【Beauty play story】, light up the future of children with dreams!
Hello everyone, I'm Maco.
Some time ago, I revisited the TV series "Little Sheldon", in which Little Sheldon is a genius with a super high IQ, who directly jumped into high school at the age of 10.
His parents are very ordinary working-class, facing the "genius" children, the parents in life with amazing patience and wisdom, protect the little Sheldon, let him grow up according to his own trajectory, do what he likes to do.
Parents should be allies of their children
On the first day of high school, 9-year-old Sheldon used the school manual he had read in advance to sincerely point out that many classmates, even teachers, were violating school rules and offending teachers and classmates.
Teachers begged the principal to transfer Sheldon, and Sheldon's mother firmly defended her child's right to education when she learned that her child had been persuaded to leave the school for these reasons.
Influenced by personality and age factors, Sheldon was isolated at school.
Sheldon's mom is very concerned about his social situation and has always encouraged Sheldon to actively become friends with his classmates.
In order not to worry his mother, Sheldon tried to use the method of books to make friends, although he made a lot of jokes, but finally found Tan who also liked to study rockets, and the two became good friends.
Sheldon's mother was very pleased with this and invited Sheldon's good friends to dinner.
Sheldon's mother's education of him was mainly based on guidance. Although Sheldon had a higher IQ than his parents, he understood a wider level of knowledge than his parents.
However, in terms of human accidents, his cognition is slightly inferior to that of his peers, so the guidance of his parents is crucial to his growth.
Through his mother's guidance, Sheldon can take the initiative to meet new friends, feel the joy brought by friendship, and make him no longer lonely on his growth path.
Parents should respect their children's feelings
In daily life, empathy with children should be developed. For this topic, it is not a new word for parents.
In the play, in order to repay the money for repairing the refrigerator, Sheldon began to work and sell newspapers, and when he got up early every day, he could not help but complain in front of his family when he got very little return.
After hearing the child's complaints, the father did not tell him any big truth, but shared his day's work: being disciplined by the principal, being scolded by the parents, persuading him to be injured...
Dad told the child with personal experience: I understand the injustice and distress you have suffered, and the injustice you have encountered, I have also encountered, but I did not vent my emotions in front of my family after I returned home, because home is not a garbage dump for negative emotions, and we cannot vent our emotions to people who love us.
In daily life, many parents see their children angry, complaining, discouraged, and will only tell their children: complaining can't solve the problem, others have no temper, what kind of temper do you have...
But this is not for the child to reduce his pain, because the child can not empathize with what you say, he will only feel that you do not understand his pain.
And Sheldon's father told his own frustrated experience and feelings, so that the child found in the experience of the father that the original father had experienced these pains like me, and when faced with these pains, the father would be sad like me, and slowly guide the children out of the "pain" and understand the problem.
This is an effective paternity empathy. When communicating, the father attaches importance to the child's feelings, looks at the problem from the child's point of view, and then says that he has the same experience, telling about the unsmooth work, so as to resonate.
At the same time, Sheldon's mother also has great respect and understanding for him.
Mom was devout Catholic, but Sheldon didn't believe in God. When he asked his mother if he would be angry because he didn't believe in God, she replied:
The mother does not take the child's thoughts as a joke, nor does she use moral kidnapping to force the child to believe in the existence of God, but treats the child as an independent individual, respecting his ideas and choices.
The trust and respect of parents is an important key to Sheldon's healthy growth.
Respect your child's interests with patience
Once, the physics teacher invited a NASA researcher to introduce the children to spaceships and aerial explorations.
When he heard the researchers say that the rocket booster would fall into the sea after completing the boost task, Sheldon proposed that recovering the rocket booster could save a lot of money.
After listening, the researcher thought he was an ignorant child and casually prevaricating.
Such an attitude made Sheldon very angry.
So he consulted various sources, calculated the possibility and method of recovering rocket boosters, and sent research reports to researchers.
But the study was devastated and there was no response.
Sheldon's dad couldn't understand the scientific problems his children were talking about, but in order not to disappoint the children, he decided to drive 5 hours and take the children to the Houston Space Agency to find a researcher "theory."
After some "theory", the child's wish was finally granted.
Drive a few hours to another city for a child's seemingly unrealistic idea, just let the child validate his idea.
In real life, I'm sure few parents would do that.
But Sheldon's dad is willing to do this, and in the face of his child's wild dreams, he is willing to be less skeptical and confused, and more encouraged and respectful.
Not every child can score 100, but every child has the potential to realize their value in a certain field.
Children's love, like a "light of life", shines into reality and guides the way forward. In this process, what parents should do is to protect this "light of life", provide the necessary support and guidance, and motivate children to find the direction and value of life.
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