Parents are the number one fate of children (parents must read)!

Everyone knows that character determines destiny. So, what is character?

Modern psychology says that personality is the epitome of important relationships in our childhood. In other words, personality is what kind of family you meet, especially — what kind of parents you meet.

Therefore, modern psychology has repeatedly emphasized that what kind of interpersonal relationships parents and other caregivers build with their children is the absolute core of raising children, and everything else is a trivial matter. For example, if parents are anxious to cultivate their children's skills and are too harsh on their children, resulting in a bad parent-child relationship, this is the end of the line.

Good parents will lay this seed for their children in their childhood:

In the child's relationship with the parents, the child can be himself.

Bad parents make two mistakes:

1. Serious neglect of the child, resulting in the child's lack of confidence in establishing and maintaining interpersonal relationships;

Second, attach importance to relationships, but require children to listen to adults, and this destroys the child's journey towards being his own.

Parents in the past, these two problems will be made, now Chinese parents, the first mistake is relatively light, but the second mistake, is still very common, obedient education, or the core of Chinese education.

In short, we need to give our children the double satisfaction of love and freedom. Don't control your child with love, let your child learn to grow up on his own.

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Only by being with parents who respect their children can they be strong at heart

A little boy has been obsessed with playing With Barbie dolls since he was 5 years old, but he himself knows that this is not a hobby to speak of.

Hundreds of dolls painstakingly collected, and new clothes tailored and sewn by hand, can only be hidden in the dark closet.

When the mother noticed her son's preferences, she did not make accusations, but chose to respect.

Not only that, the mother will drive her son to the wedding dress street every week to accompany her son to observe the style of the wedding dress.

As his son grew older, he sent his son to Paris as an exchange student, and then entered the prestigious Parsons School of Design.

In 2009, the white dress worn by former U.S. First Lady Michelle Obama at the presidential inaugural dinner was from the hand of the little boy who loved Barbie.

The little boy is now known as "The Light of Taiwan", and his name is Wu Jigang.

A child is not born with a completely blank mind, and the heavens have already given the child a blueprint for life. It is written on the child's talent and character, and what parents have to do is not to tamper with it, but to respect it.

Feng Tang wrote in the "Letter to His Daughter":

"Making soup is more important than writing poetry; your craft is more important than a man's; your hair and chest and waist and ass are more important than your face; being strong inside is more important than anything else."

The world is troubled, and it is difficult for everyone to really stay out of it.

However, if a person often judges himself by external standards, others praise him triumphantly; others accuse him of being sad, and that person's heart must be fragile.

Truly powerful people do not like things, do not grieve with themselves, and the color of the world depends on the beliefs of the heart.

This strength is not innate, but grows with the respect of parents.

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Being with parents who trust their children is full of strength

Murphy's Law holds that if things have the potential to go bad, no matter how small the likelihood, it will always happen.

While Murphy's Law was repeatedly fulfilled, some people began to panic.

In fact, what makes things worse is not "Murphy's Law", but the little "doubt" that has long been buried in the heart.

The greatest enemy of mankind is yourself, and it is your negativity, doubts, panic and fear that point fingers at you in life.

Faith is the power of life.

A friend once told me such a story:

When her daughter was in the third grade, she suddenly became bored with school and asked why the child was reluctant to open her mouth. Later, it was because classmates always grabbed their own homework books.

The friend was relieved, thinking that it was just a small fight between children, and the daughter was too fussy.

The friend sent a WeChat message to the teacher the next day, and then the teacher said that he had criticized the students.

Later, my friend asked, "Is there anyone else robbing you of your homework?" ”

The daughter said "No. ”

But he still didn't like to go to school, and his academic performance plummeted.

Later, the daughter's friend told the truth: the few students who grabbed the homework were criticized by the teacher and became dissatisfied, and they joined forces with other classmates to "isolate" the daughter---- did not speak, did not approach, and did not respond.

The friend knew that after the heartache, asked the daughter why she did not tell her parents.

The daughter roared with red eyes, "I said they hated me!" You don't believe it at all, you just think it's a joke! ”

Faith sees the road, doubt sees darkness.

Trust, not what I did right you believe me, but what I did wrong, you will still believe me.

The trust of parents regardless of the premise is the source of strength for children to move forward. Even if the whole world blames me for existing, my parents will still use trust to build bridges for the cliffs behind me.

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Whether parents love each other or not determines the child's personality and life

When the child is born, this cute little life opens up a new world for us. Our love for our children seems to transcend everything.

The parent-child relationship also seems to slowly cover up other feelings and become the focus of life...

The relationship between husband and wife that cannot be ignored in the family is even more valuable in the environment in which the child grows up.

Not only because this is the destination of our emotions, but also because the relationship between husband and wife is good or bad, which affects the growth of children throughout their lives and is the root of all family harmony.

○ Parents love each other, and children will know more about love

There is a saying that is good: "The best love a father has for his child is to love his child's mother; a mother's best love for his child is to appreciate and respect the child's father." ”

Appreciation between husband and wife is a precious emotional moisturizer, which not only nourishes the child, but also makes him know how to appreciate others.

When a mother is loved by her husband, the charm of women naturally exudes the mother's praise for the greatness of the father, and the father naturally becomes the child's closest patron saint and a good example to learn.

This harmonious family relationship gradually formed a positive and sunny atmosphere. Such a child is not only optimistic, but also understands this expression of love, learns to appreciate life, and praises others.

○ Parents love each other, which is more conducive to children learning to interact with others

The family is like a mirror of children learning society, and the relationship between husband and wife is also a subtle "cultivation lesson" for children.

Couples who respect each other, children will naturally be polite, loving, optimistic and confident. When children grow up, the temperament and words and deeds cultivated from the inside out will exude positivity and friendliness, and they will be more likely to be close and respected.

The cold relationship between husband and wife is mostly accompanied by quarrels, cold wars, and even scolding. And the children who come out of such a family have suppressed too many negative emotions.