Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: Many people have a feeling that they can't sleep when they wake up in the middle of the night. With his eyes open, looking into the dark night, his heart was empty.
How to understand this emptiness?
Some visitors said that she slept very shallowly and was always easily awakened in the middle of the night, either dreaming or being susceptible to small sounds.
But her boyfriend slept next to her, and she slept soundly and could sleep all night.
The boyfriend also complains about this, because the boyfriend can fall asleep all at once when she holds her, so many times the boyfriend wants to get close.
But when she was alone, she often stayed up late and didn't want to sleep with her eyes closed. Be sure to play with your phone in bed. Weibo brush circle of friends. Sleepy to fall asleep.
Her boyfriend advised her to go to bed early. She found sleeping boring because she was lonely.
To some extent, brushing the mobile phone before going to bed is also to maintain contact with the outside world and avoid inner loneliness.
The most terrible cause of insomnia is deadly loneliness.
Parents who have adopted children know that many times, even if the baby is asleep and the mother is away for a while, the baby may wake up. If you wake up and don't see your mother, you will cry.
There is no despair without a response.
Whether the baby can sleep soundly is whether the baby is confident in the existence of the mother.
Babies cry at night, in addition to physical problems, more is not to feel the connection with the mother. Sometimes mom isn't there, sometimes mom is in a state of uncertainty.
Mother's heart seemed to be taken away by something, and she had her own trauma and pain. The baby was crying, my mom didn't respond, she didn't respond.
Some parents even use crying immunity to train their children to sleep.
When the child is tired of crying, and finally lets the body fall asleep without electricity, but the sleep experience of infancy is deeply engraved in our emotional memory, empty and terrible.
So people with insomnia try to keep their eyes open. When you stare at anything, it seems that you have established a relationship, even if it is boring.
Because loneliness is more terrible than death.