaning of life contained in the mother's "mother"? In fact, a good mother is three words.
The first word is: "Quiet"
Many mothers have sharp eyes, can see the three problems of the child at a glance, and immediately point out that they have repeatedly strengthened, and even said in front of more people that my child is what is not good.
Mothers should not move when they see the strengths and weaknesses of their children, do not panic, why? Because the child needs the mother to use good emotions to nurture and protect, only when the mother sees the child's advantages and disadvantages are silent, can the child's inner growth motivation be given.
The mother's emotional instability The whole family will churn, the child is living in the mother's boat, a little movement will affect the child, destroy the child's internal homeostasis, the child just to calm their inner tension will consume a lot of psychological energy, how much psychological energy can be left with days of learning for self-growth?
The second word is: "weak"
Mothers learn to show "weakness" in front of their children. It is difficult for a strong mother's child to be confident, and the child's self-confidence will weaken a little bit in your state.
A mother who can show weakness in front of her child must be confident and strong in her child's heart.
Learning to show weakness in front of the child is to realize the child's support, the mother who occupies the upper hand of the child everywhere, the child only stands down, and finally is willing to stand down, there is no little competition, there is no motivation, the extreme will pursue rebellion, destructiveness to complete the deformity of the self.
The third word is: "Kindness"
The true strength of a mother is her kindness, tenderness, warmth, gentleness.
Husband and wife, uncle, concubine, a big family are harmonious and harmonious because of you, making people feel the acceptance of the sea, and it is spectacular and untouchable. This is the broad world of children's growth, such a mother image is the rule, and words are the direction.
On the contrary, the mother who points fingers and feet in front of the child, either shouting in her voice or nagging with her face, will make the child slowly feel that there is no place in the world that is comfortable and interesting, the child will lose the direction of the heart, and the mother will not have any guidance ability and become more crazy.
Sima Guang said: "Those who become mothers do not suffer from unkindness, but from knowing love and not knowing how to teach." ”
Today's mothers are less and less able to be "kind". Psychology tells us that children's problems are mainly emotional problems, and poor learning is because of negative emotional distress, rarely because of intelligence.
Parents' inner anxiety and impetuosity, more terrible than children have learning problems, only when children are calm, it is possible to absorb, precipitate, rational thinking, in order to have foresight, insight, discovery, creation, in order to be truly excellent!
As a mother, remember that ensuring emotional peace is the greatest education for your child.
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