Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: Sometimes our parents often think that their children's problems are causing problems. In fact, "there is always a problem family behind a problem child", because the child's problem is often the result of long-term bad interaction of the family relationship model, so parents may need to pay attention to the following aspects.
1. Pay attention to the development of children's mental health.
2. Family education should be developed as far as possible in the direction of "democracy". It is necessary to understand the principle of "family shaping people", unconditionally respect and accept children, and allow and encourage children to express their feelings and thoughts. If something doesn't meet the expectations of mainstream culture, parents don't have to support it, but they need to express understanding within the specified range.
3. Parents should know what their children need in their hearts and what they need in their children's hearts. Are they confused?
4. Parents should pay attention to setting a "psychological boundary" for their children. If parents and children are too entangled, the child's footsteps will often stumble or even fall with the footsteps of the parents.
5. Parents need to develop tolerance and flexibility. When the child grows up, we can't look at the child's eyes consistently. We should encourage children as much as possible in the way of education, so that children can grow up inside and become cheerful and confident over time.
6. Help and accompany children to grow, not for the growth of children.
7. When educating children, "love" should be ahead of the curve. If parents like to say, "No matter how you are, as long as you have a healthy and happy life, we feel satisfied." "Children will unconsciously hope that their parents are satisfied, satisfied with everything, and willing to think in the good. Therefore, the treatment of children is "better relationship than education".