Collapse, depression, selfishness, rebellion, anxiety...
These troubles even accompany people's lifelong problems,
It can be traced back to the time period of 3 to 6 years old.
How do children grow?
What does it take to connect with the world?
How parents seize this period,
Building the foundation for a happy life for children?
@Parents Must Read Parenting Science Applied Research Center
united
@Three Orange Media @Youku Parent-Child
For life education, together with 9 experts,
Around 15 children and their families,
On
"Sharing and Cooperation" "Resilience"
"Self-protection consciousness" and "autonomy"
"Empathy" "Parent-Child Trust"
6 themes,
Through a series of experiments,
Unlock the code of children's psychological development.
Topics in this issue
Parent-child trust
Do you trust your own children?
Do you think he's a kid who listens to orders and keeps his promises?
In the event of an accident,
Will he confess to you?
You will unknowingly,
Wrong or wronged children?
Accidentally blamed the child,
How do we make up for it?
Experts in this issue
Wang Sirui
Specialist in child education
Ph.D., Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences
Experiments in this issue
Defend the eggs
We asked the children to help protect the eggs on the table.
But in the process,
There will be various "accidents" specially set,
Let the egg disappear.
In the experiment,
Teacher Wang deliberately plays a strict teacher,
"Accountability" to children,
Criticized,
What will the children do?
And what will happen with Mom and Dad
What about sharing this?
It is the grievances that are unwilling to talk to mom and dad,
Feeling aggrieved in the face of parental questioning,
Looking for all kinds of reasons to defend yourself,
Still is
Even if misunderstood,
You can also get the trust of parents 100%.
……
The performance of parents in trusting their children,
And how will it affect children?
On the issue of parent-child trust,
I believe that in this episode,
You can find the answer.
Scan the QR code on the poster and take a look.
Expert reviews
Children lie,
What exactly went wrong?
Sometimes, parents will feel that because the child lies, he has lost his trust in the child, but as everyone knows, psychological research shows that it is the parent's distrust that causes the child to lie;
In addition, extremely harsh education by parents is likely to be the cause of children lying.
Parents may wish to ask themselves: We want our children to be honest, but in other places, do we trust our children and be honest with them?
The direction of punishment is wrong,
Stand with your child
When a child makes a mistake, parents are very concerned about whether I want to punish him, how I punish him, how I punish him not to hurt the trust between parents and children, how I do not leave a shadow on the child, but the direction is wrong, in fact, the remedy is more important than punishment.
When the child really calms down, I believe that every child will reflect on his mistakes, even if the adults do not educate him. At this time, parents and children form a united front to solve problems together, do not let children feel that you are always on top, point out my mistakes to educate me, but trust me and solve problems with me comrades-in-arms.
When we misunderstand the child,
Learn to make appropriate compensation
In daily life, if we misunderstand the child, it is necessary for parents to make up for it, in psychological research, there is a very important ethic, when you cause some negative things in the child, you have the responsibility to let the child recover, adults do not feel bad on the face, if you are reluctant to face, you destroy the trust between the child and the child.
The establishment of trust relationships is mutual,
Learn to grow with your child
Sometimes, parents always feel that we are adults, we want to educate children, do not know, parents will also see some things in the child that they did not realize before, such as innocence, such as unconditional trust in a person, these things can actually help parents to grow.
In the April issue of Parents' Must Read magazine, we had the honor of interviewing the family of Zhu Deen, the trumpeters at the opening ceremony of the Beijing Winter Olympics, and in the interview, Zhu Deen's father, Mr. Zhu Guang, said with emotion: "I am very grateful to my children for their 100% trust in me. I even felt that he trusted me far more than I trusted him. In the course of training, if he had any hesitation in my guidance, the end result would not have been the same as it is today. ”
It is this mutual trust between father and son that allows children to move forward firmly and grow rapidly, and finally present a scene that moves the world, so that the power of music reaches people's hearts.
Parents' Must Read magazine went on sale in April 2022