Quanzhou Anshen Psychological Hospital: Today we first put aside external factors and first interpret the relationship between school aversion and self-esteem from the child itself.
First, self-esteem is my overall assessment of self-worth, including belief in my own abilities and a range of emotions (e.g., pride, shame, complacency, despair) that tend to despise myself, indulge myself, or be timid, afraid to criticize, and avoid challenges. Low self-esteem also affects children's ability to face setbacks and solve problems, and even affects children's ability to adapt to school and society, which is a barometer of children's mental health.
Eight areas of self-esteem include learning ability, athletic ability, social acceptance, appearance and behavior, close friendships, romantic attraction, work ability, and overall self-worth.
In this historical torrent of education, which attaches great importance to education but fails to provide a good education, children have been shocked and reshaped like never before. If we insist on pursuing the root cause of why modern children are so bored with school, we should explore the reasons for the low sense of dignity of children's learning. In other words, a child's sense of self-esteem and self-efficacy in learning is insufficient. Inferiority.
Self-esteem has a big impact on a person's choices. In other words, self-esteem can act as a dynamic system, and self-esteem makes it easier to take care of itself and develop its potential. People with strong self-esteem tend to take care of themselves to achieve goals, while people with weak self-esteem feel that they will not achieve good results, and even if they have goals, it is difficult to achieve. So they often give up opportunities in adversity, lack flexibility, and it is difficult to insist on getting out of trouble in adversity. Even if people with low self-esteem and high self-esteem have the same goals, they often don't have enough motivation to do what they want to do.
So let's look at the psychology of children living in honeypots.
esteem. Do you think that a person learning under the supervision of a parent is the initial stage of self-esteem?
If modern children are on a par with our meager days, they are really materially rich. But if you're good at something, you can investigate how many children think that studying hard is a dignified life because they eat well and dress well. What shocks me these days is that a lot of our kids are confused. They don't know where their future is, why they have to study hard, why their parents force them not to go to tutoring classes.
It seems that in order to save that "face" and dignity, parents either really think that it is for their children, or only for the anxiety of "face" or "Lizi". In short, it is to be too enthusiastic and too concerned about other people's things that have nothing to do with themselves.
The children in the honeypot don't need honey, they don't need enthusiastic supervision, they don't need students to fill out homework and an educational environment for academic heroes. It is a free space, an opportunity for setbacks, and a high altitude when you want to fly. These are precisely the elements of self-esteem.
Let's look at the culprit of murdering children's self-esteem, "economic reason".
The pain and confusion of the adult does not belong to him alone, which undoubtedly accelerates the fluctuation and deterioration of the collective mentality of family members. The metropolis that the whole country yearns for, under the superficial prosperity and splendor, has quietly become a trough of happiness. The human mentality of "maximizing pleasure and minimizing suffering" is bound to materialize at the same time as maximizing income and expenditure. It really hits a child with perfect inner discernment.