In today's children's education, school education alone is not enough, father and mother are the ones who affect the child's life.
In family education, both the father and the mother are indispensable, and which side is missing may cause an imbalance in the development of the child.
Therefore, parents should do their own roles, give their children the right guidance and support, and become the noble people in their children's lives.
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The pattern of the father determines how high the child can fly
Some psychologists have pointed out that before the child is 12 years old, he often regards his father as his idol, has a strong admiration for his father, and regards his father as a symbol of wisdom and strength. The child will subconsciously imitate the father's behavior. After the child matures mentally, he will also strive to reach or surpass the height of the father.
In fact, in family relations, the father is the idol of the child, and the pattern of the father usually determines the height that the future child can reach.
Under the care and illumination of the father's love, the child has a strong sense of security, and self-confidence, sunshine, dare to try, dare to break through, and has a higher upper limit.
Zeng Guofan's son, Zeng Jize. A good example is that Zeng Jize took his father as an example, learned from his father in his life and official work, and he entered the DPRK as an official, showing no less than his father's ability in political affairs.
In addition, unlike the mother's upbringing, the father rarely dotes on the child, but will point out a direction for the child to arrive on his own. Children have more space to play, can fully exercise the child's ability to stand on their own.
Therefore, the education of children by fathers is not considerate and caring for everything, but the education of determination to guide the direction.
A good father should set a good example for his children in terms of pattern and determination. This determines the height that the child will be able to reach in the future.
In family education, the most common thing we have is the absence of a father. Children who lack father's love at an early age often lack a sense of security, do not have a solid reliance around them, and will become inferior and anxious. Even if you grow up to be a strong adult, you can't get rid of this insecurity.
Children who grow up like this are afraid of failure, and it is easy to stick to the rules in their careers, dare not break through innovation, and dare not make new attempts. This usually restricts the development of his career, cannot break through the inherent situation, cannot open up new horizons, and seriously restricts the height that his personal career can reach.
Therefore, no matter how busy he is, the father must also take time to spend more time with the child. The father's care will make the child feel safe, feel that he has a strong enough backing, and will be generous, confident and confident in doing things, rather than being afraid of his hands and feet.
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The cultivation of the mother determines the character of the child
In family education, the mother plays an equally important role. The mother's unique gentleness and tolerance can make the child develop a soft character.
The mother's own cultivation often affects the character and personality of the child throughout life.
There is a very famous question: If a family had a pair of children, but only one education fund, who would you invest in?
Wise approach: vote for girls.
Because by educating a boy, you educate only one individual, and by educating a girl, you educate a family, you educate a nation, you educate a nation.
This is not a lie, because in a family, the mother's cultivation determines the character of the child.
In infancy, people's consciousness is still very simple, and their behavior habits are unstable. Psychologically, there is a unique attachment to the mother. The mother's behavior and ideological character can easily leave a deep imprint on the child's soul, and gradually form the concept or judgment of good and evil, true and false, good and bad, right and wrong. And these judgments and concepts will determine what kind of person the child becomes.
The mother's unique gentleness and tolerance can allow children to develop a generous way of dealing with others, such children are not sharp, and after stepping into society, they often have a strong ability to adapt.
Children affected by mothers, the degree of mental health after adulthood is also much higher than the average, career development, interpersonal relationships are relatively stable, not easy to appear violent changes.
As the famous educationalist Sukhomlinsky said in his book "Family Pedagogy":
"The source of a child's moral development lies in the wisdom, emotions and inner passion of the mother, and how a person becomes in his own moral development determines what kind of mother he has."
A person's character determines whether he can stand in society, whether he can get along well with people, and whether he does not make principled mistakes in the face of major issues of right and wrong.
Such a person is practical and stable in doing things, and may not have a particularly brilliant performance, but it is better than the endurance, and the road of life can go further!
We often say that strict fathers and mothers, mothers tend to be more gentle and generous to their children; fathers are often more severe, and feminine traits determine that mothers are often more tolerant and understanding and more patient in education; and male traits determine that fathers tend to be tougher, more authoritative, and more rational in education.
For example, children who grow up in single-parent families are generally more like boys if they are brought up by their fathers, and their temper is often more direct; if they are boys brought up by their mothers, they are generally more gentle and generous, more inclusive, and do not like to be aggressive.
Therefore, every father and mother must give full play to their own advantages in family education and give their children the best education where they are good at.
Only in this way can children develop in an all-round way, so that children can fly high or far, and have a successful and happy life!
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EDIT: Xiao Huang