Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medicine Hall: Many mothers often worry about their children's cowardice. What they want to know is what causes their children to be afraid or even afraid. In addition, given the fear of children in different situations, how can parents help their children become brave?
When children are afraid of strangers: In general, children as young as 6 months old already know their mom and have developed an attachment relationship with their mom. By about 7 months, children will not only recognize strangers, but also fear strangers, especially men. In fact, this natural manifestation of "fear of strangers" is also part of the child's self-protection instinct.
Recommendation: Don't let your child stay at home all the time, take him out for a walk, contact different environments and different people, and create more opportunities for your child to contact more people. In addition, respect your child's feelings. Don't force your child to be close to a stranger, such as being hugged or kissed, and let your child communicate with people at a distance he feels safe.
When children are afraid of strange things: Sometimes things that children are afraid of are not worth fearing in the eyes of adults, such as a doll that shakes her head and sings, or even the appearance of a mother wearing sunglasses.
One study found that completely familiar and completely unfamiliar objects do not scare laboratory animals, but moderately unfamiliar objects cause the animals to be the most fearful, because familiar means safe, and completely unfamiliar objects do not attract attention because they do not understand. However, a moderate sense of strangeness can not only be recognized, but also different from previous experiences, which is the most likely to cause fear in children.
Tip: Let a thing grow familiar from the unfamiliar, so that the child is not afraid. For example, put the doll in the room, let the child slowly familiarize, and then let the doll make a sound, the child will not be afraid. Parents can also actively demonstrate playing with dolls, so that children know that dolls are not dangerous, and children will eliminate fear from their parents' attitudes.
When children are afraid of the dark: fear of the dark may be caused by different reasons: some sleep in separate rooms with their parents; some are afraid of monsters at night; it is also possible that children have experienced mental trauma and are afraid of the dark. Parents should take different measures according to different reasons.
Tip: If your child is afraid of the dark because they sleep in separate rooms with their parents, you can try to take a step-by-step approach, such as gradually shortening the time spent with your child before going to bed until you get used to it. In addition, parents should always tell their children how much they love him and give him a sense of security.