Successful tutoring is closely related to the verbal expression of parents, especially the tone of parents talking to children, which will be related to children's emotional intelligence, IQ, temperament, cultivation... Have a profound impact.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei said in the book "The Cultivation of Chinese":
What determines a child's life is not academic performance, but sound personality cultivation!
What should the right homeschooling be?
It is parents who should help their children build a good platform for life, so that children have a good personality cultivation, know how to be a person, and understand the true meaning of success. Only when parents' educational concepts have changed, can our children receive a good family education and benefit for life.
Successful tutoring stems from the relationship between parents and children, and the tone of voice affects the child's life.
1
A tone of trust
Children especially want to be trusted by adults, especially parents, so show full trust when speaking to children.
In fact, the child's potential is far beyond the imagination of the parents, if the parents can give the child full trust in time, the child will not first set limits on himself when he encounters anything. He will have enough confidence to overcome the difficulties along the way.
For example, if a child wants to learn to play badminton, you say in a trusting tone:
"Children, as long as you study hard and study seriously, you will definitely learn to play."
This invisibly gives the child a sense of self-confidence and makes him understand that only persistence can achieve success.
Let's use a sarcastic tone:
"You still want to play for three minutes like that?"
It will hurt a child's self-esteem and make him unconfident in his abilities.
2
Respectful tone
From the age of two or three, a child's sense of self begins to sprout, and this sense of self becomes stronger as you age. The child has some of his own opinions, indicating that the child knows his own strength and ability. When he puts forward his own different views and demands, don't think that he doesn't listen to you, is working against you, or even rudely opposing him.
If you ask your child to learn English, but he still wants to play with his friends again, you can't lose your temper:
"The older you get, the more disobedient you become, and it's not good to study, depending on what you can do when you grow up."
Doing so will only make the child more averse to learning. Should be in a respectful tone:
"Then you play a little longer, but when you're done, you must learn English."
The child accepted it.
3
The tone of the discussion
Every child has self-esteem. Ask your child to do something, use a negotiable tone, and let him understand that he is equal to you and that you respect him.
For example, if you want your child to clean up the toys that are littered on the floor, you could say:
"Baby, toys are littered, what a bad habit, can you clean up the toys with your mother?"
Never use a commanding tone:
"How did you do it, toys are littered, hurry up and pack them up!"
Otherwise, when the child listens to your rebuke, he will feel disgusted in his heart, and even if he does what you ask, he will not be happy.
4
The tone of praise
Every child has strengths, has a desire to perform, and discovering the child's strengths and appreciating them will make him more willing to perform. The child draws a picture, maybe the painting is not very good, but the child's enthusiasm and seriousness in painting are the biggest advantages.
When a child holds a picture to you, he cannot cope with a few words lightly:
"Draw well, practice well."
This will make children lose enthusiasm and confidence in drawing. His work should be affirmed in an appreciative tone:
"I can't imagine that my baby can draw so well, and if I continue to work hard, I will definitely draw better."
The child's desire for expression is satisfied, and with a happy emotional experience, he will be more interested in drawing.
5
Encouraging tone
It is impossible for a child to be free of fault. When a child does something wrong, do not blindly criticize and blame, but help him to learn lessons in his mistakes, accumulate experience, and encourage him to succeed again. For example, the child helped his mother to bring the rice bowl for the first time and fell to the ground and broke it.
You can't blame him:
"It's stupid to even hold a bowl unsteadily."
This will discourage the child's confidence and courage to try new things. An encouraging tone should be used:
"Accidentally broke the bowl, it doesn't matter, first try your fingers to burn it later."
In this way, it not only teaches the method of practice, but also gives the child the confidence to try again.
Parents need to provide a tolerant environment for their children to grow up, but no matter how much money you have, other people's babies are born to climb, and your baby will not be born to run. In the face of the topic of life growth, money is meaningless, and the responsibility and wisdom of parents are everything.
As long as we have the heart and the brain, we will surely find the happiest, most interesting and most optimized interactive games with the world, with the future, and with children. And all these efforts will allow us to harvest a high-quality life.
A child's emotional intelligence and IQ depend on the words and deeds of their parents, and raising a child who knows how to care for and respect others, integrity and honesty has always been a difficult task. But it's something we can all do, and there's no job that's more important and rewarding than it.
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