For those children who love to cry, their tears are like the days of June, and they will change anytime and anywhere because of their mood. The most distressing thing is that parents see their children crying and are really helpless.
Although parents don't like their children's crying behavior, it is a way for them to vent their emotions. Even if you don't like it, parents should not stop it, but let the child stop crying through reasonable guidance. Subconsciously, parents may think that the reason why their child loves to cry is that he is not strong enough, and his personality is mostly weak. In fact, this kind of thinking is somewhat one-sided and unfair to children.
There will be a clear difference between crying children and children who don't cry when they grow up
01 The ability to regulate emotions is different
Take world-class table tennis player Ai Fukuhara, for example, who undergoes rigorous training at a young age, and only she knows the hardships involved. In her words, she cried and trained all her childhood. When he grows up, in the face of pressure and failure on the court, Ai Fukuhara will still cry bitterly.
Some people may say "can't stand the pressure" for her behavior. On the contrary, crying will make her recover quickly and release all the bad emotions in her heart. All the previous stress and failure was gone in a cry. Next, we can face challenges and competition with a new attitude.
But those who often hide their emotions in their hearts and are unwilling to release them are even more worrying. When children are young, they seem to be strong and do not cry, but in fact, these bad emotions are suppressed. Even when they grow up, these children will lack emotional expression and are prone to psychological problems.
02 Empathy is different
In the field of hosting, He Jiong has always been known as "high emotional intelligence", and his empathy ability is obvious to all. Whenever he listened to his friends talk about things before, he would be touched by them and cry quietly. As a host, He Jiong should be the one who loves to cry the most. He's telling the people around him in his own way: I understand you.
Indeed, "crying" is because He Jiong put himself in it and felt the same feeling in the position of a small partner. This makes it easier to get closer to the people around you and more likely to empathize with others. Over the years, because of his high emotional intelligence and empathy, he has been recognized and liked by everyone around him.
Those who always feel that "it is not their own business" are indifferent to the tragic past events of others, and do not even have the slightest concern, indicating that they do not have empathy. It was found that empathy and high emotional intelligence are mutually reinforcing. In interpersonal relationships, the emotional intelligence of lack of empathy is not high.
Therefore, it is not a bad thing for children to cry. What matters is how parents guide them. At present, the most important thing is not to prevent children from crying, but to cultivate children's high emotional intelligence, teach children to learn to think differently, and control their emotions.
In educating crying children, parents should pay attention to three aspects
First, be more patient
In fact, children who like to cry are more sensitive and better at studying and discovering the emotions of those around them. Therefore, parents should be more patient when educating, especially pay attention to their own expressions and tone. Try not to cause "secondary harm" to your child. Parents' attitudes directly affect their educational effectiveness.
If parents are particularly harsh and keep scolding their children, I hope they don't cry anymore. Then, in the end, the child will cry more out of fear and timidity. If the parents are gentle and ask why softly, the child will feel warm and cared for and will not cry.
Second, encourage your child to cry
Since we know that crying people have better emotional control and empathy, why don't parents encourage their children to continue crying? Many times, the grievances and unfair treatment encountered need to be vented in time. Because children do not know how to control their emotions, only crying can relieve the inner pressure.
Quietly wait for the child to cry out, and then teach them how to control their emotions. What parents should do is to help their children understand different emotions and learn to release emotions at the right time and place.
Third, communicate with your child
At any time, parents should not forget to communicate with their children, which is the secret to maintaining a good parent-child relationship. There is no crying for no reason, so at this moment, the child needs release and help. As a parent, guide your child to say the reason and help your child solve it.
Only by releasing all these negative emotions can the child grow up healthy and stress-free. The point is that through communication, the feelings between parents and children are particularly good. Even in puberty, parents and children can talk like friends, which is very helpful for later education.
Parents should know that when the child is crying, it is the best time to cultivate emotional intelligence. The more the child cries, the more sensitive the mind is, and the easier it is to feel the emotional changes of the people around him. Parents should teach their children the secrets of managing their emotions and help them become more courageous. There are two sides to everything, and so do children who like to cry. Hopefully, parents will give them time and space to cry.
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