The behavior habits of parents are the guidelines for children to do things.
It is said that the children of poor families have long been in charge, and children in the face of a poor life, and hard parents, will spontaneously have the attribute of understanding from the bottom of their hearts, and unconsciously undertake housework for their parents.
When parents see the changes in their children, they will feel very relieved and feel that their children really moved themselves. But is it really a good thing that children understand things too early?
My birthday wish is to have a cream cake
Mold was born in a not very wealthy family, mom and dad are not allowed to go out to work, leave mold in their hometown, handed over to grandma to take care of, but grandma is too old, the only thing to do is to cook mold.
Moreover, mold did not have a decent toy from childhood to adulthood, although the conditions of other families in this village are similar, but many children have the care of their mothers and have rag dolls to play with.
At the age of 3, mom and dad took advantage of the child's birthday to go home once and brought a small cream cake to mold. Although it is not worth much, it is already the best birthday gift in the eyes of mold.
Moldy eyes looked at this cake, and my mother asked her, do you like this cake? Mold nodded, looking at the child's innocent eyes, and the father asked again, what do you want for your birthday next year?
Mold said to Dad very seriously, I also want an identical cream cake! Dad's eyes are red, this cake that children in the city can eat every day, but in the eyes of his daughter is so precious, I am really sorry for the child!
The frugality of children, parents have to pay attention
Mold's request for cream cake looks like a little hungry cat's wish, but in fact it is not easy to understand her parents' money, of course, she knows that there are better things in the world, but she is worried that after she is greedy, she will be disappointed.
After all, she looks like this, her parents' company is almost zero, even if she comes home every New Year, her mother's attitude towards herself is very indifferent, as if she is not her own child.
And, by the time of his annual birthday, Mom and Dad only sold a very small cake back, wasn't it because they were stingy? On the surface, he said that he was worried that his child would not be able to eat, but in fact he was making excuses for himself.
After a long time, doesn't the child understand the careful thinking of parents? Therefore, in the face of his father's questions, Mold can only pretend that he is very sensible, so as to at least ensure that his parents will come back next year to spend his birthday with him.
Overly frugal parents are not "cutting doors" but "inferiority", and their children are also deeply affected
The accumulation of wealth is not about saving money, but about making money
As the saying goes, people who spend money will make money, and their over-inflated desire to consume will drive them to find ways to make money, and only when the two are in a state of balance can they get a comfortable life.
But nowadays, many families are putting the cart before the horse, and the wages earned every month must become the numbers of bank accounts to be at ease, and they dare not eat or drink.
When children bring up their desires, parents always treat them with a negative attitude, looking for reasons that are not reasons at all to prevaricate the child, such as this thing is unhealthy, this thing is played by childish ghosts.
Such parents see saving money as an ideal world, and the more frugal they are in life, the more secure they are, and the more satisfied they feel in their spiritual world. But the signal children receive is that they are becoming more and more autistic and pessimistic.
The price of informality is the shame of the child
Many parents will think that their children's clothes are not torn, not small, can be passed on forever, even if the clothes have been washed yellow, washed wrinkled, will not be put on the heart.
But such clothes will only make the child laugh at by other children, feeling that he is dressed shabbily and cannot play with himself. When the child came home and cried, the parents thought that the child was pretentious.
After such feedback children, after being wronged by the world outside, will not mention it to their parents, and even after forming the habit of shutting up their parents, the feelings between parents and children will also be seriously affected.
If the child has a bad habit of comparison, the hatred and incomprehension of the parents will be deeper. If the relationship between parents and children is not well channeled, the final outcome can only be more and more broken.
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