Kindness comes from filial piety
"Pan-love for the multitude" refers to the extensive and extensive love of all people and things. This "multitude" does not only refer to people, but all people, things, and things we should love and care for. What is love? The traditional character for love is "love", one heart in the middle, one on the outside, and the need to feel the other party with the heart is love. Love is not controlling the other person, not asking the other person to follow your direction, if you force the other person to listen to you, it becomes control, and it is desire rather than love. Therefore, we must put ourselves in the shoes of others in order to feel and like the love of others and the return of love.
We teach our children to have a loving heart, starting with the love of their closest parents. He knows how to love his parents so that he can continue to extend this love outward. Mengfuzi has a very important teaching: "Kiss and be kind to the people, and be kind to the people and love things." "We must start from our dearest parents to love and care, and then extend to love other people's parents, love other people's children, and love the people, and then continue to extend from loving people to loving all things, including animals, plants, and minerals." As long as we follow this order, the child's love will continue to expand.
When the child understands filial piety, he must further tell him, "Do things to the fathers, as the fathers, and do things to the brothers, as the brothers", he will know how to respect all the elders. Also tell the child that all the elders absolutely do not want their children to be hurt, just like if you are hurt, the parents will be very sad, other children are hurt, his parents are also sad, so we should not bully other children.
To further guide children, people from all walks of life should be respected, because the social state is a body of mutual assistance. It is important for children to understand this idea, because under utilitarianism, people's ideas may be biased, and they will measure value with money instead of services, so that people's hearts will be distorted. We must tell our children from an early age to respect the service of various industries, and there is no distinction between noble and lowly occupations.
When I was teaching, I drove out at six o'clock in the morning, the road was very neat and clean, where did the leaves go? It is environmental protection workers who start cleaning at four or five o'clock in the morning. I told the students: "We have a clean environment today, so that we are in a happy mood to come to work and study, which is the effort of many people, so we must face people from all walks of life, we must have a grateful attitude." "When the child can receive this, when he goes to the store or bookstore, he will greet the service staff kindly and thank the person.
We must also give care and affection to some special groups of people, such as homeless people, widows, widows, lonely and sick people. Widows refer to widows, widows are widows, orphans have no parents, there are no children, waste is crippled, illness is sick, these are relatively weak and incompetent people, we must make these people can get the care of society. Now there are also many social welfare groups to take care of these groups, and when we have leisure time, we can also volunteer and serve these groups. If you don't have time, you can have money to pay for it, and you can have things to pay for.
In doing good, we will improve our benevolence, and on the other hand, we can truly understand many unknown things in society. When we take our children to do good deeds together, we will nurture the children's benevolent hearts. But the premise of our good deeds is that we must take good care of the family first, otherwise the family will be a mess and there may be side effects. It is necessary to cultivate oneself first and then the Qi family, and then the Qi family can exert influence to govern the country and the world, and this order should be treated with caution.