Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: After puberty, children face many physical and psychological changes, mostly rebellious, sensitive and lack of emotional control and impulsivity.
Excessive rebellious psychology in children may be directly related to inappropriate parents and schooling methods in adolescence. If curiosity and curiosity are not satisfied, parents have high expectations of their children, and teachers in school do not respect, students' psychological feelings and experiences will cause psychological stress. When children can't find a suitable way to reduce stress, they will develop a rebellious psychology.
As parents, we need to understand their psychological characteristics, adapt to their physiological and psychological growth, and adjust their educational methods in time. In the face of your child's rebellion, you need to control your emotions and maintain a peaceful mind to communicate with your child.
First, first of all, you have to truly understand, respect, and trust your child. When you see some changes or abnormal behaviors of children, you do not have to shout or scold, otherwise it will aggravate the child's rebellious psychology and the gap between parents and children.
Second, we must respect the child's independence, give the child a certain degree of autonomy, and make peace with the child, so that the child's feelings can be truly communicated. In this state, children are more likely to be educated and guided.
Children need respect, desire independence, and want their parents to treat themselves as adults. Because they are psychologically immature and face many complex contradictions and confusions, they still hope to get spiritual understanding, support and protection from their teachers. Therefore, parents should change their roles, try to make friends with their children, listen to their children's ideas, communicate calmly, and give their children a proper communication space.