In ancient times, there was a story of "Mengmu Three Migrations".
In order to make Mencius have a truly good educational environment, Mencius's mother took pains to choose the living environment carefully and carefully, changing the place of residence three times before and after.
This story tells us a truth: the environment has a great impact on a person, and who to be with is really very important.
The environment affects the growth of children, and what kind of people the children are close to, what kind of road they will take.
Especially under the "double reduction" policy, education returns to the home and school.
The growth of children is inseparable from the joint efforts of parents and teachers.
Therefore, these three people closest to the child determine the direction of the child's life.
Mother's emotions
Determines the temperature of the child's heart
Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, once said: The meaning of motherhood is influence, and the influence on children is both innate implantation and acquired infiltration, and runs through every cell of the child's body.
Whatever the mother is, the child is.
And what is the best way to look like a mother? It's emotional stability.
Having an emotionally stable mother is not only the greatest well-being of the family, but also the greatest luck of the child.
Hu Shi wrote in the article "My Mother":
"My mother was very temperamental, good-natured, kind and gentlest, and never said a word that hurt people's feelings.
If I can learn the slightest good temper, if I can learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive and understand people, I have to thank my loving mother. ”
When he was young, Hu Shi lost his father, and the family became more and more decadent, and every day Chinese New Year's Eve, a large group of debt collectors would come to the house, but the mother's face did not see any resentment, but tried to give each debtor a little money, and then sent them away with a pleasant face.
Hu Shi also mentioned that the eldest sister-in-law and the second sister-in-law of the family did not understand things, but the mother never quarreled with them once.
It is precisely because of his mother's emotionally peaceful nature that in such a childhood, Hu Shi did not suffer any negative impact at all.
The mother is water, the moisturizer is silent, bringing the child a gentle and determined aura, which determines the temperature of the child's heart.
However, every mother is an ordinary person and has times when she is in a bad mood, please:
Calm and calm, do not move anger, do not complain, do not criticize.
No matter how difficult it is, please be sure to control your emotions in front of your child and let your child feel loved.
Being an emotionally stable mother is the best education for your child.
Father's pattern
Determines the height of the child's future
Research by John Gottman, a heavyweight psychologist in the United States, shows that the interaction between fathers and children can stimulate children's potential and predict the success or failure of children in academic performance and interpersonal communication in the future.
The father is a mountain, a benchmark and role model for the child, and has laid the pattern of the child's life.
The pattern of the father determines the future of the child.
In "My Father and Me", Xu Zheng's father is called Zhao Pingyang, who is an unreliable person in the eyes of others.
He always told others that the world would change drastically in the future.
But no one believed him, and not only that, but everyone laughed at him.
His career was not smooth and he was very depressed, but he was not pessimistic, but always hung up the mantra of "we want to do it, be the first duck that dares to go into the water".
In order to sell a batch of unsalable medicinal liquor in the pharmaceutical factory, he ran from place to place, cheered each other up with his children, and finally realized his dream of putting the products on TV and filmed the first advertisement in New China.
When the advertisement was broadcast on the TV station, Zhao Pingyang's son understood that as long as he dared to think and dare to do it, the idea may become a reality, and the dream can come true.
37 years later, his son became the chief designer of the world's second tallest building, the Shanghai Tower.
This is the pattern of fatherhood.
Some people say that the father is a big tree, and the child is the fruit of the tree.
Only large trees with deep roots and thick leaves will bear fruitful fruits.
In a family, the father's thoughts and concepts, the father's words and deeds, all determine the height that the child can reach in the future.
Psychologist Spencer said: "The father is the guide for the child to the outside world. ”
The teacher's sternness
Determines the speed of the child's progress
As the saying goes: If you do not teach, the father is at fault; if you do not teach strictly, the teacher is lazy.
Children need two kinds of nutrition in their growth, one is "discipline" and the other is "strict".
The discipline of parents puts children on the right track, while the strictness of teachers allows children to progress.
Shenzhen University has dismissed 317 graduate students, Guangzhou University has retired 72 graduate students, Tsinghua University has retired 2 doctoral students, Hefei University of Technology has retired 46 master's students...
These people have been dismissed for reasons other than that they have been overworked, have failed to pass grades, and have been absent from school for no reason.
Jade is not thoughtful, not a tool. Teachers let students go and do not strictly educate students, so why do students become talents?
As the saying goes, "If Tang Monk didn't tighten the curse, Sun Wukong would be a monkey all his life." In school education, if the teacher is not strict, it is not difficult to imagine what the student will become. ”
For the sake of children's well-being, teachers must be strictly educated.
Principal Zhang Guimei, the "model of the times", treats students very strictly.
Uniformly wear school uniforms, cut short hair in the ears, and prohibit any dressing.
At 5:30 a.m., she told her children to get up from dorm to dormitory, wash for no more than 5 minutes, and eat for no more than 10 minutes.
Books other than textbooks are not allowed in dormitories and classrooms, and are destroyed once they are discovered.
High school sophomores leave class at 11:30 p.m., and senior high school students can't leave class until after 12 p.m.
Principal Zhang Guimei said: "Today, I am not cruel to them. Tomorrow, society will be cruel to them. ”
Last year, 159 people from Huaping Women's High School took the college entrance examination, 150 people went to the undergraduate line, 70 people were admitted to one, and the rate of one book exceeded 44%, which is the 10th year that the comprehensive online rate of Huaping Women's High School in the 12 years since the establishment of the school ranked first in Lijiang City.
A harsh teacher who changes the fate of a group of children.
Only responsible teachers manage students, and the stricter they manage, the more they love.
Double subtraction, no reduction in liability
Parents support teachers, teachers support children
The Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education came into force on 1 January 2022.
This means that after the implementation of the double reduction, parents can no longer push the responsibility of education to the teacher, family education has since "law to follow", and parents must fulfill the responsibility of family education.
In fact, to achieve a child, you can't rely on teachers alone, nor can you rely on parents alone.
The successful education of children is inseparable from the joint efforts of parents and teachers.
An education expert once said: "Educating children is like rowing a boat, parents and teachers have an oar, only when both sides sit in their places and work hard together, can the ship of education carry children to a better future." ”
The best education is that parents support teachers, teachers support children, and children grow up healthily.
◆ Parents and teachers need a "united front".
In a long learning career, it is inevitable to encounter teachers criticizing children.
In this case, parents must understand that the teacher who is willing to discipline the child strictly is a good teacher who is truly responsible, and the teacher who manages the child the most strictly actually loves the child the most.
Less misunderstanding, more respect and tolerance.
Only in this way can parents and teachers be expected to unite the front and better guide children's growth.
◆ Parents should set a good example, and teachers should be good leaders.
Good parents are one with deeds and lead by example.
A good teacher is disciplined synchronously and strictly merciful.
On the road to educating children, parents should become the best example for their children and give their children the best example; teachers should not forget their original intentions, hold the ruler, and have light in their eyes, so that children do not deviate in the most restless and rebellious age.
Home-school cooperation is the most powerful synergy of education.
Harmony between home and school is the greatest luck of children.
The better the parents and teachers cooperate, the more successful the child's education will be.